I’ll be the first to admit that my stubbornness means I’m not exactly the most willing person when it comes to uttering the words ‘I’m sorry’, but I always push through my pride; although unfortunately, the same can’t be said for narcissists... Indeed, people who suffer from this personality disorder will simply never hold their hands up and accept responsibility for their actions, despite how deeply they’ve hurt your feelings. You know the idiom getting blood from a stone, right? Well, when it comes to apologies from these toxic personalities, nothing is more appropriate, and here are 6 reasons why!
Holding yourself accountable for the mistakes you’ve made, and the people you’ve hurt definitely requires strong inner strength, that unfortunately not all of us are blessed with. The sad thing is that no matter what happens in life, certain people will never attempt to put things right, or make amends. If you know someone who is completely incapable of making a mea culpa and who is completely unconcerned by the prospects of making things right, it’s time for you to consider whether they have narcissistic traits.
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The 6 explanations below will give you some extra insights into their bad behavior!
The truth is, narcissists find it impossible to put themselves in other people’s shoes, and therefore fail to understand how intense and hurtful emotions can actually be. Plus, they are simply clueless when it comes to being sympathetic and comforting, so, if you are friends with one, you probably shouldn’t go to them for support after a breakup, for example.
When they choose to ignore their victim’s pain, they can therefore wash their hands of all responsibility, and simply act like nothing has happened. In their minds, failing to acknowledge their wrongdoings helps legitimize their behavior and subsequent choices.
Because they believe themselves to be superior beings in every sense of the word, narcissists actually think that people are so weak in the face of their manipulation, that they will forget their wickedness.
You’ve no doubt already figured it out, but these folks always remain completely in denial with regard to accountability and instead opt to blame their victims when trouble arises. That’s right, gaslighting is definitely one of their not-so-secret weapons.
Why on earth would they waste their time trying to apologize to people who they consider as being below them?
Now, this is probably the most hard-hitting reason of all, and confirms the cycle of toxicity. Despite their promises to change, people with this personality disorder can never fully put a stop to their inherent desires to hurt and control others.
A narcissist will never admit to wrongdoing, whether that be in a relationship or in a friendship setting, they will never ask for forgiveness for the mistakes they have made. He or she will never admit to wrongdoing and will not try to make amends. The reason for this attitude lies in their egocentric and domineering nature, which does not include the slightest bit of compassion and empathy. Besides, the fact that a narcissist is simply too proud to admit being in the wrong, his overinflated ego makes him deny any wrongdoing, plus his low self-esteem puts him in a constant battle to look good in the eyes of others.
When expressing disagreement with a narcissistic person, we often enter delicate, emotionally-charged territory. These folks tend to have an exaggerated view of their own importance and are reluctant to accept contrary opinions. As a result, simply disagreeing with them can trigger negative reactions. They may become defensive and seek to invalidate your point of view, making you feel diminished or ignored. Some narcissists may also use manipulative tactics, such as gaslighting, to make you doubt yourself and question your own beliefs. In some cases, they may even react with anger, rage, or rejection, seeking to maintain their image of superiority. It's crucial to remain aware of these dynamics and seek to establish healthy boundaries to protect your emotional well-being in the face of these potentially toxic interactions.
Narcissists tend to be impulsive with their reactions and certainly don’t like being pressured into doing things. Plus, they certainly don’t like the idea of being threatened either, so if you want an apology from one, you must bide your time. Here, there’s no use in trying to back them into a corner because they’ll simply lash out at the idea of them losing control over the situation. In any case, letting them know exactly what you feel and expect is important, however, your efforts definitely need to be measured.
When narcissists know they are in the wrong and that you won’t back down, they’ll try to overwhelm you and get you to move on, in an attempt to avoid taking responsibility. Narcissists are adept at turning certain situations around to make it seem like the other person is to blame. They pretend to be victims, they twist their words and do everything they can to make you think they did nothing wrong. Next, if you notice a narcissist trying to change the subject to disagree, refocus the conversation on the main point. He probably won't admit his mistake, but he'll know he can't manipulate you so easily anymore.
Now, let’s get to the thick of it, in short, narcissists never apologize for being unfaithful and never really have any regrets regarding it. Cheating is not something they consider to be a betrayal of any form, which explains why they are so unbothered by it. For them, cheating is an activity with little to no consequences, which is why these manipulators never feel guilty for it. If in the rare case that these controlling folks do say sorry for their actions, it will only be because they consider that it offers them a better chance of retaining the same level of control and power. In short, their apologies are never genuine or authentic, and if they apologize, it’s only because they believe that it will give them a tactical advantage.
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Editor’s opinion - Not apologizing gives them powerThe bottom line is that narcissists are constantly on the lookout for ways to keep the upper hand, and overtly refusing to say sorry even when they know they’ve done something wrong is a perfect example of the lengths they’ll go to. It’s also a way for them to prevent you from moving on, and more importantly to stunt the healing process. 🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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