Since we read so much bad press about narcissistic traits and personalities, folks with this disorder frequently seem to be demonized from the start, but do they truly deserve the heat? Well, as someone who has been in several relationships with these soul-crushing demons, I can certainly confirm that they are not cut out for love. The fact of the matter is that their DNA means that every fiber in their body resists love and everything that comes with it. They condition themselves to reject romance, kissing, hugs, and tenderness, in the optic of being able to achieve their goal of becoming the ultimate puppet master. And, to make matters even worse, they believe that giving in to their feelings and falling in love will make them appear weak and feeble, which is why they battle so fiercely to ignore them.
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Here’s why narcissists never really enjoy kissing
1) It’s a means to an end
Most people enjoy a bit of lips-on-lips actions, however, this couldn’t be further from the truth for narcissists. These devious personalities aren’t exactly sexually charged and see being intimate as a way of getting what they want rather than indulging in pleasure with someone they have feelings for.
2) Narcissists just aren’t romantic
Romance is a very confusing concept for these folks, but the sad truth is they never allow themselves to become invested in the people, meaning they never actually get to feel these magical feelings.
3) They always have ulterior motives
If these parasites can avoid engaging in any sensual behavior, they will do. Although, if they are unable to escape a hot date and feel like they are backed into a corner, they will engage in a few sensual smooches. The truth is, they’ll participate in romantic behavior to get exactly what they want. After all, they are hugely calculating, so this shouldn’t come as a surprise that they are willing to dupe their romantic interests.
4) They think they are above other people
Because they have such huge egos, they believe that they are better than everyone else, which makes people seem even less attractive to them. If they do actually end up kissing someone, then they’ll view it as them doing a favor because they themselves won’t take anything from it.
5) They lack empathy
Empathy is a completely foreign concept to this group of poorly intentioned people. They have virtually no sympathy for anyone, which explains why they completely reject the idea of comforting their so-called love interests when they are feeling down. That’s right, hugs and kisses are simply out of the question for them, no matter how upset they are.
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6) They don’t want to admit their feelings
Narcissists hide behind their bravado and their carefully constructed facades. They essentially spend their whole lives running away from their feelings and planning escape plans for when they get in too deep with someone.
7) They won’t break down their walls
The unfortunate truth is that they are afraid of their feelings and will do anything in their power to run from them, even if it means pushing other people away and keeping them at arm’s length. In short, they’re scared of developing true feelings because they don’t know how to deal with them.
8) They find it boring
Let’s not forget that a narcissist’s main goal in life isn’t to find love and live happily ever after. No, what thrills them is being able to manipulate people and make their victims their very own playthings.
9) It’s a synonym of losing control
For them, kissing is comparable to abandoning themselves to their feelings and deepest desires. Plus, they also fear that by giving in to temptation, they’ll be distracted from their ultimate mission of controlling their victims.
10) They refuse to make emotional connections
It’s no real surprise that these vampires have extremely unhealthy relationships with their emotions. Due to the fact that they are unaware of how to process what they feel and are so focused on hurting others, they never allow the mask to slip and prevent themselves from stepping outside their self-imposed mold.
How do narcissists show affection?
Narcissists are very "chameleon-like" people, meaning they have the capacity to adapt to their partner. They, therefore, say what the other person wants to hear in order to establish a hold and a relationship of domination. If you need love and affection, these manipulators will tell you that he loves you. But you must not forget that this is a calculated, strategic fact! There is nothing sentimental about it. The narcissist will show you that he needs you, but not for good reasons. He sees in you the "practical" side that you will bring him. You serve as his assistant and sexual object…
Do narcissists like to cuddle?
Much like with kissing, narcissists don’t enjoy cuddling unless it is on their terms. Indeed, they’re not naturally touchy-feely people who like to spend their evenings huddled up on the couch in front of Netflix. Instead, these folks are a lot more devious and consider people as play objects, who are there to entertain them. No matter their connection to people, be it, friends or lovers, narcissists will never happily greet them, because they are typically uncomfortable with their boundaries being invaded. The truth is, these people need to be in control of every situation and absolutely hate the idea of portraying themselves as soft, weak, and emotional. So, next time you meet up with a narcissist, don’t be surprised at the cold and standoffish greeting they offer you.
Do narcissists like to be touched?
Narcissistic people may have different preferences when it comes to physical contact, just like any other person. However, it's important to note that narcissism is a personality trait characterized by a grandiose sense of one's own importance, a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy toward others. Narcissistic people may be more preoccupied with their own image and needs, which can influence their attitude toward physical contact.
Some narcissists may seek physical contact and affection from others to boost their own self-esteem and gain the admiration they desire. They may appreciate positive attention and tender gestures because of the importance they attach to their own image and social status. However, it's also possible that some narcissistic people feel uncomfortable with physical contact or perceive it as an intrusion into their personal space. They may prefer to maintain a certain physical distance to maintain a sense of control or superiority.
What do narcissists fantasize about?
A form of deviant sexuality has also been referred to as narcissistic perversion: individuals who experience extreme jubilant pleasure by looking at their image in a mirror, accompanied by touching of their naked body and masturbation, as part of a long ritual. In less severe cases, as part of regular sexual practice, individuals become aroused by admiring their bodies, positions, and movements, using mirrors placed in specific locations. These rather rare practices are akin to fetishism, particularly if the sexual partner is ignored during the act. However, their designation as narcissistic perversion can lead to confusion.
Although we shouldn't generalize, it's common for the sexuality of the narcissistic pervert to be accompanied by sexual practices that fall outside commonly accepted social norms, notably sadomasochism and/or other forms of sexual deviance also known as paraphilias.
Editor’s opinion - Kissing is an expression of deep feelings
Most people believe that sex is the most intimate act, but when you think about it, kissing is actually way more sensual. Although it may seem like a pretty insignificant act, it represents carnal passion, tenderness, affection, and transmits plenty of love, which narcissists simply aren’t capable of letting themselves feel.
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