What is the secret to a lasting relationship? Given that I can’t seem to stay in one for longer than 6 months, I’d love to know! My problem is that I get bored when I’m with someone. At the beginning, I get butterflies in my stomach and excited when they text me, but as time draws on, the routine becomes monotonous and time seems to stand still. If I put as much energy into saving my relationships as I do into looking for reasons to flee, then I probably wouldn’t be here writing this...
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Why do I get bored in relationships?
I get ahead of myself and then get bored…
Spending time at home with your friends, meeting up with your family or going away for the weekend are all things I love doing. I’m naturally a fast-paced person and always want to speed through, but, being so fast means that I barely take the time to enjoy things and constantly jump from one thing to another. Once the first few months fly by in a relationship, I start looking for a way out and only manage to focus on the negative points.
I hate falling into a routine
Either the men I date are completely unimaginative or I just hate routine. Having the same ritual every day and every week is completely mundane and dull for me. I want to be surprised and kept on my toes, that includes sexually too.
I romanticize love just like in the movies
Romcoms never show Julia Roberts or Hugh Grant coming home at night in a bad mood exhausted after working all day. Love and romance are hard work and need constant efforts to keep the flame alight. Couples change and at times, feelings do too. We’re hardly likely to snog each other’s faces off at 60 years old like we did when we were teens. Accepting different stages of relationships is a huge learning curve and teaches us lots about who we are.
I’m a victim of my generation
I always want more and am never really satisfied when I finally get what I want. Look around you, everyone is virtually the same nowadays and obsessed by social media and their online appearance. We are totally spoiled for choice when it comes to dating and therefore live by the motto of there being many more fish in the sea. The times of marrying someone from the same neighborhood are well and truly over.
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The glass is always half empty
Now, I don’t think I’m perfect, but I do want my partner to be! I want to be treated like a princess and wooed like a star. Being eternally unsatisfied means coping with things can be hard, especially when I don’t get my own way. It takes a special kind of person to keep me grounded and entertained, but unfortunately for me, I’m yet to find anyone up for the role.
My anxiety is out of control
If I watch a horror movie, I constantly apprehend something bad happening, even though nothing has happened. In relationship, I’m exactly the same! I find myself in a cycle of not wanting things to fail but being powerless when faced with change and progression.
Am I ready for a relationship?
Am I ignoring the obvious? I seem to want to put the blame on other people, but am I actually the problem in all of this? Perhaps I should in fact take some time out for myself and decide what I want rather than jump into rocky relationships.
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