Financing my very expensive wedding gave me the electric shock I needed to realize that I wanted my marriage to be a forever thing. Eternal love is hard to find, but remembering that relationships are a two-way street is essential in getting us through the hard times. No one enters into a marriage thinking it’ll end in divorce, but sometime fate seems to decide otherwise! Readers, check out the 10 most common reasons people divorce and get ready to fight against them, pitchforks and all!
The 10 most common reasons for divorce
1) Infidelity bug
Going down the infidelity route is a surefire way to put an end to your marriage. Whether it was simply a one-night stand or a long running passionate affair, cheating is one of, if not the biggest marriage killer. Nowadays, infidelity is the most common reason cited for divorce and separation. Forgiveness is a beautiful thing, but it doesn’t reimburse the money spent on therapy!
Did you know?
Adultery is the cause of 33% of divorces. That means we can expect to see chastity belts on sale pretty soon!
2) Abusive behavior
The second most common reason for divorce is abusive behavior, including excessive jealousy, possessiveness and both verbal and physical violence. Being in a toxic relationship with an abusive partner is completely unhealthy and will only ever end badly. (Sorry for those of you out there praying your toxic partner will change!)
Check out; How to recognize you're in a toxic relationship
3) Lack of attention
I’m not saying that us girls need a flowers and chocolates every night, but we need a minimum of affection in our life! When the excitement and butterflies disappear, relationships can become stale and hard going. When you feel like you and your man are more like roommates than lovers, red lights should start going off in your head!
Every woman wants to be made to feel like a queen, not an inanimate object. If you want your relationship to last, you need to work on keeping the passion alive!
4) Boredom zzzz
Living with the same person 24/7 can be challenging and in some cases can even lead you to tearing your hair out with boredom. To avoid falling into black hole of complete tediousness, both partners need to make an effort to spice things up a little! Evidently having a partner who doesn’t make you feel special is just another excuse to go looking for attention elsewhere.
Read up on why we get jealous in relationships and how to control it
⚠️ Warning! ⚠️
Having a routine can be a positive thing for a couple. I’m definitely not against a weekly date night for example, but there needs to be some element of spontaneity in a relationship.
5) Sex. What even is that?!
Sex is one of the fundamental bases for any successful relationship, yet as the years fly by and the flame dwindles, what’s the solution to spicing things up?! Let’s be honest, we’ve all used the excuse of having a headache at least once, but if you use it on a regular basis, there’s a problem. Sex coupled with good communication is the best remedy for any long-lasting relationship and is essential in avoiding divorce.
The numbers speak for themselves
30% of people in couples admit that they aren't satisfied between the sheets!
6) Different plans for the future
‘Where do you see yourself in 5 years’ time?’
‘Travelling the world. You?’
‘At home looking after the kids.’
‘Ah…’
From kids, pets and even your professional ambitions, it’s hard being on the same page as your partner when it comes to planning for the future. The sad truth is, when we don’t have common goals, the relationship probably won't survive. 15% of couples divorce for this exact reason!
Opposites are said to attract but can this theory really be applied to a real relationship; I have my doubts and I’m surely not alone. The harsh truth is we need some things in common to be able to move forward. If you have different routines for example, not seeing each other regularly could eventually push you apart.
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7) Age or maturity difference
At the start of a relationship, an age difference may seem exciting and thrilling, but things could change very quickly! As relationships develop, especially those with an age difference a huge variance in maturity can appear. Whether you are with an older or younger guy, having to accept that aren’t at the same stage in life could be a possibility.
8) Money, money, money
Money can’t buy you happiness or a healthy relationship, however it can facilitate things if you are on the same wavelength as your partner. Having totally opposite attitudes with regards to managing your finances is a recipe for disaster in my book! Everyone likes to splash out every once in a while, however when one partner wants to save up and the other doesn’t, you can expect drama!
9) Simply falling out of love...
Love is only said to last for around 3 years on average, meaning many couples aren't exactly in it for the long haul. Taking that into account plus the lack of spark is a total recipe for disaster and would encourage many of us to think about signing divorce papers whilst moving on to the next best things. For whatever reason, when the feelings are gone, they are almost impossible to bring back.
10) Annoying in-laws
Let’s set the record straight, we probably all have seriously annoying in-laws who love to become overly involved in our lives. From the in-laws that turn up out of the blue expecting you to entertain them to those that love giving out advice. Having to force yourself to be polite and friendly with your in-laws is a task, especially when your partner can’t seem to understand your pain. Do I even need to bring up the partners who constantly defend their moms and never take your side?!
Now you’re up to date with the 10 most common reasons for divorce, I’m crossing my fingers for you and hope you manage to address your issues.
