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Narcissists are in fact MADE and not born as such
Although for the most part psychoanalyst experts agree that the narcissistic personality disorder appears in most sufferers at around the age of 18, they do also believe that the groundwork for these traits is laid in early childhood. Early childhood experiences are known to have huge influences on our personalities and the types of people we go on to become in later life.
As toddlers, our developmental stage is crucial and when children grow up with a lack of supervision, rules and guidance, they tend to believe that they are completely alone and in charge. When children between the ages of 2-4 experience this feeling, the brain becomes convinced that they are the center of the world and donāt need to take other people into consideration. Indeed, here their sense of self falls into overdrive, which leads to disastrous consequences afterwards.
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Parents are responsible for instilling an unjustified winnerās attitude
As parents, weāre probably all guilty of telling our children how smart and amazing they are. After all, weād probably do anything to see them smile, to the point when they finish last in a race, we constantly rack our brains to come up with reasons as to why in fact they are the true winners. On the surface, trying to build our childrenās confidence doesnāt exactly sound problematic, but when itās taken to the extreme, it can be completely detrimental to their development and can lead to a superiority complex. Instilling in children that they are fabulous doesnāt teach them to recognize their errors and can even give them God-like complexes, turning them into the perfect narcissists.
Narcissism originates from a lack of boundaries
Letās focus on childhood again because it is one of the most important stages of our lives in terms of character development and formation. When little to no boundaries are imposed upon us, we tend to think we are the boss and can do what we want, without having to face any sort of consequences. Boundaries are essential for learning the respect necessary to build healthy relationships in the future, and are much harder to learn as an adult.
Children imitate their parentsā behavior
Studies have shown that narcissistic parents often go on to have narcissistic children too. Indeed, parents with this profile lack the empathy necessary to nourish their children and give them the love and guidance they need to grow into respectable members of society. The sad part is that they often see their kids more as a possession or a convenience than anything else, which creates an environment propitious to toxicity.
What kind of upbringing creates a narcissist?
Many people think that you become narcissistic because you suffered as a child. But it is not as simple as that... Far from it! As with all other psychological problems and personality disorders, childhood also plays an important role in narcissism. Although genetic factors can also influence it, a person's family dynamics and upbringing form the basis of narcissism. So, how does the childhood of the narcissistic pervert explain his or her profile as an emotional manipulator? Although family dynamics cannot be the only reason, it is believed that certain parental behaviors make the child more vulnerable to this disorder.
Some researchers on the subject also put forward the thesis that parental neglect leads to narcissistic perversion in adulthood. Others point to toxic parents who also have narcissistic tendencies. The manipulative parent creates an environment that is so distressing for his or her child that the child uses mechanisms to protect him or herself. More often than not, the child reproduces the same behaviors as the parent in adulthood. Even more serious, the birth of the narcissist can also result from abuse by a parent, physical violence, but also psychological. In short, the origins of narcissistic perversion are often to be found in a dysfunctional family.
Editorās opinion - No one is born badWe hear a lot of outlandish theories related to people we regard as evil; be it serial killers or narcissists, however, the conclusion is always the same; these people were forced to become this way. If we look at āevil peopleāsā pasts, we often notice a common trend of neglect, mistreatment and often bullying, which they go on to replicate as adults, after all, we often repeat what we experience and this makes for a vicious circle in most cases. As babies, we are pure and all have good souls, yet as we mature, the traumas we are subjected to often change us and skew our personalities into becoming dangerous and harmful when it comes to mental health. š¤ Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Letās do it here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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