These 10 scenarios indicate that your mom is indeed a narcissist
How many of them have you had to experience over the years?
1) She wants to control your every move and decision
Whether it was your choice of college or friends or even where you live, if your mom encrusts herself in every realm of your adult life, then your relationship is certainly toxic. Having a hands-on mom around is great, but that doesn’t mean that she has the right to overstep the boundaries and force you to follow her will. Moms are there to advise us and support us, not to control us and dictate our lives.
2) She’ll disapprove of all your friends and partners
The bottom line is that she is never satisfied and never agrees with any of your decisions, because she wants to be the one making them for you. She doesn’t want you to be your own person and will therefore criticize everything you do to forge your own character and way in life. In her eyes, no one is ever good enough for her baby and no one ever will be, unless she decides so.
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3) She’ll never say ‘I love you’
If your mom is a narcissist, then you’ll probably struggle to remember times when she was affectionate and loving towards you, even during your childhood. You no doubt never got to enjoy hugs, kisses on your forehead or gentle words of encouragement from her when you needed them most, and that’s because she was, and still is, too wrapped up in herself to care enough.
4) She’ll put you down
She’ll tell you that you’ve put on weight or that she doesn’t like your new haircut, because for her, nothing is out of bounds. Now, although many of us might choose to put these hurtful remarks down to a slip of the tongue, they are in fact signs of narcissistic abuse. In fact, anything your mom says to negatively impact your self-confidence is a sign that she is toxic for you and your mental health.
5) She’ll manipulate your feelings and opinions
Having a narcissistic personality disorder means you can’t resist the idea of being in control and in order to gain the power that you so desperately desire, you’ll do anything, including manipulating your own children. From making up rumors to inventing stories, these dangerous moms know every dirty trick in the book to keep their kids under their influence.
6) She won’t support you
If, for example, you have been offered a new job or even a promotion, your mom will never encourage you to go for it, instead, she’ll make you doubt your capacities and openly put you down in front of other people. Her reluctance to support you can be traced back to her jealousy and the fact that she doesn’t want other people to believe her own daughter is more successful than her.
7) She’ll pretend to use tough love on you
Whenever you find the courage to confront her regarding her behavior, she always manages to turn the situation around and convince you that you are the problem. It’s you who is being sensitive, and it’s you who is unable to accept her so-called tough love. Narcissistic moms never take responsibility for their actions, not even towards their own children...
8) She’ll lie
Lies constantly spew out of her mouth, to the point where you are truly unable to tell when she is actually telling the truth.
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9) She’ll guilt-trip you
Making you feel guilty is her number one priority because she wants to paint herself out to be a victim. She wants to be appear as downtrodden and helpless, and will do whatever it takes to change the narrative when you begin to confront and expose her toxicity.
10) She’ll never apologize
She simply doesn’t possess the courage to utter the words ‘I’m sorry’...
Editor’s opinion - Sometimes walking away is the healthiest decision
Children of narcissistic parents will know how painful and draining it is to maintain a relationship with them, so why not walk away once and for all and break free? Hear me out! As with any toxic relationship; be it with a boyfriend or a friend, we always advise putting our mental health first and taking the distance necessary in order to protect ourselves, so why wouldn’t we do the same with our moms too? Although cutting your mom off may seem a little extreme to some, if she is dangerous for your mental health and makes you feel terrible about yourself, you don’t really have a lot to lose in the grand scheme of things. Life is too short to spend it with people who drag us down, despite our blood link with them.
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