If you’re here reading this article, you’ve no doubt recently made a literal life-changing decision. Realizing you want to change paths and take on new challenges is definitely admirable and very brave, but how can you make your wishes come true? The desire to start over is often motivated by an uncomfortable situation or disappointing realizations that can be difficult to bear. Suffering isn’t the solution, and we can to help you turn things around, which is why we’re about to give you our precious advice on turning things around. Who needs a magic wand when you have us?!
Hiding behind the need for a fresh start often lies pain and dissatisfaction, whether it be in your professional life or in your love life. Lots of us often go through pivotal moments in life where we dream of turning the page and doing something totally different. The idea of upping sticks and following our dreams sure seems easy, but in reality, the doubts, anxiety, and hesitation linked to letting go can be too intimidating.
Perhaps as you jumped out of bed this morning, you said to yourself; ‘I've had enough of the status quo and need something different’. If you are in this case, you need to ask yourself the right questions. You must take stock of the negative and positive points related to your current life, and weigh up what you have to lose and gain in implementing change. Do you want different surroundings? A new relationship, perhaps? Or, do you hate working and are you tempted to quit your job? The choice is yours, although you must be sure of it.
➡ By defining what you really want, you will be able to determine what you are capable of.
This decision belongs to you and nobody else. Starting out again is the result of a well-considered choice and much reflection. You need to be confident in yourself and your future prospects, after all, you are the best person to decide what’s right for you. Here, it’s essential to believe in your projects so that they succeed. Don't forget that you are your own boss in life!
We have all made mistakes in the past, but don't underestimate yourself. Don't let anything or anyone turn you away from your new path.
Listening to your heart is the best way to avoid making mistakes. Follow your intuition and don't be deterred by what people around you might think. If you want to go and live in Argentina to work on a ranch, who's going to stop you? No one will! The key here is to follow the path that your heart desires. If you think your happiness lies there, then go for it!
Put all the chances on your side and learn to ANTICIPATE! Following your dreams involves lots of planning and reflection when it comes to eventualities. Organization will be the key to your success, so give yourself the means to overcome the obstacles you may encounter. Also, be sure to have a plan B to deal with the unexpected.
Are you feeling lost? Is the direction you want to take still unclear? If so, don't give in to the urge to panic! Lots of people decide to start again and turn their lives around, so you’re not alone. You need to take advantage of this opportunity to get advice and answers to your questions. It's normal to be afraid to take the plunge, so don't hesitate to turn to people you trust if you need reassuring.
Making a new start does not mean giving up on the past! You’ll soon see that if you look back at all the things you've accomplished, you may feel pride or even disappointment. The main thing is to remember what you have learned from it, and to come out stronger. Of course, we have all experienced ups and downs in our lives, but the important thing is to learn from them.
It would be a big mistake to deny your past for good. On the other hand, questioning certain elements of it, will allow you to build a new, sensible start.
Changing your life means changing your habits and reviewing your routine. However, don't fall into the trap of wanting to change radically, to disrupt all your rituals. Instead, make a list of your habits, list the ones you need to get rid of and replace them with more effective ones that will allow you to move forward.
Everything comes to him who waits, as they say, starting from scratch requires time and patience. A new life cannot be built overnight, time is a key factor in your new life. Our advice: don't rush! Each step is important, but that being said, it's best to take it one step at a time.
There is no point in aiming for the impossible and wanting to make a radical change. Instead, keep things realistic and approach change slowly but surely. It's great to have a lot of plans, but considering crazy ones could soon make you regret your old life.
Taking on something new can be scary, but don't let that stop you. Our fears are often completely disproportionate to reality. Seize every opportunity, we only have one life, so live yours in such a way that you will never regret the chances you have had. Be bold!
Leave the past where it is, don't think about that old friend or your ex who has started calling you again. You are planning to give your life a new turn, aren't you? So, instead of dwelling on the past, project yourself and imagine what could be.
As the famous saying goes; it's better to be alone than to be in bad company… if people bring you more drama than happiness, it’s probably time to cut them out of your life. Feeling better in your skin will benefit your well-being and show you what you are capable of achieving. After all, you are the one who makes your own decisions and to feel confident, you need to be surrounded by positive people.
💡 Practical tip time 💡 Use the SMART goals method to change your lifeWhen you set a smart goal, it has to be specific, i.e. clearly defined. The more specific you are, the more effort you'll be able to put into achieving it. The second criterion suggests measurable objectives, which can be quantified! Without them, you won't know whether you've achieved your objectives, whether the results are insufficient or beyond your expectations. How do you reach a smart goal? There's no point in reaching for the moon if you don't have the means to get there. Are your means equal to your ambitions? If you don't have the resources to carry out the project, it's best to stop setting goals and call it a day. This criterion is often confused with the A for achievable, because "realistic" and "achievable" mean much the same thing. The point here is to assess the relevance of your objectives. You may have the means and the time, but is it worth it? Won't it drain your resources? Setting a deadline for a project is essential to its usefulness! Most objectives have to be achieved within a certain timeframe to qualify as a successful project. |
How to change your life without money? This is the real question. In theory, the problem is quickly solved. But in practice, it will take a process. You have nothing, but you still want to leave everything you have now and go. After you've made your decision, you need to think about the strategy you'll need to put in place to achieve your dream life. Sit down, and take a piece of paper and a pen. Write down the goals of your new life and for each goal, associate ways to achieve them.
Since you don't have anything, you might ask how this is possible. But let me tell you, there are many things you could do without having any money when it comes to change. If I'm just a pizza delivery boy right now, and I want to change my life, do you think I can't? Well, yes, it is possible. By following the process, determine already what you want and in the rest of this paragraph, I will tell you how to achieve the goal. Now let's focus on the concrete action to get there.
It is by implementing a strategy that you will achieve great results. Strategy is very important. I come back to my example of the pizza delivery man who after thinking about it decided to be an artist. Well, he puts down the pizza, and he starts singing in the street. Courageous, isn't it? This is the courage I was talking about at the beginning of this article. There was no guarantee that by singing in the street he would succeed. But, he dropped everything. While singing from street to street, a producer spotted him one day and signed him a contract. Did he reach his goal or not? If you are in the same situation as this pizza delivery man, take courage and go for it.
Editor’s opinion: Many dream, but only few succeed!Our surroundings, anxieties, limiting thoughts often lead us to putting our dreams on the back foot. This transition period isn’t easy, so, take the time to ask yourself the right questions: what elements of your current life do you want to get rid of? Are you losing your bearings? What emotions are you experiencing? What’s driving this need for change? Etc… Being accompanied by a coach during this transition period allows you to live approach these changes with more serenity. 🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now! #BornToBeMe |
If you've enjoyed this articles, go further and check out:
Article presented by Katie M.
🌻 Discover the world through my eyes.
Who hasn’t had a crush in their life? You know, it’s when you fall for someone and have feelings for them even though you don’t really know them. I’m one of those people who have had lots of crushes, and sometimes I’ve even admitted my feelings. In fact, a recent example was just before I started my relationship with my current partner. I offloaded what I was feeling all of a sudden… I’ll tell you why I did it and how to go about it.
Narcissistic abuse is one of the most horrific challenges anyone can ever go through in life, but that’s not to say that their reign of terror will last forever. Evidently, breaking the cycle of abuse isn’t exactly straightforward, however, once the discard phase has been activated and victims realize that they can walk away with their heads held high, the revenge phase can commence 😈. Unsurprisingly, getting even with a raging egocentric narcissist needs to be carefully planned, but ironically, their self-centered personalities expose to many axes of revenge, which will evidently really get to them…
Loneliness is one of society’s biggest enemies, and none of us are exempt from it, not even the most devilish of narcissists out there. In fact, throughout the Coronavirus pandemic, 36% of Americans claimed that they have never felt lonelier, which sets a scary benchmark for the wider population 😔. Now, lots of us would no doubt immediately assume that narcissists are too independent and strong-willed to feel alone, however, the truth is they are often the biggest victims of loneliness, yet simply have trouble expressing their inner malaise.
Never invited to parties, never listened to or solicited... It feels like you're just an ordinary person, who is pushed aside and has no value. If this is the case, we often end up coming to the sad conclusion that "nobody likes us! But, why do we think this? Now, this thought does not reflect reality, it hides deeper issues that need to be worked on to detach ourselves from this heavy feeling. Everyone deserves to be loved, including us!
I’ll be the first to admit that my stubbornness means I’m not exactly the most willing person when it comes to uttering the words ‘I’m sorry’, but I always push through my pride; although unfortunately, the same can’t be said for narcissists... Indeed, people who suffer from this personality disorder will simply never hold their hands up and accept responsibility for their actions, despite how deeply they’ve hurt your feelings. 😱 You know the idiom getting blood from a stone, right? Well, when it comes to apologies from these toxic personalities, nothing is more appropriate, and here are 6 reasons why!
Friday night rolls around and after a hard week you were expecting to have a drink with a girlfriend, but she seems to have left you hanging on read... To make matters worse (and the humiliation?) you even saw the little typing sign appear, yet you never received a reply. Well, if that’s the case, obviously you or your "how about a drink tonight?" didn’t deserve an answer. Let’s take a look at why some people don't reply to messages, and why when someone doesn't reply to your text, this makes us feel so bad.
Kissing is a deeply intimate act, and although in popular culture it is often classed as only being worthy of first base, it does in fact go way beyond that toxic evaluation. We have no doubt all had at least one lingering kiss that we’ll never forget; one which left all of our senses tingling and hungry for more. 💏 Well, that memorable smooch left us reminiscing because it was sincere and meant something. In short, it encapsulated love and romance, which are two things that narcissists are quite simply incapable of feeling.
Narcissism is wholly incompatible with healthy relationships, which goes some way in explaining why people with this personality disorder always believe the grass is greener elsewhere. Indeed, fidelity isn’t something they excel in and adds to their exhaustive list of weaknesses alongside their love of manipulation and dishonesty. 💔 However, they are so cunning and crafty that catching them out and confirming your intuitions is no easy feat. To make things easier for you, here are the 10 signs you need to look out for if you believe your narcissistic man is cheating on you.
Work has always been a synonym of repression for me because it takes up so much of our precious time. Let’s be honest, a 9-5 job with a horrendous daily commute often means that work is sadly our sole occupation. So, when the Covid-19 pandemic struck over a year ago, and we were all ordered to stay home, I found it hard to hide my joy in front of my distraught coworkers; although thankfully my acting talents saved me. You can probably already tell, but going into the office every day was nothing less than torture for me. Yet, all these months later, I’ve realized that I despise working from home and would do anything to sit in my uncomfortable office chair once again!
If you have ever had the displeasure of encountering someone with a narcissistic personality disorder, then you’ll no doubt already know how manipulative they are. Indeed, these folks despise taking responsibility for their actions and will do whatever it takes to avoid taking the rap for them, including play the victim. That’s right, these master puppeteers won’t hold back on pulling the strings and changing the narrative so that it suits them. Plus, they know exactly how to turn the waterworks when they want to get people on side.
