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The great thing about masturbation is that there are virtually no rules
As females, the first time explored what our vagina had to offer it was probably totally unconscious, but nonetheless felt good. Whether it was a caress or a quick tickle, that pressure and feeling no doubt felt earth-shattering. Thatās right, it was this intense pleasure that encouraged us to rediscover the sensations, to look for methods and to play with our body.
Pleasure is vital in all of our lives, and it gives us the feeling of well-being and self-care. Knowing that we can be master of our own pleasure, without asking anything from anyone, is also such a freeing sensation! All it takes is a few fingers, maybe a few accessories, and you're on your way to the (love) story with yourself. After all, if you want something done well, you have to do it by yourself.
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Rules are off the table, but advice is always welcome
There isnāt really one technique when it comes to masturbation, in fact, every woman has their method when it comes to self-pleasure. Over your panties, with one finger, with or without sex-toys, with or without penetration, in the shower, the beauty of this practice is that you can do whatever works for you. You should also know that from time to time, changing your habits is good. By always repeating the same gestures, you will quickly reach orgasm, but you may find it difficult to reach climax in other circumstances. Multiplying techniques also means multiplying orgasms!
Hereās some essential advice to reach climax:
1. Be yourself
When it comes to sexuality, we all tend to lie and pretend that we enjoy things. But here, when we are face to face with ourselves, it is useless to lie to oneself! We simply need to listen to our body, our desires and let ourselves be guided by our sensations.
2. Find your own calm place
Nowadays, privacy is even more important as we spend a lot of time at home. Masturbation is also a time to reconnect with oneself, or to let go. It's therefore necessary that one can be quiet and alone.
3. Find the time
Pleasuring yourself is to make time for yourself, to get to know oneself and to learn how to understand your body. Here, there is no room for judgement or disgust with regard to your body and appearance.
4. Give yourself all the power
Want to fantasize about a TV character? Go for it. Want to fantasize about your new neighbor? Thatās fine too. Want to try new sex toys? Donāt hold back. Be the master of your own pleasure and explore your own needs and desire in a safe and comfortable environment.
5. Break the routine
We all have our routines, and it's normal that once we've found the most efficient way to access pleasure that we donāt want to change things up. Routine pushes us to always stimulate the same areas of our clitoris, and it then becomes more and more difficult to find orgasm differently, alone or with others. So, don't hesitate to stimulate new erogenous zones, new areas of your clitoris and practice self-penetration to awaken your inner zones. Women are multi-orgasmic, so let's take advantage of it!
6. Look at yourself in the mirror
Remember when you were younger, you were scribbling penises on high school tables. Well, why a penis? Well, because you see it, you know what it looks like and how it works, but itās much harder to get an understanding of our vulva. To learn more about your body, you must look at yourself and explore if you want your love story to begin.
7. Play with both hands
You know we have two hands, right? And yet, when it comes to masturbation, we often only use one of them! Using both hands is a good way to get to know your body, to find new pleasurable zone and to caress areas that you rarely touch. Your nipples, your neck, the contour of your breasts, your navel, the top of your thighs, your buttocks all need attention too!
8. Lubricate
Sudden dryness is masturbationās worst enemy and can immediately put an end to an intimate moment! Plus, having a good lubricant is the basis for a good sex life.
9. Make it last
Make this moment last as long as possible. Relaxing the pressure, a little at this point will allow you to achieve a much deeper orgasm.
10. Change positions
Many of us tickle our clitoris with our fingers or an object while lying on our back, but what if we moved around a little? Try turning on your stomach and pressing on your clitoris with your hands, or rubbing yourself against a pillow for example. Why not give getting on your knees a go, or sitting down, using your thighs to rub and exert pressure on your clitoris.
In short, masturbation is a story of feminine power, self-love and curiosity. Whether you are single, in a relationship, polyamorous, pregnant, etc., there is no reason to deprive yourself of this pleasure.
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Editor's note - What is the purpose of masturbation?Masturbation is first and foremost about pleasure, but it goes beyond that, it is as necessary to our balance as partnered sex. It is a way to love ourselves, to make peace with ourselves, to have more self-confidence, to learn to let go, but also to find sleep, to de-stress, to satisfy our fantasies, to relax and above all, to appropriate our body, especially when our relationship with ourselves can be conflictual. |
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