Can Narcissists Become Addicted To A Person? And, How To Make A Narcissist Obsessed

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Now, narcissists are known for demonstrating a worrying lack of empathy along with deviously manipulative traits, oh, and before I forget to mention it, HUGE egos too 😈. Yes, that’s right, they love spending hours looking in the mirror and being told how fabulous they are. To put it in other words, people with this personality disorder are firmly in love with themselves, to the point of being totally obsessed with their so-called perfection, but the question is, can they put their self-admiration aside enough to become preoccupied with someone else? If, on the other hand, you're looking to get a narcissist hooked on you, you're in the right place with these tips.

Can Narcissists Become Addicted To A Person? And, How To Make A Narcissist Obsessed

Yes, narcissists can become addicted to a person, especially if it's their victim 😕

Although at first glance, people with narcissistic personalities seem to be completely and utterly wrapped up in themselves, they do in fact find the strength and time to become obsessed with those they dream of manipulating. Now, I’m not trying to scare you, but narcissists love analyzing people’s personalities for their own personal gain, and in order to do so, they need to become very closely acquainted with their potential prey, which means stalking them on social media for example, meeting their friends and getting up very close and personal with them. 

When a person or in this case, potential victim, has caught their eye, they’ll spend hours and hours trying to learn everything about them, in an attempt to uncover their weaknesses because their goal is to manipulate them. For them, having insights on their prey is the key to grabbing control of their lives and breaking down their spirit.

Narcissistic behavior

After all, in order to remain on top, hunters (in this case narcissists) must always know the inner workings of their prey and understand how they operate. Furthermore, being in control is what drives them, so having to scroll through years and years of MySpace statuses in order to dig up precious scoops about those they have set their sights on isn’t going to get in the way of their ultimate aim.

>>> Read; Who do narcissists target?

How to make a narcissist obsessed with you?

The best way to get a narcissist to obsess over you is to totally avoid them. To do so this, follow these few steps ⬇️:

1) Succeed and thrive 💪

After breaking up with a narcissist, strive to succeed in everything you undertake. Prove to them that you are better off without them. At this point, there is a chance they may become obsessed with you.

2) Cut off all contact with him ❌

Avoid any contact with the narcissist, including calls, messages, and social media. To make them fall in love with you, the most important thing is to create a void. By doing this, you deprive them of the attention and admiration they need to feel good. As they are attracted to what they cannot have, they will undoubtedly become addicted to you.

3) Move forward 🏃

After a relationship with a manipulator, take control of your life. Men, especially manipulators, are attracted to strong, independent, and self-assured women. They then doubt their own abilities and become obsessed with them. But beware, trying to make someone with this pathology fall in love is a dangerous game.

Why might a narcissist obsess over one ex?

When a narcissistic person becomes obsessive with an ex-partner, it may be the result of several factors related to their personality and emotional needs. Here are some possible explanations ⬇️:

  • Loss of control and narcissistic wounding: The end of a relationship can be perceived as a loss of control for a narcissistic person. Losing the attention, admiration and power she had over her ex-partner can cause significant narcissistic injury. As a result, she may become obsessed with her ex in order to regain control, restore her wounded ego and maintain a hold on the person.

  • Need for validation and admiration: Narcissistic people have a constant need to be admired and valued. When they no longer receive this validation from their ex-partner, they may become obsessive in the hope of re-establishing this source of approval. They may seek to reassure themselves that they are still desirable and superior to their ex-partner.

  • Need to feel superior: Narcissists have an exaggerated sense of their own importance, and seek to feel superior to others. Obsession with an ex-partner may be motivated by a desire to maintain the idea of being the best option, or to prove that they are irreplaceable. They may see the relationship with the ex-partner as a competition and be determined to be perceived as the winner.

💡 Practical tip time - How to protect yourself from the negative effects of a narcissist's obsession 💡

Although it's extremely difficult to directly change the behavior of people with this personality disorder, there are several strategies you can use to minimize the impact they can have on your life and protect yourself from abuse.

1. Stay calm and cool
When confronted with this toxic personality, staying calm and not reacting to provocation is essential. Don't play their game by returning their insults or trying to convince them. By remaining calm and taking a neutral stance, you're showing the narcissist that you're not ready to play their game and that their attempts to get you down won't work.

2. Set clear limits and enforce them
If you're confronted with a narcissist, the most important thing you can do is set clear boundaries and uphold them. You need to express your point of view firmly and be very clear about what you are and aren't prepared to accept. Make sure you communicate your feelings and intentions clearly every time you interact with the manipulator. Being firm but not aggressive can reduce the risk of manipulation and harassment.

3. Learn to recognize and refuse cries for help
Narcissists can be experts in the art of manipulation, and know how to exploit the psychological weaknesses of others to get what they want. They may resort to pathos-filled rhetoric or pleas for help by feigning vulnerability to try to dissuade you from ending the relationship. It's important to recognize these stratagems and refuse to accede to their demands.

The 5 reasons why narcissists become obsessed with people

Let's face it, these people have addictive and obsessive personalities, which means their brains are wired to go all in on people. Add to that lethal mix the fact that they love to in control, and you've got yourself a recipe for disaster 💣. In fact, these folks absolutely feel the need to be in the driving seat when it comes to their victims, which is no doubt why they constantly turn up at their houses or places of work, and also why they bombard them with phone calls and messages. For them, their obsessions are potent drugs that they just can't manage to go cold turkey on.

Discover the inner workings of their minds and what fuels their compulsion below.

  • 1) Jealousy
  • 2) Fear
  • 3) Boredom
  • 4) An inherent need to control
  • 5) Feeling threatened

How to tell if a narcissist is obsessed with you?

Identifying whether a narcissistic person is obsessed with you can be complex, as their behavior can be subtle and manipulative. However, there are certain signs that can indicate narcissistic obsession. If this person always seems to want to be the center of your attention, constantly seeks your approval, and excessively compliments you to win your admiration, this can be a sign. They may also be jealous and possessive, seeking to control your time, activities, and social interactions.

Narcissistic obsession can manifest itself in devaluing your opinions and achievements, or projecting their insecurities onto you to make you vulnerable and dependent. If this person does not tolerate your independence and seeks to isolate you from others, this can be another indicator of narcissistic obsession. It's vital to recognize these signs and take steps to protect your well-being and set clear boundaries if necessary. If you have concerns about a relationship with a narcissistic person, seek support from friends, family, or qualified professionals to help you cope.

📍 Tip time;📍 What to do if you believe a narcissist is obsessed with you

If you believe that this is the case, running a mile probably sounds like a great shout, although it’s probably not the most feasible choice. Instead, let’s be realistic and think of the bigger picture, which is your mental health. When we are surrounded by truly toxic individuals, our mental health and self-esteem are likely to nosedive, which is why we must open up to our friends and family about what we are going through, whilst establishing boundaries with our abuser. We must take any means necessary to regain control, including blocking our abuser, refusing to see them and denying them sympathy or support.

Editor’s opinion - All obsessions can become extreme...

Any sort of obsession can become unhealthy, especially when it is focused on an individual. In this case, folks with this personality disorder can indeed veer into a dangerous sense of disillusion and become irrational. If you know someone who is going through this, encourage them to reach out to mental health professionals for help and support before their condition takes over.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!


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