Can Narcissists Become Addicted To A Person? And, How To Make A Narcissist Obsessed

Yes, narcissists can become addicted to a person, especially if it’s their victim 😕

Although at first glance, people with narcissistic personalities seem to be completely and utterly wrapped up in themselves, they do in fact find the strength and time to become obsessed with those they dream of manipulating. Narcissists may appear self-absorbed, but their need for control and validation often drives them to fixate on others. This obsession is not born out of love or admiration but rather a desire to dominate and manipulate. For them, people are tools to be used for their own gain, and once they set their sights on someone, they will stop at nothing to exert their influence. Now, I’m not trying to scare you, but narcissists love analyzing people’s personalities for their own personal gain, and in order to do so, they need to become very closely acquainted with their potential prey, which means stalking them on social media for example, meeting their friends, and getting up very close and personal with them.

When a person or in this case, potential victim, has caught their eye, they’ll spend hours and hours trying to learn everything about them, in an attempt to uncover their weaknesses because their goal is to manipulate them. Narcissists are highly skilled at reading people and identifying their vulnerabilities. They use this information to manipulate and control their targets, often playing on their insecurities to create a sense of dependency. For them, having insights on their prey is the key to grabbing control of their lives and breaking down their spirit.

After all, in order to remain on top, hunters (in this case narcissists) must always know the inner workings of their prey and understand how they operate. Furthermore, being in control is what drives them, so having to scroll through years and years of MySpace statuses in order to dig up precious scoops about those they have set their sights on isn’t going to get in the way of their ultimate aim.

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How to make a narcissist obsessed with you?

The best way to get a narcissist to obsess over you is to totally avoid them. Narcissists are drawn to what they can’t have, and when you distance yourself from them, it triggers their need for control. By cutting off contact and thriving without them, you challenge their sense of superiority, making them desperate to regain control. To do so, follow these few steps ⬇️:

1) Succeed and thrive 💪

After breaking up with a narcissist, strive to succeed in everything you undertake. Prove to them that you are better off without them. At this point, there is a chance they may become obsessed with you.

2) Cut off all contact with them ❌

Avoid any contact with the narcissist, including calls, messages, and social media. By cutting off contact, you deprive them of the attention and admiration they need to feel good. As they are attracted to what they cannot have, they will undoubtedly become addicted to you.

3) Move forward 🏃

After a relationship with a manipulator, take control of your life. Men, especially manipulators, are attracted to strong, independent, and self-assured women. They then doubt their own abilities and become obsessed with them. But beware, trying to make someone with this pathology fall in love is a dangerous game.

>>> Read How to get over the pain of being rejected

Why might a narcissist obsess over one ex?

When a narcissistic person becomes obsessive with an ex-partner, it may be the result of several factors related to their personality and emotional needs. Here are some possible explanations ⬇️:

• Loss of control and narcissistic wounding: The end of a relationship can be perceived as a loss of control for a narcissistic person. Losing the attention, admiration, and power they had over their ex-partner can cause significant narcissistic injury. Narcissists view relationships as power dynamics, and when they lose control over an ex, it feels like a personal failure.
• Need for validation and admiration: Narcissistic people have a constant need to be admired and valued. When they no longer receive this validation from their ex-partner, they may become obsessive in the hope of re-establishing this source of approval.
• Need to feel superior: Narcissists have an exaggerated sense of their own importance, and seek to feel superior to others. Obsession with an ex-partner may be motivated by a desire to maintain the idea of being the best option, or to prove that they are irreplaceable.

The 5 reasons why narcissists become obsessed with people

Let’s face it, these people have addictive and obsessive personalities, which means their brains are wired to go all in on people. Add to that lethal mix the fact that they love to be in control, and you’ve got yourself a recipe for disaster 💣. In fact, these folks absolutely feel the need to be in the driving seat when it comes to their victims, which is no doubt why they constantly turn up at their houses or places of work, and also why they bombard them with phone calls and messages. For them, their obsessions are potent drugs that they just can’t manage to go cold turkey on.

Discover the inner workings of their minds and what fuels their compulsion below:

• 1) Jealousy
• 2) Fear
• 3) Boredom
• 4) An inherent need to control
• 5) Feeling threatened

💡 Practical tip time - How to protect yourself from the negative effects of a narcissist’s obsession 💡

Although it’s extremely difficult to directly change the behavior of people with this personality disorder, there are several strategies you can use to minimize the impact they can have on your life and protect yourself from abuse:

• 1. Stay calm and cool: When confronted with this toxic personality, staying calm and not reacting to provocation is essential. Don’t play their game by returning their insults or trying to convince them.
• 2. Set clear limits and enforce them: Express your point of view firmly, and be very clear about what you are and aren’t prepared to accept.
• 3. Learn to recognize and refuse cries for help: Narcissists may feign vulnerability to manipulate you. Recognize these tactics and refuse to accede to their demands.

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