Is It Ok To Work With Your Partner, Or Will It End Badly?

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Sharing everything with your partner is a sign of a healthy relationship for some people, even when it comes to working. However, that being said, for others, working with their partner just seems like a bad idea and the perfect recipe for tension. Do we need to separate our personal and professional lives, or is it okay to blur the lines and mix everything? After all, what could do wrong? Find out how to cope when your significant other is also your coworker!

Is It Ok To Work With Your Partner, Or Will It End Badly?
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If you work with your significant other, you've probably noticed, there are (very) good and (very) bad sides to this arrangement. Seeing your partner often is great (on paper at least) and means you get to support each other properly. Though, sometimes too much contact can be excessive. We’re here to give you the tips to keep your relationship going despite your professional engagements.

Some couples manage to work together and survive, and others can't hack it. We know that seeing each other, both at home and at work, can create tension, so we'd like to reveal what you need to do to get through it! Focusing on the advantages and putting your heart into finding solutions to your issues means you are ready for anything! So, if you can't stand your other half at work, but don't want to split up, this article is for you!

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The advantages of working with your spouse - Look on the bright side

Focusing on the positive aspects is the number one rule for appreciating what you have! If you had any doubts, there are many advantages to working in the same place as your loved one, including:

1) It creates common ground

When you work in the same environment, you have even more to share: interests, tips for success as well as criticism of that coworker you can't stand...

2) You get to spend quality time together

Having your spouse near you is practical. Same schedule, same lifestyle! It's still better to have a family life. A thought for those couples who see each other when one makes coffee while the other goes to bed.

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3) You know you can always count on them

Working with your partner, you're sure to appreciate at least one person at the office. Your other half will be your ally, and your ray of sunshine if the current with your coworkers doesn't flow!

4) It creates a telepathic link between you

No more unspoken words and misunderstandings! You won't waste time trying to figure out where they is going since you know them by heart.  

5) You share the same tiredness

Or at least we understand it. In the evening when you come home, your partner can appreciate how tired you are because they’ve seen! No one will hold you responsible for the stress that can overwhelm you.

6) You can spend your vacations together

Working as a couple is the best way to have the same vacations! If the company closes, it's at the same time, if not, the answer for holiday dates falls at the same time: it's all the same! (Unless one of you two is indispensable...)

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Couples working together - How to avoid tension with your lover and coworker

No matter how positive you are, there will always be a moment when your better half will get under your skin. The good news is that for every problem, there is a solution (well, Einstein said that). Check out our 4 tips for handling relationship tensions at work:

1. Take time for ourselves

When you get off work, or on the weekend, you'll need a moment to yourself just to survive. Instead of seeing your spouse 8 hours a day, you spend almost 24 hours glued together tightly! They may be adorable, but everyone requires oxygen. A jog or a coffee with friends will prevent you from feeling suffocated.

2. What happens at work stays at work

This is probably the most difficult task for couples working together. The office serves as an outlet if there is tension at home, but it’s complicated when your home life follows you. Don't blame your partner for not emptying the dishwasher in front of the coffee machine, and don't give them a hard time when they turn things in late. Not airing your dirty laundry in public will help protect your relationship.

3. No favoritism!

If you want to create tension between other employees, nothing is more effective than preferential treatment. Don't go to extremes by ignoring your spouse, or by being too harsh, but don't differentiate between them from the others.

4. Don’t neglect your relationship

It would be a shame if work became your only common ground. A job is easily replaced, your partner a little less! So, imagine how nice it would be to spend an evening a week as lovers with no mention of business!

How do you balance work and relationships?

Balancing work and relationship life is not an easy thing to do, especially when you work with your partner. Between a job that requires investment and productivity, a family that must be managed and cared for, and a relationship that must be maintained... it is not easy to find the right balance. Sometimes a certain harmony can be achieved, but most of the time it's a race against time! The result is dissatisfaction and an inability to find the right solutions. Being two is a chance to try to find the right balance if you manage to exchange serenely. Try to discuss your priorities, your imperatives, the limits you could face, and make proposals for better harmony in your lives. What is important is that the choices are shared within the couple. Talking about it can help you understand and accept these choices...

The editor's opinion: Separate your private life from your professional life!

It seems obvious, but it is not always easy to separate professional and private life when the two interlope all day long. Separate your roles as "husband and wife", because first and foremost you are coworkers in the office. Avoid talking about your private affairs during working hours as much as possible, and inversely, don't talk about work at breakfast or dinner either. Everything topic of discussion has its place...

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!

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