Now, narcissists are known for demonstrating a worrying lack of empathy along with deviously manipulative traits, oh, and before I forget to mention it, HUGE egos too š. Yes, thatās right, they love spending hours looking in the mirror and being told how fabulous they are. To put it in other words, people with this personality disorder are firmly in love with themselves, to the point of being totally obsessed with their so-called perfection, but the question is, can they put their self-admiration aside enough to become preoccupied with someone else? If, on the other hand, you're looking to get a narcissist hooked on you, you're in the right place with these tips.
Although at first glance, people with narcissistic personalities seem to be completely and utterly wrapped up in themselves, they do in fact find the strength and time to become obsessed with those they dream of manipulating. Narcissists may appear self-absorbed, but their need for control and validation often drives them to fixate on others. This obsession is not born out of love or admiration but rather a desire to dominate and manipulate. For them, people are tools to be used for their own gain, and once they set their sights on someone, they will stop at nothing to exert their influence. Now, Iām not trying to scare you, but narcissists love analyzing peopleās personalities for their own personal gain, and in order to do so, they need to become very closely acquainted with their potential prey, which means stalking them on social media for example, meeting their friends, and getting up very close and personal with them.
When a person or in this case, potential victim, has caught their eye, theyāll spend hours and hours trying to learn everything about them, in an attempt to uncover their weaknesses because their goal is to manipulate them. Narcissists are highly skilled at reading people and identifying their vulnerabilities. They use this information to manipulate and control their targets, often playing on their insecurities to create a sense of dependency. For them, having insights on their prey is the key to grabbing control of their lives and breaking down their spirit.
After all, in order to remain on top, hunters (in this case narcissists) must always know the inner workings of their prey and understand how they operate. Furthermore, being in control is what drives them, so having to scroll through years and years of MySpace statuses in order to dig up precious scoops about those they have set their sights on isnāt going to get in the way of their ultimate aim.
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The best way to get a narcissist to obsess over you is to totally avoid them. Narcissists are drawn to what they canāt have, and when you distance yourself from them, it triggers their need for control. By cutting off contact and thriving without them, you challenge their sense of superiority, making them desperate to regain control. To do so, follow these few steps ā¬ļø:
After breaking up with a narcissist, strive to succeed in everything you undertake. Prove to them that you are better off without them. At this point, there is a chance they may become obsessed with you.
Avoid any contact with the narcissist, including calls, messages, and social media. By cutting off contact, you deprive them of the attention and admiration they need to feel good. As they are attracted to what they cannot have, they will undoubtedly become addicted to you.
After a relationship with a manipulator, take control of your life. Men, especially manipulators, are attracted to strong, independent, and self-assured women. They then doubt their own abilities and become obsessed with them. But beware, trying to make someone with this pathology fall in love is a dangerous game.
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When a narcissistic person becomes obsessive with an ex-partner, it may be the result of several factors related to their personality and emotional needs. Here are some possible explanations ā¬ļø:
Letās face it, these people have addictive and obsessive personalities, which means their brains are wired to go all in on people. Add to that lethal mix the fact that they love to be in control, and youāve got yourself a recipe for disaster š£. In fact, these folks absolutely feel the need to be in the driving seat when it comes to their victims, which is no doubt why they constantly turn up at their houses or places of work, and also why they bombard them with phone calls and messages. For them, their obsessions are potent drugs that they just canāt manage to go cold turkey on.
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Although itās extremely difficult to directly change the behavior of people with this personality disorder, there are several strategies you can use to minimize the impact they can have on your life and protect yourself from abuse:
Editorās opinion - All obsessions can become extreme...Any sort of obsession can become unhealthy, especially when it is focused on an individual. In this case, folks with this personality disorder can indeed veer into a dangerous sense of disillusion and become irrational. If you know someone who is going through this, encourage them to reach out to mental health professionals for help and support before their condition takes over. š¤ Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Letās do it here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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