Green Flags, Or How To Know If This New Relationship Is Healthy

The beginning of a relationship is often a beautiful time. Discovering the other person, feeling desired, having stars in your eyes and butterflies in your stomach. But all that often masks an inner turmoil: doubts and the multitude of questions we ask ourselves. Have I found the right person? Can I fall in love without fear? What if it’s another toxic relationship? Making a commitment isn’t an easy thing, but now that we’ve learned to spot the red flags, so we don’t get made a fool of again, let’s take a look at the green flags. The good signs that give the green light to a beautiful story!

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6 green flags that show we’ve found someone worthy of our love 💚
Why have I decided to focus on the positive signs?
Editor’s note: On the right path!

6 green flags that show we’ve found someone worthy of our love 💚

1. We can be ourselves

Honesty is an important value in love. Nobody wants to build a relationship on a web of lies, but sometimes we embellish reality. It’s hard to be authentic without fear of being judged or shamed. But here’s the thing, the person who is going to share your life needs to know you, if you can be yourself, assume your tastes, say what you think without fear of judgement or what the other person thinks, then it’s almost certain that it will end well.

2. We laugh regularly

In my opinion, laughter is the glue that holds a couple together. I think laughing together is very important. At the beginning of a relationship, you know almost immediately if the person you’ve just met will make you laugh or not, if they have a sense of humor or simply if you find yourself smiling (stupidly or not). Smiling, laughter, good humor and joy are undoubtedly green flags. 🤩

3. There is respect...

Do you need time before going further emotionally or physically? The other person should be able to understand this. Every relationship has its share of limits, specific to each person. Crossing them is disrespectful, it’s a lack of respect, and this is even more true at the beginning of a relationship. The green flag is to communicate, take time to listen and understand each other.

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4. ... And shared values

Watch out, big green flag! How many couples break up because one of them wanted children and the other wanted a career abroad? Because one wanted an open relationship and the other wanted a faithful duo? At the beginning of a relationship, when you’re still getting to know each other, it’s important to see if you share common values, such as ambition, confidence, fidelity, honesty, family, etc. Of course, concessions are possible over time, but it’s not always the case, and it’s important to know what you’re committing to.

5. We’re inspired, challenged, encouraged

Whether it’s a dream, an ambition, a passion, there’s nothing more galvanizing than feeling the person in front of us encouraging us, especially when we’ve known them for a short time. If you feel that he/she wants to help you become a better version of yourself, and you feel the same way, that’s a great sign!

6. Sacrifices don’t scare us

Oh! Sacrifices, a concept that can be a bit scary, but do you know what? Commitment is already a sacrifice in itself, and when we commit to someone, we always give up something. It’s a fact! If you’re willing to give up something for this person, and it’s the same for them, it’s a very good sign. However, you don’t have to give up everything and don’t expect the other person to do so either. In a relationship, it’s all about balance, willingness and compromise.

Why have I decided to focus on the positive signs?

As a woman, we’re taught to look out for warning signs very early on, the famous red flags that serve to avoid a relationship that’s at best laborious, at worst toxic. If you think about it, it’s quite positive, but in the end, focusing on these warning signs too early on and too intensely, isn’t it just putting on the brakes, nipping a relationship in the bud, self-sabotaging?

There’s often a little control freak in us, so looking for things that might go wrong with someone is somewhat reassuring, it gives us a sense of control. We end things before they really start, before we actually suffer. In a nutshell, we protect ourselves from heartbreak, but we’re actually avoiding love… just like that, and that’s a bit foolish when we think we’re looking for love!

Based on the premise that a toxic or unhealthy situation would make me feel uncomfortable and bad, I’ve decided to focus on the positive signs. In other words, to pay attention to the qualities I’m looking for in a partner and not just focus on what might put me off. Going on a date with a positive mindset, being curious and open-minded and letting go won’t protect us, but it may make the experience more enjoyable, even more exciting.

Beware, under the guise of wanting to be and staying positive, I’m not saying that we should deny the red flags. Let’s just learn to listen to ourselves better, to set our limits properly, to be honest with ourselves and others and let’s accept to be surprised by life and people! 🤩

Editor’s note: On the right path!

If you recognize these green flags in your relationship, congratulations, you’re on the right path! But don’t forget that communication is the key to a fulfilling relationship. Don’t hesitate to express clearly what you feel, your expectations for the future, what you like, what you don’t like, etc. 👉 If your relationships are often complicated, make an appointment with a psychologist. Together you’ll understand what’s at stake, and you’ll be able to implement new behaviors that will enable you to have relaxed relationships.

🤗 Understanding yourself, accepting yourself, being happy... It’s here and now!

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Source: 6 Relationship Green Flags to Look Forward to in a New Relationship - Onelove

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