There are those days when you drag your feet and put up with your day, constantly dreaming about the time you can get out of your work clothes and move on to something else. Basically, you feel lethargic and ask yourself what makes you get out of bed in the morning. Everyone goes through a day or a period at work that’s not so good where you lack motivation, but it’s important not to get bogged down by it. Here are 3 tips to find your mojo again quickly! Before you know it, you'll soon fall back in love with your job and might even enjoy the morning commute.
Let’s be honest, we all function on pleasure, so doing the same things every day with the same colleagues in an atmosphere that’s not always very pleasant, where there is criticism or a refusal to grant a raise, is far from making us tick. On the contrary, it’s totally demotivating! But, but, but, sometimes it takes almost nothing to give a bit of meaning to our work and daily life again. Meaning is what will make us feel invested, and then the pleasure will come back… and with it, motivation. Come on, stop with the long faces in front of your screens (or wherever) and let’s find pleasure in working again.
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Grandma told you, “the devil is in the detail”. And she was right! Sometimes a simple purr from a cat, a square of chocolate or a ray of sunlight is enough to make you smile. At work, it’s the same. Start by focusing on the little things: change the layout of your workspace, ask your colleagues out to lunch, buy yourself a new mug, a brand-new office accessory, etc. In short, put some sunshine into the grayness of your professional life by focusing on the little pleasures.
Complaining really does you good, as long as you do it well! Instead of hiding your lack of motivation, open up to your colleagues you can trust, but avoid a negative spiral. You can also bring up your unhappiness with your boss, but it requires a bit of preparation. Don’t just present yourself with the problems, think about some solutions too. Don’t question a process that you haven’t thought about how you would like to improve. And finally, don’t forget the staff representatives who are there to listen to you too.
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Every time I come back from holiday, my morale drops significantly and so does my motivation. To combat this issue, I have my own little trick: as soon as I get back, I ask for my next vacation or time off. It’s my way of motivating myself and not feeling immediately overcome by my responsibilities and the inconveniences that come with them. In order to motivate yourself again, you sometimes just have to get your head above water a bit, take time for yourself and a step back from your professional life. Why not do a training course or, like me, plan your next holidays? And why not bring up your problems with a therapist? It’s also a way of taking a step back and having some time for yourself. A psychologist will allow you to verbalize everything that’s really bothering you and stopping you from blooming, and will help you draw conclusions.
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Editor’s note – And if your motivation doesn’t come back?I was talking to you about a psychologist, and it’s precisely towards a health professional that you should turn if despite all your efforts, your motivation doesn’t come back. Especially during this period when your professional points of reference can be shattered, it’s important to know how to listen to yourself. If you moan a lot, isolate yourself and stop communicating with your professional entourage, your unhappiness is very present and should be a cause for concern. It may be the warning sign of a burn-out, a bore out or even depression. |
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