Knowing what narcissist manipulators hates can help victims to break free from their evil psychological grip. Indeed, even these manipulators see themselves as invulnerable beings, their victims often ignore how their pathological narcissism makes them suffer in many ways. 😱 Let's take a closer look at what these cunning beings cannot stand, and what exactly drives them wild. Now, we all get angry for one reason or another, but people with this personality disorder have different triggers related to the things they despise.
When people with narcissistic traits decide they hate something, all hell breaks loose and no one in their perimeter is safe. Narcissists operate from a place of deep-seated insecurity, and when something threatens their fragile ego, they react with intense hostility. Their hatred is not just a fleeting emotion—it’s a calculated response to anything that challenges their sense of superiority or control. Whether it’s being ignored, criticized, or outshined, narcissists despise anything that makes them feel vulnerable or insignificant. Trust me, I should know because I’ve been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt with my ex 😭. My ex was a complete narcissist, so I know firsthand what gets under these vindictive people’s skin.
Control is a narcissist's best ally, and they need it in order to be able to sink their claws into their victims. From deciding where to go out to eat, to taking the lead in conversations, these personalities will want to be the ones pulling the strings and if people don’t get on board, well that’s just too bad. For narcissists, control is synonymous with power. They need to dominate every aspect of their relationships, from decision-making to emotional dynamics. When they lose control, it feels like their entire world is crumbling. This loss of control threatens their carefully constructed image of superiority, which is why they react with such anger and desperation when they feel they are no longer in charge.
No one likes to feel disrespected, but narcissists simply just can’t accept the feeling. When they believe that someone has started to lose their admiration for them, things could take a dangerous turn because they’ll do anything to win back that triumphant feeling of being looked up to. 😡 After all, narcissists thrive on admiration and validation. When they sense that someone no longer holds them in high regard, it triggers a deep sense of shame and inadequacy. This feeling of being 'less than' is intolerable for them, and they will go to great lengths to regain their perceived superiority, often through manipulation, revenge, or public humiliation of the person they feel has wronged them.
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Now, the thing is, folks with this personality disorder are completely jealous of other people. Be it for their possessions, their success, or their abilities; the bottom line is they’ll always be envious of those they believe are truly respected for their authentic selves. Narcissists are deeply threatened by individuals who exude genuine confidence and strength. While they may project an image of superiority, they are often masking profound insecurities. Encountering someone who is truly self-assured reminds them of their own inadequacies, which is why they feel the need to tear down those who possess the qualities they lack.
Now, this point could really make them see red! It’s not uncommon for sufferers to believe their own hype and to convince themselves and others for that matter of fact that they are experts in certain areas. Whether they believe they are completely up-to-date with current affairs, foreign policy, or even the history of football, they’ll hate anyone else invading their so-called territory and claiming to know a thing or two. Jealousy also comes into play here and makes them feel threatened and undermined by folks they obviously consider to be inferior to themselves.
Okay, so imagine the consequences of showing a red rag to a bull, well, a victim finally standing up for themselves would probably produce the same effects. ❌ People with narcissistic tendencies hate being told no because they believe themselves to be superior and know better than everyone else, so why would anyone need to go against them and affirm their views? For a narcissist, being told 'no' is not just a rejection—it’s an affront to their sense of entitlement. They believe they are above the rules that govern everyone else, so when someone dares to set a boundary or deny them something they want, it feels like a personal attack. This is why they often react with rage, manipulation, or attempts to guilt-trip the person into compliance.
You’ve probably guessed by now, but we’re dealing with inherently unhappy and dissatisfied personalities, who struggle to love themselves. Narcissists are often consumed by envy, and seeing others happy reminds them of their own internal emptiness. They cannot stand the idea that someone else might be content or fulfilled, especially if they feel they are not receiving the same level of admiration or attention. This is why they often try to sabotage the happiness of others, either through passive-aggressive comments or outright manipulation.
I’d be lying if I said these guys were the bravest when it comes to facing up to their realities and realizing who they are. In fact, admitting their weaknesses to themselves is something they are equipped to do. After all, narcissists construct elaborate facades to avoid facing their true selves. Admitting their flaws or mistakes would shatter the illusion of perfection they’ve built, which is why they go to great lengths to avoid any form of self-reflection. When confronted with the truth about their behavior, they often react with deflection, denial, or even gaslighting, making the other person feel like they are the problem.
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How dare anyone steal a narcissist’s glory, and if you choose to do so, you’d best be prepared to face their wrath! 🪩 The truth of the matter is that these personalities can’t stand the idea of anyone in their entourage succeeding or doing better than them. Competition is everything for them, and second place is definitely out of the question.
This is undeniably their biggest source of frustration ever. These personalities don’t exist if they have no one to manipulate and control. Manipulation is their biggest hobby, so when their victims find their voice and decide enough is enough, a feeling of anger and emptiness washes over them.
✋ When all eyes aren’t on them, and they aren’t being made to feel special, you can count on drama starting. You must remember that these folks have over-inflated egos, which means they need to command your attention and have you at their beck and call at all hours of the day and night for that matter. When a narcissist is ignored, they may feel a sense of insignificance or rejection. In response, they may exhibit various behaviors to regain the attention and control they desire. This could include seeking attention from other sources, attempting to provoke a reaction, or employing manipulative tactics to regain their perceived superiority.
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When a narcissist realizes that you hate them, it often triggers a range of defensive and manipulative behaviors designed to protect their fragile ego and maintain control. They may respond with intense anger or vindictiveness, attempting to discredit or demean you in order to undermine your feelings and assert their superiority. Alternatively, they might employ tactics like gaslighting, making you question your own perceptions and emotions. Some narcissists may even play the victim, seeking sympathy from others and portraying you as the unreasonable or hostile party. In any case, their primary goal is to regain a sense of power and control, often at the expense of your emotional well-being. Recognizing these patterns can help you protect yourself and maintain your boundaries.
In short, narcissists hate people with strong personalities, especially those of them that are capable of standing up for themselves and saying no.
Contrary to what one might think, narcissistic personalities are usually weak individuals. For them, anything they cannot control is synonymous with potential danger. Narcissists particularly despise individuals who are assertive, independent, and self-assured. These personality types are difficult to manipulate and control, which makes them a threat to the narcissist’s sense of superiority. Additionally, people who are empathetic and emotionally intelligent can see through the narcissist’s facade, making it harder for them to maintain their manipulative tactics.
Narcissists often project an image of confidence and superiority, but beneath this facade, many may struggle with deep-seated insecurities and self-loathing. Their grandiose behavior and need for admiration are often coping mechanisms to mask their fragile self-esteem and inner feelings of inadequacy. This internal conflict can lead to a cycle of seeking validation from others while simultaneously experiencing self-hatred. However, their inability or unwillingness to acknowledge these feelings makes it challenging for them to break free from this pattern, perpetuating their narcissistic traits.
The answer is yes, however, these folks will never admit it! People with this personality disorder are shrouded with self-loathing and hate, but are too proud to seek help for these issues. Now, whilst they may appear to be confident and powerful, this image is in fact just a well-put-together facade, designed to hide what they perceive as their weaknesses.
Narcissists don’t have the capacity to love themselves, due to their dramatically low self-esteem, which therefore means that they often become trapped in a dangerous spiral of self-hate. A narcissist is essentially jealous of everyone around them, and that’s why they take such pleasure in destroying and tormenting their victims. Now, whilst they appear confident, these folks would all struggle to genuinely find something they loved about themselves. The lack of love they experienced in their childhood develops into a whole life of self-despising as an adult.
Whatever your relationship with a narcissist, it is important to remind yourself that they only put out into the world what they want other people to see. Indeed, they hide their flaws behind carefully constructed disguises and are never really prepared to address the root of their problems.
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When a narcissist figures out that you hate and resent them, they step their behavior up and become even more diabolical 😈. Here’s what they do.
Narcissists may escalate conflicts to an extreme level once they know you hate them. This can include spreading rumors, starting legal battles, or engaging in harassment. Their aim is to overwhelm you and assert dominance through sheer persistence and aggression.
On the flip side, some narcissists might attempt to charm and win you over again, using flattery, gifts, or false apologies. This is a strategic move to confuse you and reel you back into their influence, making it harder for you to maintain your resolve and boundaries.
Another common response is the silent treatment. By withdrawing communication, the narcissist aims to make you feel guilty, anxious, or desperate for their attention. This tactic is designed to manipulate you into re-engaging with them on their terms.
Narcissists often involve third parties to create drama and manipulate perceptions. They may turn mutual friends, colleagues, or family members against you by presenting a distorted narrative that casts them as the victim and you as the villain, further isolating you and consolidating their control.
They may exaggerate their victimhood to elicit sympathy and support from others, painting you as the aggressor. This tactic not only diverts attention from their own behavior but also mobilizes a network of enablers who can help them maintain their façade and apply pressure on you to conform to their demands.
Editor’s opinion: Stand strong and don’t back downPeople with narcissistic personalities will do anything to remain in control and get what they want, so don’t be drawn into their little games when they claim that you’ve done something to hurt their feelings. There are many things that get to us, but don’t let yourself be tricked into feeling guilty about things that have allegedly upset them because this will be a catalyst to gaining your sympathy vote. 🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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