How Can I Find My Purpose In Life? What Is It That Drives Me?

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Einstein said, “If you want to live a happy life, attach it to a purpose and not to people or things.” Apart from your alarm clock, something else has to get you out of bed. Why? Well, put simply, a goal gives your life direction and allows you to make choices that are more in tune with you. And what’s more exhilarating than having a mission of your own. But for some people, their goal is to find everything, while for others, it requires a lot of thought.

How Can I Find My Purpose In Life? What Is It That Drives Me?
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How can I find my goal in life?

What can I do that’s important with the time I have? Finding a purpose in life requires a little introspection and taking stock. It’s a difficult step because often we can be lost or don’t know what to do with our lives. Looking for your purpose is also about getting to know yourself, looking at yourself directly and facing your desires and fears. Then you must have the courage to commit to yourself.

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What questions do I need to ask myself to find my purpose?

  • At what point was I happiest in life?
  • What are the unpleasant things I’m ready to endure?
  • What makes me most proud?
  • What do I like to bring to others?
  • In what situation(s) does time fly?
  • What qualities do I admire most in others?
  • Am I happy on a daily basis?
  • What helps me feel alive and full of energy?
  • What would I do first if I didn’t have much time left to live?
  • What obligations prevent me from doing what I want?
  • If I could change one thing in the world, what would it be?
  • What’s the one thing I’d like to change to be happier?
  • What would I like people to say about me?
  • If time or money wasn’t an issue, what would I do with my life?

Time to take stock!

All these questions should either raise lots of things or just one, but they allow us to draw the lines, the outline of our purpose in life. Then take time to think by really opening up your mind. Forget all critical thinking. Then take a piece of paper and do a therapeutic writing exercise. Empty your mind and reply to the pen without thinking about an answer to the following phrase: “my aim in life is…”

Once you’ve identified what gets you out of bed in the morning, your purpose and mission in life, it’s up to you to decide what to do with it. Is it the beginning of a new direction in life? The start of a new project? A redefinition of your priorities? Because yes, discovering your purpose in life is just the first step. You will only achieve fulfillment and happiness by going even further, by going from reflection to action.

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Editor’s note – Goals are not purposes

We all have goals, but we sometimes tend to confuse them with our purpose in life. A purpose is a direction and a meaning to our lives but is something that we can’t control 100%. Goals can bring us closer to our purpose, but they are completely within our control. For example, if your purpose in life is to be as fulfilled as possible, your goals will perhaps be to find love, to live your passion, to start a family, to live somewhere else. In short, a whole range of goals that, if chosen carefully, will allow you to achieve your purpose.

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