5 Scary Things A Narcissist Smear Campaign Involves, And How To React To One

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We hear so much about these emotional abusers in every walk of life that we are sometimes so overloaded with information regarding them, meaning we often miss the red flags that, in hindsight, seem blatantly obvious. These vindictive manipulators often use smear campaigns as a way of getting back at their victims and villainizing them publicly. That's right, these evil campaigns are an effective method for them to change the narrative of the abuse, and to present themselves as victims, when in reality they are the perpetrators of the terror.

5 Scary Things A Narcissist Smear Campaign Involves, And How To React To One
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What is the purpose of a narcissist smear campaign?

Smear campaigns are cleverly constructed webs of lies established by narcissists, in the aim of gaining support for their cause. For the abusers, smear campaigns are a survival tactic and are a means for them to diabolize the real victim in the situation. Here, the architects of the smear campaigns are generally ex-partners, who are bitter about their relationship being brought to an end. Once their diabolical plan is in place, the real victims can expect to find themselves painted out as the villain in the story, and, for their friends and family to be aware of this new and surprisingly different version of events. 

In reality, narcissists will stop at nothing to save face and make themselves look like the downtrodden party. They'll spread rumors, lies, and tell their made-up stories to anyone who is willing to listen. In short, they'll stop at nothing to ensure that their role reversal is a matter of intense public interest. These hate-filled campaigns are often put in motion following a break-up or even when the manipulator decides that they are bored and need a bit of spice in their lives...

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5 Things narcissists do to ruin your reputation during their smear campaign against you

Their sense of evil and willingness to hurt their victims knows no end.

1) They criticize you unfairly

A narcissist will voluntarily criticize you, despite how good of a partner you were. Just like they criticized their ex-partners, they'll do exactly the same with you, and trust me, they certainly won't hold back in exaggerating your flaws. For them, the goal is to make you look and sound like the worst possible version of yourself.

2) They'll harass you

Real victims of narcissistic abuse will find themselves on the receiving end of threatening phone calls, stalker-like messages, and menacing stares during the smear campaign against them. Narcissists will do everything in their power to ensure that their victims are incapable of moving on and recovering from the abuse.

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3) Lies and accusations will follow you

Your abuser will no doubt take pleasure in trying to convince your mutual friends that you were a violent monster, who tortured them both physically and mentally throughout the duration of your relationship. Here, you need to expect the unexpected because these guys have huge imaginations and will say anything to seek revenge on you.

4) They'll post compromising photos of you

Narcissistic abusers have no empathy whatsoever, which explains why they enjoy exposing (quite literally) their partners. Many of these heartless gaslighters often post compromising nude photos or messages on social media or dedicated websites, with the goal of attempting to make their ex-victim look bad. They love embarrassing people and really do get kicks out of making other people squirm.

5) They'll chase away and intimidate your new partners

Even though you've cut contact with a narcissist, that, unfortunately, doesn't mean that you are completely rid of them. That's right, these people are like bad smells, and never truly disappear. Whenever these guys see an opportunity to get back at you, they will, especially if it involves ruining your chances of finding happiness again. Indeed, they'll spread rumors and lies to your potential partners, in the hope of scaring them away.

How do you respond to a narcissist smear campaign? - 5 Techniques

Knowing how to react when we feel that we are being unfairly treated is never easy. Whilst our first reflex is often to lash out, when a narcissist is involved, we need to be much smarter and more calculated than that if we want to come out on top!

1) Rise above the provocation

On the surface, taking the high road may seem like an easy way out, or even a burying your head in the sand technique, but there's nothing that annoys a manipulator more than not getting a rise out of you. That's right, these people love to know that they are getting to you and making you feel bad, so this is your sign not to play into their hands!

2) Establish your truth

Just because a narcissist has launched a smear campaign against you, doesn't mean that you have to be silent about your sufferings. If you are ready, and above all, want to share what you have endured, go for it, you never know, opening up to other people might even be therapeutic and healing for you.

3) Don't feel ashamed

Victims of abuse often feel ashamed of sharing their stories or guilty for not having left the toxic situation beforehand. This is a common sentiment amongst those who have suffered at the hands of severe abuse, but there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. The victims in these unfortunate situations have done nothing wrong.

4) Live your life to the fullest

This is the best form of revenge anyone can get over a manipulative ex-partner, simply because they hate to see you doing well afterward. So, live your life and enjoy yourself because you deserve to feel free and to do as you please without having to answer to anyone. After all, you are your own person.

5) Understand the reasons behind the lies

Having an insight into why your ex has decided to act like this can also be fairly healing. Knowing that despite their vicious attacks, you've done nothing wrong might bring you a form of comfort. In any case, narcissists always seek revenge, no matter how much love and care they received for you.

Editor's opinion - We never truly escape a narcissist's grasp...

Narcissists always need to have the final word, which is why seeing the back of one is often very complicated. These people NEED to be in control and will only let you walk away and live peacefully when they've decided they have no more use for you. Everything needs to be done on their terms, but that's not to say you have to take things lying down.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!

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