Spending time alone is arguably healthy and beneficial for our mental health, but, regularly feeling lonely, on the other hand, can be very detrimental to our social and communication skills. When it comes to narcissists, they have a reputation for feeling superior, which means that they will do anything they deem necessary in order for people to admire them and never openly talk about their alleged ‘weaknesses’. Plus, they believe that being open about their feelings and admitting to feeling alone and misunderstood, will make them appear weak, which is why they often choose to flee their emotions. For them, remaining in the dark about what they feel this a way of saving face, although, in reality, they are crying out to be loved and to build connections, yet too proud and afraid to recognize their needs.
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4 Reasons why narcissists are lonely
Harsh but true...
1) They are unable to connect with people
These folks arguably lack empathy, which means they have no time for heartfelt discussions, and even less time for genuine connections. They fail to see why having friends and being able to confide in people are important.
2) Their personalities intimidate people
Whilst people with narcissistic personality disorders can be charming at points, their bullish and manipulative behavior always shine through eventually. That’s right, the prospect of becoming friends with someone so devious understandably scares people.
3) They have their walls up
Letting people in is definitely a narcissist’s worst nightmare! It’s just not in their nature to make themselves appear vulnerable and let people into their lives. For them, opening up to someone is a synonym of them relinquishing their power and losing the upper hand.
4) They are scared to put themselves out there
Despite the facade they hide behind, narcissists are very insecure people and are constantly scared of judgement. Their fear of being judged prevents them from creating a solid support base around them, and paradoxically encourages them to become more devious.
Do narcissists end up alone?
Narcissists frequently end up alone due to the simple fact that they are incapable of enjoying healthy relationships. Although the most high-functioning ones may be able to fool someone into sticking around for a set amount of time. However, generally, their devious ways, lack of empathy, and immeasurable egos prevent them from ever finding true love. Plus, they are totally against the idea of changing and working on themselves, which evidently scares potential suitors away. After all, no one wants to be the only partner making concessions and sacrifices in a relationship. Now, although they’ll never admit it, ending up alone does in fact terrify these folks, however, the prospect isn’t intimidating enough for them to want to become better people…
Do narcissists isolate themselves?
A narcissist isolates themselves (at home for example without seeing anyone) WHEN they are too overwhelmed; especially in the instance when he has gone hunting for new prey, and has received many narcissistic sources. When their search for new victims has been successful, they are obliged to withdraw themselves from the situation because otherwise they will implode. Although narcissists do well for a certain amount of time during their isolation, they’ll soon take up their narcissistic ways again. In fact, their isolation will not exceed 1 week max, because they cannot fight off temptation to manipulation any longer.
Does the narcissist ever get sad?
As much as they may like to hide and conceal their emotions, narcissists are just like anyone else when it comes to their feelings, meaning they do get sad at points. However, that being said, they’ll never openly admit to feeling down or upset, because they are simply scared of people judging them and looking upon them as weak. Plus, these personalities never really talk about their feelings either, or share with those close to them when they are feeling down. In fact, their behavior gives away when they are sad, because they instantly become very vindictive and even more relentless in their actions.
Can a narcissist be likeable?
At the beginning, narcissists can come across as very friendly, attractive and fun to be around. However, this is just a technique for them to seduce their prey and destroy them little by little. Most narcissists are unaware of their problem and are convinced that they are acting for the good of others (a minority is sadistic and takes pleasure in making others suffer). The manipulations of these people can be distinguished from emotional blackmail, small lies or guilt-tripping of others, which make everyone more or less manipulative. The signs are similar and usually appear in early adulthood.
Here are 5 signs of a narcissist and how they behave:
- an excessive need to be adulated
- a strong tendency to megalomania
- egocentricity
- a low degree of empathy towards others
- an excessive quest for recognition.
Editor’s opinion - Expressing their feelings is impossible for themWe all have certain struggles when it comes to talking about how we feel, but a narcissist’s inability to express what they are going through is definitely more penalizing for them than for anyone else. These personalities are lonely, yet their innate traits prevent them for breaking the cycle of loneliness, and also dissuades others from attempting to pull them out of their misery.
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Nora