How Do Narcissists Behave Sexually? - What Narcissists Do In The Bedroom

As with many things in life, narcissists also have unhealthy relationships with sex and treat it as nothing more than a self-gratifying activity. After all, manipulation, control and emotional abuse are their so-called trusty weapons that they hide behind in most circumstances, so why wouldn’t they call on them in the bedroom too? The bottom line is people with this personality disorder are used to getting what they want and will only ever put themselves and their pleasure first, which doesn’t bode well for a healthy sex life. Discover how they behave in the bedroom and what you should do if you are involved with one.

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Sexual narcissism involves ensuring personal pleasure and ignoring a partner’s needs and desires. This selfish behavior is common in those with a narcissistic personality disorder, and also suggests that those suffering from it will have an inflated ego regarding their performances beneath the sheets. Their need for admiration and praise is what drives them in all aspects of life, but will tinge their romantic relationships with toxicity that can be tough to move on from.

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The red flags never lie… If you are looking for confirmation that your partner suffers from this disorder, be sure to look out for these signs.

1) They manipulate their partners

Narcissists use sex as a weapon to get what they want, and are prepared to do whatever it takes to realize their desires. If their partners are unwilling to do something in the bedroom, they will become relentless and really crank up the pressure. They’re not averse to guilt-tripping their partners into doing things they’d usually be uncomfortable with. From them, sex is just another element of control that they can use to fulfill their needs.

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2) They leave their partners feeling unfulfilled

We’ve already touched on it, but pleasuring their partner really isn’t a narcissist’s priority, and this explains why sex with one is completely unsatisfying. Spending the night with one will leave you feeling dejected and, in some cases, could even lead you to question your self-worth. In the most serious cases, it could raise the subject of sexual abuse.

3) They gaslight in the bedroom and make people feel bad

In order to blackmail their lovers into doing exactly what they want, they won’t hesitate to accuse you of being needy when you evoke the subject of your own sexual pleasure. These talented liars have what it takes to make people believe that their incompatibility issues are solely their partner’s fault. Man refusing to listen

The harsh truth is that in order to save face, they’ll never admit their portion of responsibility.

4) They boast about their sexual conquests

A sexual narcissist always needs to feel good about themselves. This means they won’t be shy when it comes to boasting about their experiences and how many people they’ve slept with, (yes, you’ve guessed it, their number will no doubt be in the hundreds.) Although, because they are well-known fantasists and manipulators, it’s anybody’s guess as to how truthful their claims are.

5) They can become abusive when they don’t get what they want

When you refuse to obey the demands of a stroppy child, they will no doubt show off and make your life difficult for a while, well the same thing happens here too. When people aren’t at their every beck and call in the bedroom, these abusive personalities will become angry, spiteful and even violent. They need to be in constant control and given what they desire whenever they desire it. If you refuse to try out the position they’ve been wanting to do, you can definitely expect to receive a barrage of hate…

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6) They lack empathy

Don’t expect them to be sympathetic towards you if you didn’t enjoy your latest tryst, or even if you found it painful. The only thing you should be ready to hear is how everything is your fault and that your pleasure is your own responsibility. Plus, if a narcissist sees you getting emotional, they’ll likely become more and more wound up but your supposedly ‘weak’ attitude.

7) They’ll avoid relationship questions

Let’s break all the allusions here and put everything out there. Commitment isn’t something that a narcissist will ever truly want, so if you are expecting any semblance of loyalty or faithfulness from one, you’ll certainly be disappointed. They aren’t equipped to be in healthy relationships and will do everything in their power to avoid getting to this point. Guilty looking man

Their blatant rejection of commitment explains why they prefer one-night stands to long term relationships.

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8) They’ll never show you affection

Let’s face it, they probably don’t even understand the definition of affection. If you are involved with a sexual narcissist, you can forget tender caresses, stimulating foreplay and intimate cuddles after love making because once they’ve climaxed and are satisfied, they’ll be out the door in a flash; how romantic?! Unfortunately, the reality of the situation means that narcissists are incapable of love.

9) They’ll criticize their partners yet in turn expect compliments

Sexual relationships are very much about giving and receiving, yet here we are dealing with a unilateral setup. With these folks being so demanding and needy, they’ll expect positive comments on their performance, but that won’t stop them from giving you pointers on how you could improve yours, because you obviously weren’t up to par.

10) They need to feel like they are the BEST

Researchers, at the University of Toronto, conducted several experiments on a group of 173 volunteers with the aim of understanding how sexual narcissists function. They noticed how important comparison was for these people, especially when it comes to the frequency of intercourse. If other people are more successful sexually, these personalities feel resentful. If, on the other hand, others have less sex than they'll feel accomplished.

Editor’s opinion: Your needs matter too!

A sexual relationship is supposed to be fulfilling and pleasurable for both partners, yet here it seems inconceivable. Suppressing your own sexual desires for the sake of someone else’s will only lead you further down the path towards a toxic relationship, and this will only make you unhappy in the long run. Having an open and honest discussion about your expectations isn’t an option, and suggests that the only effective decision to take is to walk away and find someone who respects and cares for you.

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Comments

Narcissists pd gaslight in the bedroom-how give some examples or explain what their motives.. I get it they don’t care to satisfied their partner they only interested on their pleasure... But the way they want the narrative to play out in the bedroom give specifics .Example telling his partner how excited he gets bringing her to (“ our bed his dead wife and his bedroom or his ex’s ..They highjack the mind body of partner by entrainment programming the victim to be submissive lose her self to objectify her turn her into a zombie.. Their sex making is masturbatory done deliberately malicious .. It is not they have sex problem or the age.. They know what they are doing they are sadistic, in my opinion psychopathic.. It is not just wanting a pleasing partner they want to destroy their significant other using sex as arsenal...

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