How Can I Find My Purpose In Life? What Drives Me?

Last updated December 17, 2021 by Katie M.

Einstein said, “If you want to live a happy life, attach it to a purpose and not to people or things.” Apart from your alarm clock, something else has to get you out of bed. Why? Well, put simply, a goal gives your life direction and allows you to make choices that are more in tune with you. And what’s more exhilarating than having a mission of your own. But for some people, their goal is to find everything, while for others, it requires a lot of thought.

How Can I Find My Purpose In Life? What Drives Me?

Contents:

How can I find my goal and purpose in life?
What questions do I need to ask myself to find my purpose in life?
Time to take stock!
Editor’s note – Goals are not purposes

How can I find my goal in life?

What can I do that’s important with the time I have? Finding a purpose in life requires a little introspection and taking stock. It’s a difficult step because often we can be lost or don’t know what to do with our lives. Looking for your purpose is also about getting to know yourself, looking at yourself directly and facing your desires and fears. Then you must have the courage to commit to yourself.

>>> Is it a bad thing not do have goals or ambitions?

What questions do I need to ask myself to find my purpose?

At what point was I happiest in life?
What are the unpleasant things I’m ready to endure?
What makes me most proud?
What do I like to bring to others?
In what situation(s) does time fly?
What qualities do I admire most in others?
Am I happy on a daily basis?
What helps me feel alive and full of energy?
What would I do first if I didn’t have much time left to live?
What obligations prevent me from doing what I want?
If I could change one thing in the world, what would it be?
What’s the one thing I’d like to change to be happier?
What would I like people to say about me?
If time or money wasn’t an issue, what would I do with my life?

Time to take stock!

All these questions should either raise lots of things or just one, but they allow us to draw the lines, the outline of our purpose in life. Then take time to think by really opening up your mind. Forget all critical thinking. Then take a piece of paper and do a therapeutic writing exercise. Empty your mind and reply to the pen without thinking about an answer to the following phrase: “my aim in life is…”

Once you’ve identified what gets you out of bed in the morning, your purpose and mission in life, it’s up to you to decide what to do with it. Is it the beginning of a new direction in life? The start of a new project? A redefinition of your priorities? Because yes, discovering your purpose in life is just the first step. You will only achieve fulfillment and happiness by going even further, by going from reflection to action.

>>> Do you want a fresh start? Read our tips on how to get one!

Editor’s note – Goals are not purposes

We all have goals, but we sometimes tend to confuse them with our purpose in life. A purpose is a direction and a meaning to our lives but is something that we can’t control 100%. Goals can bring us closer to our purpose, but they are completely within our control. For example, if your purpose in life is to be as fulfilled as possible, your goals will perhaps be to find love, to live your passion, to start a family, to live somewhere else. In short, a whole range of goals that, if chosen carefully, will allow you to achieve your purpose.

Discover the following content:

Read our latest articles here:

Are Narcissists Born Or Made? - Let's Settle The Debate

There you have it, the nature vs nurture debate is back, only this time I want to focus it on those deviously manipulative personalities we refer to as narcissists. Now, evidently these folks get bad press and rightly so because they are often at the root of plenty of harm, but is it really their fault? Can they really be blamed for their terrifying and perhaps inherent traits, or are they simply just products and in this case victims of their environments? Let’s settle this debate once and for all and figure out how and when this disorder becomes apparent. So, are you born a narcissist or is it developed?

Standing Up To A Narcissist Is Possible If You Follow These 9 Steps

If you’re anything like me, you’re no doubt sick of being manipulated and humiliated by the narcissistic vampires that surround you. Enough is enough! The time has come for you to stand up for yourself! No matter who is making you feel bad about yourself; you need to flip the tables and take back the power. Psychological abuse has deep and lasting impacts, but turning the page and moving on is the healthiest thing any victim can do. Here are 9 essential tips on how you can defend yourself against a narcissistic pervert.

Am I Too Demanding Of My Partner And Too Tough On Him?

Excessive expectations, intense routines and warped images of relationships often make our love stories difficult to manage and maintain. A relationship is one of life’s greatest balancing acts and requires compromises to be made regularly. In short, one cannot be too demanding or severe with their partner if they want a smooth sailing union. Being so tough is a way of testing our partner's feelings for us, yet this can lead to extremely toxic behavior. Although, thanks to our tips, you'll know how to turn things around.

Female Masturbation

That’s right, masturbation isn’t exclusively reserved for men, and us girls can enjoy the benefits of this practice too. It may seem like a very taboo subject, although over time it is becoming more and more talked about online, but that’s not to say that women feel comfortable with the idea… Many women run away from this pleasure and refuse to take care of themselves because they feel a cocktail of shame, fear, and embarrassment. Masturbation is all about self-care and making love to your body, and it’s one that no one should feel too guilty to practice.

Who Do Narcissists Target?

If reading up on narcissists terrifies you, you probably already realize how dangerous their toxic personalities can be. Although, that being said, I’m probably going to add to the list of reasons as to why you should be ultra wary of these abusers, by revealing who they prey on. One thing that can be said about narcissists is that they certainly aren’t predictable people! 😱 Plus, spoiler alert, they don’t necessarily always choose to emotionally abuse seemingly weak people, no, in fact, they often choose bigger fish to fry because they love a challenge. Discover the types of personalities they hone in on and why.

Overinflated Ego

“No, but in any case, I’m better than you.” Honestly, who likes hearing this kind of sentence? Sometimes, it’s not put so bluntly, but clearly, if we read between the lines, that’s what is meant. An overinflated ego is what defines a megalomaniac, along with a need to put yourself before others… Dealing with a megalomaniac isn’t easy, especially when it’s a daily occurrence! So, if you want a peaceful life, discover the true meaning of this disorder, and follow our tips to making this relationship just that little more bearable.

Should You Really Confess Your Feelings?

Who hasn’t had a crush in their life? You know, it’s when you fall for someone and have feelings for them even though you don’t really know them. I’m one of those people who have had lots of crushes, and sometimes I’ve even admitted my feelings. In fact, a recent example was just before I started my relationship with my current partner. I offloaded what I was feeling all of a sudden… I’ll tell you why I did it and how to go about it.

How Does A Narcissist React When They Can't Control You? 10 Things They Do

You probably know by now that narcissists only ever look for one thing and one thing only; and that’s control! Whether in their personal or professional life, folks with this personality disorder need to be in the driving seat and the one calling the shots, otherwise all hell breaks loose. 😨 Although their cunning and manipulative nature means they are often hard to escape, it is still possible to turn the tables on them and take the upper hand. Yet, you’ll need a thick skin to do so because when they feel their power slipping away, they become even more dangerous and abusive; here’s how they react when that happens.

I Still Suck My Thumb As An Adult

In general, thumb sucking ends around the age of 6. I say “in general” and not “normally”, because as an adult I don’t feel weird or particularly bothered by it. When I get stressed, I allow myself to let go and return to my childhood self by sucking my thumb. Those who know about it or catch me by surprise make me realize I should be ashamed… But is this habit a big deal? What if it makes me feel better? It’s certainly no worse than lighting up a cigarette or biting your nails…

Are Narcissists Lonely?

Loneliness is one of society’s biggest enemies, and none of us are exempt from it, not even the most devilish of narcissists out there. In fact, throughout the Coronavirus pandemic, 36% of Americans claimed that they have never felt lonelier, which sets a scary benchmark for the wider population 😔. Now, lots of us would no doubt immediately assume that narcissists are too independent and strong-willed to feel alone, however, the truth is they are often the biggest victims of loneliness, yet simply have trouble expressing their inner malaise.

Wengood's favorite tunes 🎵

Wengood's playlist

wengood

Only LoveBen Howard
4:08
Invalid date
Fix YouColdplay
4:55
Beautiful DayU2
4:08
Thinking out LoudEd Sheeran
4:41
White FlagDido
4:00
Lay Me DownSam Smith
4:13
Nine Million BicyclesKatie Melua
3:17
Put Your Records OnCorinne Bailey Rae
3:35
Summertime SadnessLana Del Rey
4:24
Imagine - Remastered 2010John Lennon
3:07
Shake It OutFlorence + The Machine
4:37
Space Oddity - Love You Til Tuesday versionDavid Bowie
3:46
What A Wonderful WorldLouis Armstrong
2:17
With Or Without YouU2
4:56
HelloAdele
4:55
Don't Stop Me NowQueen
3:29
Skinny LoveBirdy
3:21
WingsBirdy
4:12
Californian SoilLondon Grammar
3:41