Do Narcissists Enjoy Kissing? - No, 10 Reasons Why They Hate It

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Kissing is a deeply intimate act, and although in popular culture it is often classed as only being worthy of first base, it does in fact go way beyond that toxic evaluation. We have no doubt all had at least one lingering kiss that we’ll never forget; one which left all of our senses tingling and hungry for more. 💏 Well, that memorable smooch left us reminiscing because it was sincere and meant something. In short, it encapsulated love and romance, which are two things that narcissists are quite simply incapable of feeling.

Do Narcissists Enjoy Kissing? - No, 10 Reasons Why They Hate It

Since we read so much bad press about narcissistic traits and personalities, folks with this disorder frequently seem to be demonized from the start, but do they truly deserve the heat? Well, as someone who has been in several relationships with these soul-crushing demons, I can certainly confirm that they are not cut out for love. The fact of the matter is that their DNA means that every fiber in their body resists love and everything that comes with it. They condition themselves to reject romance, kissing, hugs, and tenderness, in the optic of being able to achieve their goal of becoming the ultimate puppet master. And, to make matters even worse, they believe that giving in to their feelings and falling in love will make them appear weak and feeble, which is why they battle so fiercely to ignore them.

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Here’s why narcissists never really enjoy kissing 💋

1) It’s a means to an end

Most people enjoy a bit of lips-on-lips actions, however, this couldn’t be further from the truth for narcissists. These devious personalities aren’t exactly sexually charged and see being intimate as a way of getting what they want rather than indulging in pleasure with someone they have feelings for.

2) Narcissists just aren’t romantic

Romance is a very confusing concept for these folks, but the sad truth is they never allow themselves to become invested in the people, meaning they never actually get to feel these magical feelings.

3) They always have ulterior motives

If these parasites can avoid engaging in any sensual behavior, they will do. Although, if they are unable to escape a hot date and feel like they are backed into a corner, they will engage in a few sensual smooches. The truth is, they’ll participate in romantic behavior to get exactly what they want. After all, they are hugely calculating, so this shouldn’t come as a surprise that they are willing to dupe their romantic interests.

4) They think they are above other people

Because they have such huge egos, they believe that they are better than everyone else, which makes people seem even less attractive to them. If they do actually end up kissing someone, then they’ll view it as them doing a favor because they themselves won’t take anything from it.

5) They lack empathy

Empathy is a completely foreign concept to this group of poorly intentioned people. They have virtually no sympathy for anyone, which explains why they completely reject the idea of comforting their so-called love interests when they are feeling down. That’s right, hugs and kisses are simply out of the question for them, no matter how upset they are.

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6) They don’t want to admit their feelings

Narcissists hide behind their bravado and their carefully constructed facades. They essentially spend their whole lives running away from their feelings and planning escape plans for when they get in too deep with someone.

7) They won’t break down their walls

The unfortunate truth is that they are afraid of their feelings and will do anything in their power to run from them, even if it means pushing other people away and keeping them at arm’s length. In short, they’re scared of developing true feelings because they don’t know how to deal with them.

8) They find it boring

Let’s not forget that a narcissist’s main goal in life isn’t to find love and live happily ever after. No, what thrills them is being able to manipulate people and make their victims their very own playthings.

9) It’s a synonym of losing control

For them, kissing is comparable to abandoning themselves to their feelings and deepest desires. Plus, they also fear that by giving in to temptation, they’ll be distracted from their ultimate mission of controlling their victims.

10) They refuse to make emotional connections

It’s no real surprise that these vampires have extremely unhealthy relationships with their emotions. Due to the fact that they are unaware of how to process what they feel and are so focused on hurting others, they never allow the mask to slip and prevent themselves from stepping outside their self-imposed mold.

💡 Practical tip time 💡 Challenges to reintroduce kissing into your relationship!
Kissing isn't part of your daily routine anymore, and you want to reintegrate these little pleasures? Here are 3 challenges for you!

1. Kiss at least once a day
Even if it's just when you get up or go to bed, I suggest you exchange at least one real kiss a day. For those of you who haven't done it for a long time, do it gradually. Do it without necessarily starting a sexual relationship. Just for the pleasure of the contact. You may even feel a little uncomfortable doing it. Get over this discomfort, and you'll see that as the days and kisses accumulate, that feeling of shyness will fade.

2. Be aware of every kiss
When you kiss, become aware of how it feels. Taste the pleasure of your lips touching hers and experience the emotions this closeness brings. Diversify your kisses to explore different sensations. Take the time to embrace each other - this kind of gesture can make all the difference.

3. Kiss in public
The majority of couples who reduce the frequency of their kissing start by cutting down on public displays of affection. I'm not saying kiss like you're alone in the world! I'm simply suggesting that you exchange simple, unpretentious but meaningful kisses! When you kiss in public, there's a certain sexual tension that builds up, and you can float on that cloud for a while. It's a great libido booster!

How do narcissists show affection?

Narcissists are very "chameleon-like" people, meaning they have the capacity to adapt to their partner. They, therefore, say what the other person wants to hear in order to establish a hold and a relationship of domination. If you need love and affection, these manipulators will tell you that he loves you. But you must not forget that this is a calculated, strategic fact! There is nothing sentimental about it. The narcissist will show you that he needs you, but not for good reasons. He sees in you the "practical" side that you will bring him. You serve as his assistant and sexual object…

Do narcissists like to cuddle? 🤗

Much like with kissing, narcissists don’t enjoy cuddling unless it is on their terms. Indeed, they’re not naturally touchy-feely people who like to spend their evenings huddled up on the couch in front of Netflix. Instead, these folks are a lot more devious and consider people as play objects, who are there to entertain them. No matter their connection to people, be it, friends or lovers, narcissists will never happily greet them, because they are typically uncomfortable with their boundaries being invaded. The truth is, these people need to be in control of every situation and absolutely hate the idea of portraying themselves as soft, weak, and emotional. So, next time you meet up with a narcissist, don’t be surprised at the cold and standoffish greeting they offer you.

Editor’s opinion - Kissing is an expression of deep feelings

Most people believe that sex is the most intimate act, but when you think about it, kissing is actually way more sensual. Although it may seem like a pretty insignificant act, it represents carnal passion, tenderness, affection, and transmits plenty of love, which narcissists simply aren’t capable of letting themselves feel.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy… Let’s do it here and now!

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