What Do Narcissists Hate The Most? - 10 Things That Drive Them Crazy

Last updated by Katie M.

Knowing what narcissist manipulators hates can help victims to break free from their evil psychological grip. Indeed, even these manipulators see themselves as invulnerable beings, their victims often ignore how their pathological narcissism makes them suffer in many ways. 😱 Let's take a closer look at what these cunning beings cannot stand, and what exactly drives them wild. Now, we all get angry for one reason or another, but people with this personality disorder have different triggers related to the things they despise.

What Do Narcissists Hate The Most? - 10 Things That Drive Them Crazy

When people with narcissistic traits decide they hate something, all hell breaks loose and no one in their perimeter is safe. Narcissists operate from a place of deep-seated insecurity, and when something threatens their fragile ego, they react with intense hostility. Their hatred is not just a fleeting emotion—it’s a calculated response to anything that challenges their sense of superiority or control. Whether it’s being ignored, criticized, or outshone, narcissists despise anything that makes them feel vulnerable or insignificant. Trust me, I should know because I’ve been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt with my ex 😭. My ex was a complete narcissist, so I know firsthand what gets under these vindictive people’s skin.

10 Things that narcissists hate more than anything else 🙈

1) Narcissists hate losing control

Control is a narcissist's best ally, and they need it in order to be able to sink their claws into their victims. From deciding where to go out to eat, to taking the lead in conversations, these personalities will want to be the ones pulling the strings and if people don’t get on board, well that’s just too bad. For narcissists, control is synonymous with power. They need to dominate every aspect of their relationships, from decision-making to emotional dynamics. When they lose control, it feels like their entire world is crumbling. This loss of control threatens their carefully constructed image of superiority, which is why they react with such anger and desperation when they feel they are no longer in charge.

2) They despise feeling looked down on

No one likes to feel disrespected, but narcissists simply just can’t accept the feeling. When they believe that someone has started to lose their admiration for them, things could take a dangerous turn because they’ll do anything to win back that triumphant feeling of being looked up to. 😡 After all, narcissists thrive on admiration and validation. When they sense that someone no longer holds them in high regard, it triggers a deep sense of shame and inadequacy. This feeling of being 'less than' is intolerable for them, and they will go to great lengths to regain their perceived superiority, often through manipulation, revenge, or public humiliation of the person they feel has wronged them.

>>> Discover the 5 symptoms of anxiety

3) They can't stand strong personalities

Now, the thing is, folks with this personality disorder are completely jealous of other people. Be it for their possessions, their success, or their abilities; the bottom line is they’ll always be envious of those they believe are truly respected for their authentic selves. Narcissists are deeply threatened by individuals who exude genuine confidence and strength. While they may project an image of superiority, they are often masking profound insecurities. Encountering someone who is truly self-assured reminds them of their own inadequacies, which is why they feel the need to tear down those who possess the qualities they lack.

4) They won't put up with being lectured and challenged on what they claim to know

Now, this point could really make them see red! It’s not uncommon for sufferers to believe their own hype and to convince themselves and others for that matter of fact that they are experts in certain areas. Whether they believe they are completely up-to-date with current affairs, foreign policy, or even the history of football, they’ll hate anyone else invading their so-called territory and claiming to know a thing or two. Jealousy also comes into play here and makes them feel threatened and undermined by folks they obviously consider to be inferior to themselves.

5) They despise being told no

Okay, so imagine the consequences of showing a red rag to a bull, well, a victim finally standing up for themselves would probably produce the same effects. ❌ People with narcissistic tendencies hate being told no because they believe themselves to be superior and know better than everyone else, so why would anyone need to go against them and affirm their views? For a narcissist, being told 'no' is not just a rejection—it’s an affront to their sense of entitlement. They believe they are above the rules that govern everyone else, so when someone dares to set a boundary or deny them something they want, it feels like a personal attack. This is why they often react with rage, manipulation, or attempts to guilt-trip the person into compliance.

6) They don't like seeing other people happy

You’ve probably guessed by now, but we’re dealing with inherently unhappy and dissatisfied personalities, who struggle to love themselves. Narcissists are often consumed by envy, and seeing others happy reminds them of their own internal emptiness. They cannot stand the idea that someone else might be content or fulfilled, especially if they feel they are not receiving the same level of admiration or attention. This is why they often try to sabotage the happiness of others, either through passive-aggressive comments or outright manipulation.

7) Narcissists hate being confronted with the ugly truth

I’d be lying if I said these guys were the bravest when it comes to facing up to their realities and realizing who they are. In fact, admitting their weaknesses to themselves is something they are equipped to do. After all, narcissists construct elaborate facades to avoid facing their true selves. Admitting their flaws or mistakes would shatter the illusion of perfection they’ve built, which is why they go to great lengths to avoid any form of self-reflection. When confronted with the truth about their behavior, they often react with deflection, denial, or even gaslighting, making the other person feel like they are the problem.

>>> Read up on why I always make the wrong decisions

8) They despise when someone else steals the limelight

How dare anyone steal a narcissist’s glory, and if you choose to do so, you’d best be prepared to face their wrath! 🪩 The truth of the matter is that these personalities can’t stand the idea of anyone in their entourage succeeding or doing better than them. Competition is everything for them, and second place is definitely out of the question. When someone else shines brighter, it’s a direct blow to their ego, and they’ll often resort to undermining or discrediting that person to regain their perceived dominance.

9) They get frustrated at not being able to manipulate their victims

This is undeniably their biggest source of frustration ever. These personalities don’t exist if they have no one to manipulate and control. Manipulation is their biggest hobby, so when their victims find their voice and decide enough is enough, a feeling of anger and emptiness washes over them. When their usual tactics fail, narcissists often spiral into a state of panic, desperately trying to regain control through increasingly erratic behavior.

10) Do narcissists hate being ignored? - Yes, they detest it!

✋ When all eyes aren’t on them, and they aren’t being made to feel special, you can count on drama starting. You must remember that these folks have over-inflated egos, which means they need to command your attention and have you at their beck and call at all hours of the day and night for that matter. When a narcissist is ignored, they may feel a sense of insignificance or rejection. In response, they may exhibit various behaviors to regain the attention and control they desire. This could include seeking attention from other sources, attempting to provoke a reaction, or employing manipulative tactics to regain their perceived superiority.

>>> Am I a narcissist? Take the test here

Editor’s opinion: Stand strong and don’t back down

People with narcissistic personalities will do anything to remain in control and get what they want, so don’t be drawn into their little games when they claim that you’ve done something to hurt their feelings. There are many things that get to us, but don’t let yourself be tricked into feeling guilty about things that have allegedly upset them because this will be a catalyst to gaining your sympathy vote.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!

#BornToBeMe

Connect with an advisor

More interesting content:

Article presented by
Katie M.

🌻 Discover the world through my eyes.

Did you like this article?

Want to know more 🤔 ?
Write directly to the author
KatieM. !

Ask Katie a question

Want to share your thoughts? Leave a comment

my mother was a malignat Narcaissit as well as my only older sister, Ireally do NOT know how isurvived it even with Gods help! I finally broke ties completley. forgive my spellingi have stage4 cancer vision is getting bad. im super tough chick! ive battled cancer stage 4 like i stated for almost 9 yeasr!!!!! no meds! they didnt help. You are sooo very correct about jealously to a unthnkable level! and whatever crazy thing no matter HOW unrealistic like where the heckever gave them THAT belief and the crazy bitc#s that tell her stuff are absolutley100% more credible than anyone EVEN GOD! notice ...bitchs is plural! they will literally attack you even put you in position to hope and pray for your death!!!! what i have come to realize there brain is so messed up they think its not! they think weall think like them! so when they accuse you of shit, its telling on themsefves! because thats what they would do to someone! they really think this! because when you say only You would do that... they freak! my sister would meltdown with rage when i told her its brain damage mental illness and shes demon possed she for fist time in 55 years has completely left me alone! i love her she has put me through probably worse than hell. last part of my life, I demand peace love and respest.she is even trying to compete with me beig terima!! i told her no worries i will let you WIN!!!!! bonkers , demon possetcion usedto be a possibility now i am 100% in mybelif its demons! possetcion andor aattachment same thing to me! fact , she CANNOT love, only hate, pleaseur in your pain, actually it tickles them fricken pink! eyes so joyful like a child at chrismas eyes lit up sparkling with the anticipation on just how much pain and sorrow o see u sufferin! more u suffer the more pleasureutter stimulation they get off so so back on peoples pain. THAT alone is proof to me it is PURE EVIL! aka, whos there idol, daddy ? the aspire to be as evil as him because a bonus as well sadism =pure joy,your demise gifts them with control! hey they would probably orgasm just for being fist out of us to have a vanearal disease! not making this up! now thats scary!!!! I was forced tolive with two of them!!!! more proof God is real!!!!

melissa, 2 years ago

Read our latest articles here:

What Are The 6 Types Of Narcissism?

There are a whole range of narcissistic personalities out there, and they scale from highly toxic to rather positive (surprising, right?!). That being said, most mental health experts agree that there are 6 types of narcissistic profiles, which whilst they may all be based on an inflated sense of self-esteem, they are in reality all drastically different, and more or less severe. When it comes to dealing with this type of personality disorder, it’s best to know what you are up against, in order to react appropriately, as well as to avoid falling into their traps and becoming their latest victim. After all, knowledge is power, and that’s never be truer than in this particular context.

10 Weird Things Narcissists Do Sexually - Romance Is Dead

As with many things in life, narcissists also have unhealthy relationships with sex and treat it as nothing more than a self-gratifying activity. After all, manipulation, control, and emotional abuse are their so-called trusty weapons that they hide behind in most circumstances, so why wouldn’t they call on them in the bedroom too? The bottom line is people with this personality disorder are used to getting what they want and will only ever put themselves and their pleasure first, which doesn’t bode well for a healthy sex life. 🙈 Discover the weird things narcissists do in the bedroom and what you should do if you are involved with one.

Are Narcissists Born Or Made? - Let's Settle The Debate

There you have it, the nature vs nurture debate is back, only this time I want to focus it on those deviously manipulative personalities we refer to as narcissists. Now, evidently these folks get bad press and rightly so because they are often at the root of plenty of harm, but is it really their fault? Can they really be blamed for their terrifying and perhaps inherent traits, or are they simply just products and in this case victims of their environments? Let’s settle this debate once and for all and figure out how and when this disorder becomes apparent. So, are you born a narcissist or is it developed?

Why Your Boyfriend Gets Defensive When You Talk About My Feelings

Relationships are never exactly straightforward, and at points, a crystal ball wouldn’t go amiss when it comes to understanding what your partner’s reactions are hiding. Now, sadly not all of us own a trusty crystal ball, but our experience when it comes to love is just as precious in analyzing potential pitfalls related to emotions. This may sound a little cliché, but us girls love talking about our feelings, whether that be about when we are falling in love, or when we are feeling sad. Yet some guys get really defensive whenever these serious topics come round, here’s why.

How Long Will A Narcissist Rebound Relationship Last?

Narcissist rebound relationships generally last anywhere from 6-months to a year. Now, whilst the timeframe depends on each individual, these twisted personalities usually head into these relationships with a plan in mind, meaning they know exactly when and where they'll break things off. Plus, when they are in the final stages of a relationship with you, they are no doubt in the process of grooming their next victim. That's right, the need for a constant narcissistic supply means that they aren't likely to date any one person for an extensive period of time. For them, they require fresh blood every 6-months or so because they simply get bored. Let's take a look at the reasons why they keep their rebounds short, but not so sweet.

Is Sleeping With A Colleague Or Your Boss A Dangerous Game?

I’ve had a crush on someone at work before. Honestly, if I hadn’t found out later that he was in a relationship, I’d have gone all out to seduce him. Except that we all know the “No sex at work” rule, which means that it’s a bad idea to sleep with a colleague, or worse, your boss! Is it really that dangerous a game? What do you risk if you’re caught in the act? I’ll explain it all to you (yes, I did my homework before going for it)!

I’m Having Doubts About My Relationship

This happens often. Since life in a relationship, and even love, are never a smooth ride, of course, I have my doubts 😵‍💫. Not on the same wavelength, the impression that the grass is greener on the other side, different plans… Under the weight of doubts, love loses its splendor. Can it be fixed? I don’t think so, but the important thing is to know how to react.

What Is Candaulism?

Now, many of you are no doubt scratching your head wondering what candaulism means, but some of you must already know by now, and that would explain the recent spike in Google searches for the term. Candaulism is in fact a sexual practice in which a man exposes his female partner or photos of her, to other consenting people. This particular fantasy is therefore associated with exhibitionism. Although that’s not all, the term can also apply to a male partner watching his girlfriend or wife making love to someone else. So, let’s take a peep (get it?) at this practice.

Create a Peaceful Living Space

For years, I didn’t really take care of my home. Not that it was dirty, but there was no particular decoration, and most of all, a lot of clutter. Then one day, I decided to do a major decluttering! I thought it would be a dreadful task, but in the end, I realized that organizing my apartment also helped clear my mind. We often overlook this, but having a peaceful living space truly makes a difference!

Mature Love: How Do Relationships Evolve Over Time?

They say that love is like fine wine: it evolves, matures, and becomes even more delightful with time. I say "they say," but in reality, I’m certain of it. Even though I’m single as I write this article, I’ve experienced long-lasting love stories, and there’s nothing quite like reaching mature love—the kind that provides security and support. That’s why today, I want to talk to you about how romantic relationships evolve!



Wengood's favorite tunes 🎵

Wengood's playlist

wengood

  1. Only LoveBen Howard
    4:08
  2. Invalid date
  3. Fix YouColdplay
    4:55
  4. Beautiful DayU2
    4:08
  5. Thinking out LoudEd Sheeran
    4:41
  6. White FlagDido
    4:00
  7. Lay Me DownSam Smith
    4:13
  8. Nine Million BicyclesKatie Melua
    3:17
  9. Put Your Records OnCorinne Bailey Rae
    3:35
  10. Summertime SadnessLana Del Rey
    4:24
  11. Imagine - Remastered 2010John Lennon
    3:07
  12. Shake It OutFlorence + The Machine
    4:37
  13. Space Oddity - Love You Til Tuesday versionDavid Bowie
    3:46
  14. What A Wonderful WorldLouis Armstrong
    2:17
  15. With Or Without YouU2
    4:56
  16. HelloAdele
    4:55
  17. Don't Stop Me NowQueen
    3:29
  18. Skinny LoveBirdy
    3:21
  19. WingsBirdy
    4:12
  20. Californian SoilLondon Grammar
    3:41

How to detect a narcissist

How to detect a narcissist

How to soothe an anxiety attack

How to soothe an anxiety attack