What is a megalomaniac?
First, we have to define a megalomaniac and why they act that way. They are people with a narcissistic personality disorder. Usually, they exaggerate their achievements and think they’re unique, special or better than others.
➜ But why?
The psychiatrist Laurent Schmitt explains that megalomaniacs behave in this way after experiencing trauma. For example, not having received enough love during childhood contributes to making a person egocentric. Indeed, for a megalomaniac, a high self-esteem helps to compensate.
💥 However, this kind of person is a nightmare to live with for others, because megalomaniacs assert themselves at the expense of others! Between feelings of inferiority, injustice and humiliation, it’s not easy to deal with someone with an overinflated ego.
How to recognize a megalomaniac?
It’s important to define the characteristics of megalomaniacs before being able to act. This psychological illness has this type of behavior. Here’s how to recognize a megalomaniac:
- an overestimation of themselves;
- delusions of grandeur;
- delusions of power;
- self-attribution of extraordinary abilities;
- an immense desire for glory;
- inordinate pride.
➜ Megalomaniacs are often narcissistic perverts, that’s why it’s important to recognize them. However, not all are; some of them aren’t manipulative.
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How to react to a megalomaniac?
Whether in a relationship, with a friend or at work, you must react to megalomaniacs. The problem is that an individual with a huge ego will not take criticism well, even if it’s constructive.
You should therefore not attack a megalomaniac head-on, especially not aggressively. Indeed, this kind of person is rather formidable in a confrontation. You should therefore express your opinion while remaining respectful. Putting your emotions into words is a good way to make an egocentric person realize they’ve gone too far.
- 💬 For example, someone tells you:
“Your meal was okay, but I think I could have done better. After all, my father owns a restaurant and I know I’ve got the basics better than you.”
- ❌ Instead of replying:
“Your remarks are annoying! I feel like you always think you’re best! If you think you can do better, you cook next time, eh!”
- ✅ Answer instead:
“I’m sad and angry after your remarks about my cooking. I just wanted to please you.”
It’s impossible to deny what others are feeling, unless you’re dealing with a very toxic person. After you’ve expressed your feelings, it’s good to tell the other person that you understand their point of view to show that you’ve listened to them. And the last point to remember is to propose a solution.
In the case of example, you can add this:
“I know you’re better in the kitchen than me. If you want, next time you can show me how to do it, okay?”
Depending on the context, it’s possible to get help from a therapist. For example, if you’re in a relationship with a megalomaniac, and you’ve already tried to improve the situation. Indeed, expressing your suffering to a psychologist can be very liberating. It’s sometimes necessary to have someone neutral to identify the attitudes to be improved on both sides.
If you’re confronted with a megalomaniac in another situation (friends, work or family), expressing your emotions is a good solution. It’s not always possible to do this with the person concerned, which is why psychological support should be considered so that it doesn’t affect your mental health.
Editor’s note: put your suffering into words
If you’ve already tried everything to fix the situation, but the attitude of this megalomaniac continues to make you suffer, you should think about seeing a psychologist or a psychiatrist. Putting into words your feelings, your emotions and the suffering caused by this relationship will be liberating. Together, you will finally be able to find solutions to get better.