For starters, what is flirting?
Yes, it’s probably best to start by agreeing on what we understand by flirting. Flirting is nothing more than seduction, it's when you establish a bond. According to Wikipedia, it refers to a romantic relationship characterized by frivolity and one which is free of deep feelings. But, I don’t agree at all. I see it as an opening, and I believe it’s about desire and excitement rather than love.
I have been in a relationship long enough for the trust I have in my partner to be quite firm and established. Likewise, I don’t worry about what he is doing when I’m not there. So when I have fun making eyes at the server in my favorite bar, when I laugh at his jokes, make innuendos or even brush past him, I don’t feel like I’m harming my relationship. For me, it’s a game without consequences, and I can't imagine myself getting annoyed with my partner if he enjoyed playing the same game. When it comes to wanting to feel desired, I don't see anything wrong with it when it's done within reason. After all, what's wrong with wanting to please and wanting to feel attractive.
I have a friend and even after several years of marriage, jealousy is an integral part of her relationship. It's not what I'd call unhealthy jealousy, but it's strong enough for her not to be able to handle seeing her husband talking to another woman. For her, it’s obvious, flirting is cheating and when her husband crosses the line and partakes in it, for her, it's a form of betrayal. She can’t stand the idea that her husband might lust after or want another woman. She, on the other hand, doesn’t flirt at all and if she found out that her husband had spent the evening chatting with another woman, I’m not sure if she would forgive him for it.
So, is flirting cheating?
It all depends on how far we go, the trust we have in ourselves, and in our relationship. Am I capable of teasing without taking it too far? Do I trust my partner enough to know he wouldn’t sleep with another person?
How do you tell if it’s flirting or not? - 2 Undeniable signs
Wondering how to tell if someone is flirting with you? Here are some signs you can look for: playful touching, eye contact, and quick texting. If any of these signs are true, there is a good chance the man is flirting with you.
1) Eye contact
In general, women do not appreciate unwanted attention from men. Therefore, they are not used to the idea of being considered for long periods of time. However, if you make eye contact with a man, and he doesn't immediately look away, it may mean that he is attracted to you. Therefore, it is best for men to limit eye contact to brief glances and look away first when they make eye contact. If she doesn't look away, you may have a chance to get her attention if you make eye contact more often.
Another tip for recognizing whether a man is flirting with you is to look at his behavior. Notice if he smiles or laughs a lot. If he seems genuinely happy, it is more likely that he likes you. He will also show more positive facial expressions. When he looks at you, he probably feels something for you.
2) Playful touches
One of the easiest ways to tell if someone is flirting with you is to pay attention to the way they act around you. If it seems like they're being particularly friendly to you, it's most likely flirting. Look for subtle movements, such as a light touch of the arm, a move toward you, or a raise of the eyebrows. These are all signs that someone is flirting with you. If you notice any of these signs, it's time to move on to the next person.
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Editor's advice – “I’m just playing…”
It’s all very well being in love, always yearning for our partner, but maybe, during a chance meeting in a lift, the new 6th floor neighbor makes a good impression on us. It’s no use, when he says hello to us or catches our eye, we feel a tingling in our tummy. And this is what we imagine, not to mention the other scenarios we come up with, the minute we are feeling down during the day. Yes, yearning for someone other than your partner is possible, and it doesn’t mean you have to act upon this urge. If flirting is synonymous with playing with fire, then a thought remains just a thought. And if we throw ourselves into the flames, we move on to another game…
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