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Sexual narcissism involves ensuring personal pleasure and ignoring a partnerâs needs and desires. This selfish behavior is common in those with a narcissistic personality disorder, and also suggests that those suffering from it will have an inflated ego regarding their performances beneath the sheets. Their need for admiration and praise is what drives them in all aspects of life, but will tinge their romantic relationships with toxicity that can be tough to move on from.
How a narcissist behaves in the bedroom: 10 Things they do
The red flags never lie⊠If you are looking for confirmation that your partner suffers from this disorder, be sure to look out for these signs in the bedroom.
1) They manipulate their partners
Narcissists use sex as a weapon to get what they want, and are prepared to do whatever it takes to realize their desires. If their partners are unwilling to do something in the bedroom, they will become relentless and really crank up the pressure. Theyâre not averse to guilt-tripping their partners into doing things theyâd usually be uncomfortable with. From them, sex is just another element of control that they can use to fulfill their needs.
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2) They leave their partners feeling unfulfilled
Weâve already touched on it, but pleasuring their partner really isnât a narcissistâs priority, and this explains why sex with one is completely unsatisfying. Spending the night with one will leave you feeling dejected and, in some cases, could even lead you to question your self-worth. In the most serious cases, it could raise the subject of sexual abuse.
3) They gaslight in the bedroom and make people feel bad
In order to blackmail their lovers into doing exactly what they want, they wonât hesitate to accuse you of being needy when you evoke the subject of your own sexual pleasure. These talented liars have what it takes to make people believe that their incompatibility issues are solely their partnerâs fault.
The harsh truth is that in order to save face, theyâll never admit their portion of responsibility.
4) They boast about their sexual conquests
A sexual narcissist always needs to feel good about themselves. This means they wonât be shy when it comes to boasting about their experiences and how many people theyâve slept with, (yes, youâve guessed it, their number will no doubt be in the hundreds.) Although, because they are well-known fantasists and manipulators, itâs anybodyâs guess as to how truthful their claims are.
5) They can become abusive when they donât get what they want
When you refuse to obey the demands of a stroppy child, they will no doubt show off and make your life difficult for a while, well the same thing happens here too. When people arenât at their every beck and call in the bedroom, these abusive personalities will become angry, spiteful and even violent. They need to be in constant control and given what they desire whenever they desire it. If you refuse to try out the position theyâve been wanting to do, you can definitely expect to receive a barrage of hateâŠ
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6) They lack empathy
Donât expect them to be sympathetic towards you if you didnât enjoy your latest tryst, or even if you found it painful. The only thing you should be ready to hear is how everything is your fault and that your pleasure is your own responsibility. Plus, if a narcissist sees you getting emotional, theyâll likely become more and more wound up but your supposedly âweakâ attitude.
7) Theyâll avoid relationship questions
Letâs break all the allusions here and put everything out there. Commitment isnât something that a narcissist will ever truly want, so if you are expecting any semblance of loyalty or faithfulness from one, youâll certainly be disappointed. They arenât equipped to be in healthy relationships and will do everything in their power to avoid getting to this point.
Their blatant rejection of commitment explains why they prefer one-night stands to long term relationships.
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8) Do narcissists like to cuddle? No, theyâll never show you affection
Letâs face it, they probably donât even understand the definition of affection. If you are involved with a sexual narcissist, you can forget tender caresses, stimulating foreplay and intimate cuddles after love making because once theyâve climaxed and are satisfied, theyâll be out the door in a flash; how romantic?! Unfortunately, the reality of the situation means that narcissists are incapable of love.
9) Theyâll criticize their partners yet in turn expect compliments
Sexual relationships are very much about giving and receiving, yet here we are dealing with a unilateral setup. With these folks being so demanding and needy, theyâll expect positive comments on their performance, but that wonât stop them from giving you pointers on how you could improve yours, because you obviously werenât up to par.
10) They need to feel like they are the BEST
Researchers, at the University of Toronto, conducted several experiments on a group of 173 volunteers with the aim of understanding how sexual narcissists function. They noticed how important comparison was for these people, especially when it comes to the frequency of intercourse. If other people are more successful sexually, these personalities feel resentful. If, on the other hand, others have less sex than they'll feel accomplished.
What turns on a male narcissist? - 5 Things that drive them crazy in the bedroom
If you were wondering how a narcissist acts in the bedroom, youâve no doubt just realized how perverted and twisted they can be. Although they donât have a very healthy rapport with sex, they are certain things and scenarios that really excite them sexually.
- 1) Power - They love being in control between the sheets, and will dominate their partner or partners from start to finish.
- 2) Overstepping boundaries - Theyâll completely gloss over complaints about not feeling comfortable and will do whatever it takes to make things enjoyable for themselves.
- 3) Sex toys - They love the idea of having tools that give them even more control.
- 4) Throwing around insults - Dirty talk takes a wild turn with these guys, who really reveal their misogynistic tendencies in the bedrooms.
- 5) Flattery - The more admiration they feel, the more excited they become.
Do narcissists like to cuddle?
For a narcissist, cuddling is a way to get you hooked and keep you under his control. It's not about developing an emotional bond with you, nor is it about meeting your needs or your desire for closeness, it's to keep you under the thumb. Although, if he withdraws or avoids cuddling, it's because at that point he no longer feels in control, and he wants that control more than he wants you.
Narcissist withholding sex - Why he refuses to make love
A narcissist makes love using his secret weapon "manipulation" so that the victim can fulfill all his desires. As you know, he is a very dominant person in the relationship and therefore also in sexual relations, meaning when he decides he no longer wants to have sex, his decision will be final. We must keep in mind that everything a narcissist does is a calculated attempt to make their victim feel terrible about themselves.
When it comes to sex, a narcissist will withhold it in order to make their victim feel unattractive and ugly. These manipulators may even go as far as telling their partners that their performance in the bedroom is way below par and that their exes were much better in bed. In short, theyâll do anything to make their victims lose confidence in themselves, and therefore ensure that theyâll never leave them.
However, it should be noted that if a narcissist refuses to have sex, he is probably getting some action elsewhere⊠Unfortunately, these folks will never truly sacrifice their own pleasure for the sake of anyone else, no matter how much they claim to love and care for them.
Editorâs opinion: Narcissists and sex aren't a good match! Your needs matter too!A sexual relationship is supposed to be fulfilling and pleasurable for both partners, yet here it seems inconceivable. Suppressing your own sexual desires for the sake of someone elseâs will only lead you further down the path towards a toxic relationship, and this will only make you unhappy in the long run. Having an open and honest discussion about your expectations isnât an option, and suggests that the only effective decision to take is to walk away and find someone who respects and cares for you. đ€ Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Letâs do it here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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