Why Do I Always Fall Out Of Love At Record Speed?

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My longest relationship only lasted 2 years, which might not seem like a long time, but it's a big achievement for me because I can never usually get past the 6-month mark without becoming bored stiff. Even though my past relationship have always been healthy, they've never satisfied me, which lead me to wonder am I cursed with eternal dissatisfaction? Relationships never seem to excite me for long enough and always eventually fizzle out, leaving me wanting to head for the hills. Despite my past failures, I still believe in love and want to get to the bottom of why I give up on romance so easily.

Why Do I Always Fall Out Of Love At Record Speed?
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What is the secret to a lasting relationship? If someone knows, can they please share it with me? Given that I can’t seem to stay in one for longer than 6 months, I’d love to know! My problem is that when I'm with someone, even though I have feelings for them; I get bored once I feel like I've learned all about them. When I feel like I've figured them out, I can't help but want to move on. At the beginning, of course I get butterflies in my stomach and excited when they text me, but as the months pass by, the routine becomes monotonous and time seems to stand still. If I put as much energy into saving my relationships as I do into looking for reasons to flee from them, then I probably wouldn’t be here writing this…

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Why do I give up so easily on relationships?

I jump into things head first without thinking them through…

Spending time at home with your friends, meeting up with your family, or going away for the weekend are all things I love doing. I’m naturally a fast-paced person and always want to speed through, but, being so fast means that I barely take the time to enjoy things and constantly jump from one thing to another. Once the first few months fly by in a relationship, I start looking for a way out and only manage to focus on the negative points that crop up. That's right, after a certain period of time I no longer feel loved up…

I hate falling into a routine

Either the men I date are completely unimaginative or I just hate routine. Having the same ritual every day and every week is completely mundane and dull for me. I just can't do it, and forcing myself to endure it only makes me unhappy! Instead, I want to be surprised and kept on my toes, and that includes sexually too.

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I romanticize love, just like in the movies

Romcoms never show Julia Roberts or Hugh Grant coming home at night in a bad mood and exhausted after working all day. Love and romance are hard work and need constant efforts to keep the flame alight. Couples evolve and at times, feelings do too. We’re hardly likely to snog each other’s faces off at 60 years old like we did when we were teens. Accepting different stages of relationships is a huge learning curve and teaches us lots about who we are.

I’m a victim of my generation

I always want more and am never really satisfied when I finally get what I want. Look around you, everyone is virtually the same nowadays and obsessed by social media and their online appearance. We are totally spoiled for choice when it comes to dating, and therefore live by the motto of there being many more fish in the sea. The times of marrying someone from the same neighborhood are well and truly over.

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I always manage to put a negative spin on things

Now, I don’t think I’m perfect, but I do want my partner to be! I want to be treated like a princess and wooed like a star. Being eternally unsatisfied means coping with things can be hard, especially when I don’t get my own way. It takes a special kind of person to keep me grounded and entertained, but unfortunately for me, I’m yet to find anyone up for the role.

My anxiety is out of control

If I watch a horror movie, I constantly apprehend something bad happening, even though nothing has happened. In relationship, I’m exactly the same! I find myself in a cycle of not wanting things to fail, but being powerless when faced with change and progression.

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Am I even ready for a relationship?

Am I ignoring the obvious? I seem to want to put the blame on other people, but am I actually the problem in all of this? Perhaps I should in fact take some time out for myself, and decide what I want, rather than jump into rocky relationships.

Can a man fall out of love quickly?

Once we look past the bordering on sexist clichés about men and women being wired differently, we soon realize that guys fall out of love just as easily as we do. Gone are the days when couples stayed together for the sake of it, now as soon as someone decides that their feelings have faded, they leave almost instantly. Men, like women, also get worn down by boring routines, plus in an age of social media, they can develop feelings for other people too and decide that the grass is greener elsewhere. Once the spark has gone and the fights become more frequent, men lose the will to save the connection.

Editor's opinion: Block out external pressure

Maintaining a romantic relationship months or even years down the line can be extremely challenging. Relationship issues will evidently crop up over time, but the trick is to remain open with your partner. Whenever you feel like something is on your mind which could push you apart, you need to address the situation together, as openly and honest as possible. Avoid falling into the trap of comparing your love story will also help you flourish. If we focus on experiences or wonder whether the grass is greener elsewhere, we'll definitely be tempted to walk away. The key to saving romance is to live in the moment!

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!

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Comments

seeing this article has helped me so much. I felt that something was wrong with me because the other person was such a great person and i should love them even tho I thought i really did love them in the beginning. I feel like a bad person just because I hurt them when all i want Is to stay in love.

Same problem with me FGS... I am currently in a relationship and I have fallen out of love. But I am working well with my partner to fall back in. This has to be my last, cause I am sure the next girl will be another victim. Considering that my current girl is amazing and I don't want her to go, I am working so hard to make sure I love her again. I hope this works out !

Same problem. And I even got married thinking may be I was in control

Same problem 😖😖😖

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