You're fabulous, the problem is you just don't know how to recognize your greatness. You no doubt have the annoying habit of putting yourself down. If you trusted yourself a little bit more, you'd realize how much you're capable of, and trust me, you'd be pleasantly surprised. Here, we're going to teach you to be assertive and confident in who you are.
Devaluation, false beliefs, lack of self-esteem, are all negative emotions that bring you down. Although don't worry too much, because we can definitely solve this problem! Boosting your ego and regaining confidence are essential steps in loving yourself. Our columnists give you their best tips in this section.
'Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing'.
- Theodore Roosevelt
In general, thumb sucking ends around the age of 6. I say “in general” and not “normally”, because as an adult I don’t feel weird or particularly bothered by it. When I get stressed, I allow myself to let go and return to my childhood self by sucking my thumb. Those who know about it or catch me by surprise make me realize I should be ashamed… But is this habit a big deal? What if it makes me feel better? It’s certainly no worse than lighting up a cigarette or biting your nails…
Some people just ooze charisma and have that je ne sais quoi about them. If you’ve been in the presence of someone with the IT factor, you’ll no doubt have noticed how magnetic and bubbly they are when it comes to commanding attention. Now, if you are sick and tired of fading into the background, it’s time for you to step out of the shadows because yes, the good news is that everyone can have the famous IT factor, no matter how naturally shy or introverted they are. No one is perfect, but at times, a little self-help goes a long way, especially in your professional life. Sometimes, working on our confidence is the key to realizing our dreams!
Ever since I was a child, I’ve felt like I do things according to others. My choices and my behavior have long been dictated by the approval of others. As I’ve got older, I’ve learned to assert myself and detach myself from what others might think of my actions. Why do we constantly seek this validation, and how can we get rid of this need for recognition when it becomes toxic? Having been there myself, I’ll explain it all to you!
You were well on your way. You were holding on, motivated by the idea of finally having a bikini body this year. But then the lockdowns and the laziness all hit you at once... That’s right, your cellulite is still there and not ready to leave just yet. But guess what?! Cellulite is like a little pimple, either we own it, or we resort to using tricks to camouflage it.
If you read this title out loud, then this article is for you! In the street, at work, or even at home, you’ve no doubt already caught yourself talking out loud when there’s nobody else in the room. It may surprise those around you or make you feel embarrassed, but don’t panic! No one has ever been committed to an asylum for talking to themselves. On the contrary, it’s normal behavior and a positive one at that! So why is this a good thing? How can you control yourself? We’ll explain it all.
Ahh, this is a subject I've given a lot of thought to over the years, especially when it comes to my professional life. Whatever the context, I want to be interesting and show myself in the best light! Some people naturally have the gift of the gab, even when they meet someone for the first time. Words come naturally to them, whereas for me, I just don’t know what to say, or even worse, I’m petrified by the stress of talking to a new person. So what should you do to have a more natural and flowing conversations?
Self-esteem essentially refers to someone’s sense of personal worth or value. By way of explanation, self-esteem is related to how you view yourself and how much you appreciate yourself, regardless of the situations you face. Now, having a definition to hand is all well and good, but how in a practical sense, how can being sure of yourself help you handle some of life’s most difficult circumstances?
While the one-piece jersey is coming back in force, we see the no bra trend is definitely also on the rise, and we’ve got coronavirus lockdowns to thank for that. Our boobs have never felt freer and are living their best lives under our t-shirts and layers of loungewear, but does that mean we should expose them on the beach too? In any case, long live this wind of freedom that blows gently on our boobs.
When I was a freshman in college, I felt like no one was listening to what I had to say. I would have ideas, and I would throw them out, but they would fall by the wayside. Even worse, they could be taken over and made their own! This was very painful for me, but as time went on, I realized why no one was listening to me. There are several reasons for this, which stems as much from our personality as from the way we express ourselves and the way we turn to others. Here are some explanations.
Whenever possible, I avoid having to talk to people I don’t know, especially on the phone. I make my reservations on the internet, I also do my shopping online, and yes, I procrastinate or delegate anything that requires a face-to-face meeting with someone. And then the other day, at the park with my dog, a lady came to talk to me. And much to my surprise, it was completely refreshing and really put a smile on my face. Here’s why chatting to strangers is good for us.
“I’m not sure of myself”, “I don’t think I can do it…”, “I’m not good enough…”, “I’m too much of this, too much of that”… STOP! As you know, for something to work, you have to believe in it, so have confidence and dare to believe in yourself. And as it’s not always easy to believe in yourself, here are 9 simple and effective tips to make you feel like Beyoncé!
Uncomfortable, no words are coming out of my mouth anymore… I’m in front of an audience waiting for me to speak, but it’s impossible, I’m paralyzed by stage fright. If you’ve already experienced this too, you may suffer from glossophobia, the fear of public speaking. This anxiety, which turns into a great source of stress, is common for many people! So, what can you do to overcome glossophobia and speak in public? We’ll reveal all.
The truth is I’ve never ever been the type of person who throws everything out there. I hate talking about my feelings, relationships and personal life and will always try to deflect these questions! For me, modesty is a barrier that I’ve always chosen to put up in order to keep people at arm’s length. The bottom line is, I want to keep things private and don’t believe that everyone needs to know absolutely everything about me. I like to closely control what I put out into the world, but where does my modesty come from? Fear of judgement? Shyness? Mistrust? Let’s explore all of these possibilities and get to the bottom of this conundrum.
You’ve no doubt seen them pass by on your Instagram account, that’s right, by clicking on the "Story" tab, you have the possibility to apply filters on our face. Sometimes they are just colorimetric touch-ups, sometimes they are cute with little cat ears. However, most of the time, we use them to give our skin better texture or even to eliminate our dark circles. Although it may not seem to be a big issue, this has an impact on our vision of ourselves and on our mental health. Why do Instagram filters, and more generally this social network, impact our confidence so negatively?
“Why are you crying again?” I’ve heard this question many times! It made me feel guilty because I had the impression that it wasn’t normal to be so sensitive. Indeed, when you’re hypersensitive, tears are a part of how you function. They help you to let out emotions that are too strong. This can be embarrassing depending on the situation you’re in, but you shouldn’t see it as a weakness. On the contrary! Hypersensitivity can be a strength if you accept it and channel it properly. Here’s how to turn your hypersensitivity into a strength.
After using the excuse of not being able to meet up, your mother makes you feel guilty by saying, “It’s a shame, I would have really liked to have seen you, I’m hurt…” And so, you meet up with her, dragging your heels to please her. Emotional blackmail is everywhere. So how can you stop being manipulated?
Ah, emotions, what a vast subject! Children are taught to recognize them, adults to control them, but do we really know what we’re talking about? Not really, let’s face it. Emotion is a vague concept that is difficult to define, and yet we all know what it is: something intense, even brutal and brief. All our emotions are a mixture of the 6 basic emotions. 6 universal emotions that share the same facial expression throughout the world.
When faced with sudden anger or anxiety, I let my emotions get the better of me. Do you get the impression that you react the same way? It’s hard to contain what we feel sometimes. So, how can you better manage your emotions? Some people try to stifle them, but that’s not the answer. There are techniques to live more serenely with your emotions without ignoring them. Let’s see what you can do to calm down and live serenely!
“You look like a gorilla.” I think it’s a sadly commonplace story, but that’s how my story with hair removal began. I was 13 and in gym class when a boy said that to me. Since then, I’ve never stopped wanting to get rid of my body hair with a razor, or wax. But now, a movement is underway. More and more women are accepting their hair and claiming it as their own. Tempting? Certainly. Taking the plunge? Not so easy…
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken."
- Oscar Wilde
