Female Masturbation: Follow Our Tips And Caress Your Way To Pleasure

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That’s right, masturbation isn’t exclusively reserved for men, and us girls can enjoy the benefits of this practice too. It may seem like a very taboo subject, although over time it is becoming more and more talked about online, but that’s not to say that women feel comfortable with the idea… Many women run away from this pleasure and refuse to take care of themselves because they feel a cocktail of shame, fear, and embarrassment. Masturbation is all about self-care and making love to your body, and it’s one that no one should feel too guilty to practice.

Female Masturbation: Follow Our Tips And Caress Your Way To Pleasure

The great thing about masturbation is that there are virtually no rules

As females, the first time explored what our vagina had to offer it was probably totally unconscious, but nonetheless felt good. Whether it was a caress or a quick tickle, that pressure and feeling no doubt felt earth-shattering. That’s right, it was this intense pleasure that encouraged us to rediscover the sensations, to look for methods, and to play with our bodies.

Pleasure is vital in all of our lives, and it gives us the feeling of well-being and self-care. Knowing that we can be masters of our pleasure, without asking anything from anyone, is also such a freeing sensation! All it takes is a few fingers, maybe a few accessories, and you're on your way to the (love) story with yourself. After all, if you want something done well, you have to do it by yourself.

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Rules are off the table for self-pleasure tips, but the advice is always welcome

There isn’t one technique when it comes to masturbation, every woman has their method when it comes to self-pleasure. Over your panties, with one finger, with or without sex toys, with or without penetration, in the shower, the beauty of this practice is that you can do whatever works for you. You should also know that from time to time, changing your habits is good. By always repeating the same gestures, you will quickly reach orgasm, but you may find it difficult to reach climax in other circumstances. Multiplying techniques also mean multiplying orgasms!

Masturbation tips for women - Here’s some essential advice to reach climax:

1. Be yourself

When it comes to sexuality, we all tend to lie and pretend that we enjoy things. But here, when we are face to face with ourselves, it is useless to lie to ourselves! We simply need to listen to our body, our desires and let ourselves be guided by our sensations.

2. Find your calm place

Nowadays, privacy is even more important as we spend a lot of time at home. Masturbation is also a time to reconnect with oneself or to let go. It's, therefore, necessary that one can be quiet and alone.

3. Find the time

Pleasuring yourself is to make time for yourself, to get to know yourself, and to learn how to understand your body. Here, there is no room for judgment or disgust about your body and appearance.

4. Give yourself all the power

Want to fantasize about a TV character? Go for it. Want to fantasize about your new neighbor? That’s fine too. Want to try new sex toys? Don’t hold back. Be the master of your pleasure and explore your own needs and desire in a safe and comfortable environment.

5. Break the routine

We all have our routines, and it's normal that once we've found the most efficient way to access pleasure, we don’t want to change things up. Routine pushes us to always stimulate the same areas of our clitoris, and it then becomes more and more difficult to find orgasm differently, alone or with others. So, don't hesitate to stimulate new erogenous zones, new areas of your clitoris, and practice self-penetration to awaken your inner zones. Women are multi-orgasmic, so let's take advantage of it!

6. Look at yourself in the mirror

Remember when you were younger, you were scribbling penises on high school tables. Well, why a penis? Well, because you see it, you know what it looks like and how it works, but it’s much harder to get an understanding of our vulva. To learn more about your body, you must look at yourself and explore if you want your love story to begin.

7. Play with both hands

You know we have two hands, right? And yet, when it comes to masturbation, we often only use one of them! Using both hands is a good way to get to know your body, to find a new pleasurable zone, and to caress areas that you rarely touch. Your nipples, your neck, the contour of your breasts, your navel, the top of your thighs, your buttocks all need attention too!

8. Lubricate

Sudden dryness is masturbation’s worst enemy and can immediately put an end to an intimate moment! Plus, having a good lubricant is the basis for good sex life.

9. Make it last

Make this moment last as long as possible. Relaxing the pressure, a little, at this point will allow you to achieve a much deeper orgasm.

10. Change positions

Many of us tickle our clitoris with our fingers or an object while lying on our back, but what if we moved around a little? Try turning on your stomach and pressing on your clitoris with your hands, or rubbing yourself against a pillow, for example. Why not give getting on your knees a go, or sitting down, using your thighs to rub and exert pressure on your clitoris.

In short, masturbation is a story of feminine power, self-love, and curiosity. Whether you are single, in a relationship, polyamorous, pregnant, etc., there is no reason to deprive yourself of this pleasure.

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Editor's note - What is the purpose of masturbation?

Masturbation is first and foremost about pleasure, but it goes beyond that, it is as necessary to our balance as partnered sex. It is a way to love ourselves, to make peace with ourselves, to have more self-confidence, to learn to let go, but also to find sleep, to de-stress, to satisfy our fantasies, to relax, and above all, to appropriate our body, especially when our relationship with ourselves can be conflictual.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!

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