“Am I dreaming or does he like me?” I know, I KNOW, that everyone has asked themselves this question at one time or another. You meet someone, and you start to feel an attraction towards them, but the million-dollar question is: is it reciprocated? And there’s a whole host of questions that follow: am I making a fool of myself when he/she’s flirting with me? How do I know if he/she likes me? I know what it’s like because I’ve been there several times in my life. So I’m going to tell you how to find out if he/she likes you... Or not!
It’s perfectly normal to wonder whether someone likes you, especially if you’re attracted to them 😬. This happens particularly when there’s a friendship-love, and we end up being attracted to our friend. Nevertheless, it’s not easy to admit your feelings, and it’s never pleasant to get knocked back 😅. So how do you know? Well, in my personal experience and for those around me, there are signs that don’t deceive, here are some of them:
If someone likes us, they will suggest that you see each other regularly or find excuses to go on an outing with us. Any way is good to spend time together, they might even volunteer to help us move house 🤭.
Indeed, they really care and want to be there for us. He or she asks us questions and remembers the details of our lives. I find that it’s clear that there’s a genuine interest in us 💓.
If they’re attracted, our crush will go out of their way to make small forms of physical contact, such as sitting next to us at the dinner table, tickling us, hugging us goodbye, etc. The slightest opportunity becomes an opportunity for subtle contact.
What’s more, we can also see that this person doesn’t hesitate to maintain eye contact. Looking at each other in the eyes, you can get the impression that sometimes you’re this close 🤏 to kissing...
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A little message on WhatsApp there, a little reel sent on Insta here... In short, there’s continuous communication with this person. Clearly, there’s no ghosting in this relationship! What’s more, in terms of exchange, there are often compliments or positive remarks that flatter, which proves that there’s something there 👀.
Don’t forget non-verbal communication! Admittedly, online, it’s impossible to detect, but when you’re together in person, observe body language. If there are regular smiles or subtle touches (as described above), there’s a good chance they’re into you 🥰!
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One thing that can tip us off is when there’s a strong bond with the other person. You confide in them and vice versa, sharing personal details and concerns. It’s a real sign of intimacy that can presage an attraction.
Confiding in someone and making a connection is all very well, but there’s also active listening. Personally, I must admit that I’m even more attentive when I’m face-to-face with someone I’m attracted to! Of course, I try to listen to everyone in the same way, but there’s even more involvement if I have feelings for someone, and I think we all behave in the same way 😄!
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You now know the signs that can help you tell if he likes you. However, it’s important to bear in mind that the best way to find out if he likes you is to communicate openly. Yes, it loses a bit of its charm, but sometimes it avoids misunderstandings or ending up in the friendzone 😅.
We need to express our interest, while remembering that the other person may not be interested. Yes, everyone’s behavior is unique, depending on their upbringing, so even if we can make a few generalizations, they don’t apply to everyone. The important thing is to show respect and not to overstep the other person’s boundaries, that’s all!
Note ⚠️: These signs also work when you’re wondering if someone likes you, but you’re not attracted to them. Yes, he or she may have everything to please you, but you’re not in love. As Blaise Pascal would say, “the heart has its reasons that reason doesn’t know”! If you notice this, you can put a bit of distance between yourself and the other person so as not to give them false hope.
Editor’s note: Listen to yourselfRemember that everyone is unique, just like every relationship. Listen to yourself, listen to your instincts and your feelings, observe, and you’ll know whether this person likes you or not. The important thing is to remain true to yourself, to your values and to respect the other person’s feelings, even if it’s not what you hoped for. Finally, if this situation is causing you stress and discomfort, don’t hesitate to make an appointment with a psychologist. They can help you deal with the uncertainty and see things more clearly. 🤗 Understanding yourself, accepting yourself, being happy... It’s here and now! BornToBeMe |
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