Now, a narcissist will certainly never win boyfriend or husband of the year, but when their feelings are hurt and their partner has ended things, they crank up the intensity level of their evilness. Their immaturity and need for revenge mean they are incapable of respecting the decision to end things, and will begin to treat their past lovers in an even more demonic way.
Narcissists treat their exes horribly - Here are 6 examples of what they do to their exes post breakup
1) They dip in and out of their lives
Narcissists are anything but predictable, and they love to keep their exes on their toes by regularly ghosting them and popping back up in their lives. At certain points, theyâll bombard their ex-partners with messages telling them how much they miss them, whereas, at others, theyâll give them the silent treatment for weeks on end. The instability they inflict on their partner means they remain in control and are constantly in the driverâs seat by picking and choosing when to communicate.
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2) Theyâll try to become friends with them
Theyâll no doubt claim that they donât want any drama, and will insist they want to be amicable about things moving forward. By reinforcing the idea that they want to stay friends, they are actively leaving the door open to getting back together whenever please. The truth is, their sense of superiority means they believe that they can restart relationships whenever, regardless of what has happened.
3) Theyâll flirt with them
Flirting involves toying with peopleâs emotions and exciting their curiosity, and itâs a field that self-obsessed narcissists excel in. They love feeling sexy and wanted because it boosts their ego and sense of self-importance. Plus, by flirting with their ex, theyâll reinforce their puppet master role and therefore believe they are the architects of their future.
4) Theyâll spread lies about their exes
By moving on to the darker side of a narcissistâs personality, we soon realize that they are extremely bitter exes and will always attempt to seek revenge. Now, they are never even slightly concerned about hurting peopleâs feelings or remorseful about their actions, no, they are more worried about saving face. Indeed, preserving their reputation is so important to them that they become even more obsessed with their ego and will make up lies in order to do so. Plus, nothing is out of bounds for them, that do anything they deem useful to get back at their exes.
5) Theyâll play mind games
Narcissists are well known for playing mind games because they help to reinforce their hold over their current or past victims. Theyâll resort to love bombing, self-esteem reduction, and emotional manipulation to keep their ex under the thumb. The truth is, these games send subliminal messages to the victims that theyâll never truly break free and get their lives back. Here, we are dealing with emotional torturers who will stop at nothing to crush people that they believe have betrayed them.
6) Theyâll blackmail them
Whether they have compromising text messages or photos of their exes, theyâll use whatever material they have against them, and of course theyâll take pleasure in seeing them squirm. They get their sick kicks from making threats and will use whatever they have to get their past lovers to do exactly what they want, which means breaking the cycle of abuse can be excessively tough.
Is my ex a narcissist? - Here are 6 signs he is
Love is definitely a blinding emotion and can be very confusing for our emotions. When we are with someone, it can be hard to see their flaws and even tougher to pick up on their bad behavior, especially where manipulation and gaslighting are concerned. Plus, narcissists donât exactly parade around with a badge on declaring their personality disorder. If you are recently fresh out of a relationship and have doubts about your ex flame, here are the signs that your ex is a narcissist.
1) He was the one who decided when we saw each other.
When you made offers, he declined. Often heâd say he had a lot of work on, but preferred to take care of things from A-Z anyway.
2) When you spoke to him about how you felt, he cut the conversation short.
He said some pretty hurtful phrases: if I like you, it's not for your intelligence, or you're stupid, you're fat, and even, you have a big nose. Always on the tone of the fun so that it went down better.
3) He never introduced you to his family or his friends.
You now wonder whether they even know you existed.
4) He talked about the future, but never included you in his plans.
You were always an afterthought in everything.
5) His words and actions that don't add up.
For example, he told you that we were in a relationship but never acted as if you were.
6) His past was a mystery
He never really spoke about his life, his past relationships. You hardly knew what he did with his days or even those long evenings when you were without news.
Do narcissists miss their exes?
This certainly isnât an easy question to answer because absolutely nothing is straightforward with these bullies. Whilst on paper, narcissists are incapable of loving anyone other than themselves, they struggle with the idea of change, so when someone they previously relied on suddenly disappears, they can feel sad, although they wonât admit it. These slippery snakes need a steady network of people around them to be able to feed into their grandiose ideas and theories. Now, they wonât miss their exes romantically, but they will miss being able to manipulate and toy with them.
What a narcissist does at the end of a relationship
At the end of a relationship, the narcissist is likely to descend into free fall and seek revenge in any way possible. The act of revenge in itself aims at breaking your self-esteem, and even your ego/you feel betrayed, and you do not know how to react to this reality. In short, your former abuser is essentially waiting to trigger a reaction from you, whether it is good or bad. After an unwanted breakup, the narcissist will do everything to push you to your limits, in order to make you lash out, and therefore look like the bad guy. Thatâs why your first action after a breakup should be to block him purely and simply and to work on yourself to move on and not think about him anymore. Don't try to keep in touch with him because you won't be able to stop his hold as long as you will be in contact with him.
What do narcissists say about their exes?
Letâs be honest, a narcissistic person will never ever say anything positive about one of their ex-partners, and thatâs simply because they want to pass themselves off as the victim. Narcissists wonât hesitate to tell their friends and family that their ex was a liar, a cheater, and manipulative. Theyâll call them all the names under the sun in order to get people to believe that their ex was the toxic partner in the relationship. In fact, theyâll even go as far as to make up stories and lies about their behavior, and in some cases, theyâll switch roles in the story for an even more convincing delivery. In short, theyâll never be completely honest about what went on, and will never be very complimentary about their former partners either. After all, telling the truth would ultimately unmask them.
Editorâs opinion - Talk about your troublesIf you are still being emotionally toyed with by a bitter ex, then seeking support in the form of friends, a group, or even law enforcement is one of the best ways to ensure your safety. Opening up may be difficult, but itâs an essential step towards safeguarding your mental health.
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Was he ever physically abusiveâŠ. Did he ever threaten your life? Did you make it out?
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