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6 green flags that show weāve found someone worthy of our love š
1. We can be ourselves
Honesty is an important value in love. Nobody wants to build a relationship on a web of lies, but sometimes we embellish reality. Itās hard to be authentic without fear of being judged or shamed. But hereās the thing, the person who is going to share your life needs to know you, if you can be yourself, assume your tastes, say what you think without fear of judgement or what the other person thinks, then itās almost certain that it will end well.
2. We laugh regularly
In my opinion, laughter is the glue that holds a couple together. I think laughing together is very important. At the beginning of a relationship, you know almost immediately if the person youāve just met will make you laugh or not, if they have a sense of humor or simply if you find yourself smiling (stupidly or not). Smiling, laughter, good humor and joy are undoubtedly green flags. š¤©
3. There is respect...
Do you need time before going further emotionally or physically? The other person should be able to understand this. Every relationship has its share of limits, specific to each person. Crossing them is disrespectful, itās a lack of respect, and this is even more true at the beginning of a relationship. The green flag is to communicate, take time to listen and understand each other.
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4. ... And shared values
Watch out, big green flag! How many couples break up because one of them wanted children and the other wanted a career abroad? Because one wanted an open relationship and the other wanted a faithful duo? At the beginning of a relationship, when youāre still getting to know each other, itās important to see if you share common values, such as ambition, confidence, fidelity, honesty, family, etc. Of course, concessions are possible over time, but itās not always the case, and itās important to know what youāre committing to.
5. Weāre inspired, challenged, encouraged
Whether itās a dream, an ambition, a passion, thereās nothing more galvanizing than feeling the person in front of us encouraging us, especially when weāve known them for a short time. If you feel that he/she wants to help you become a better version of yourself, and you feel the same way, thatās a great sign!
6. Sacrifices donāt scare us
Oh! Sacrifices, a concept that can be a bit scary, but do you know what? Commitment is already a sacrifice in itself, and when we commit to someone, we always give up something. Itās a fact! If youāre willing to give up something for this person, and itās the same for them, itās a very good sign. However, you donāt have to give up everything and donāt expect the other person to do so either. In a relationship, itās all about balance, willingness and compromise.
Why have I decided to focus on the positive signs?
As a woman, weāre taught to look out for warning signs very early on, the famous red flags that serve to avoid a relationship thatās at best laborious, at worst toxic. If you think about it, itās quite positive, but in the end, focusing on these warning signs too early on and too intensely, isnāt it just putting on the brakes, nipping a relationship in the bud, self-sabotaging?
Thereās often a little control freak in us, so looking for things that might go wrong with someone is somewhat reassuring, it gives us a sense of control. We end things before they really start, before we actually suffer. In a nutshell, we protect ourselves from heartbreak, but weāre actually avoiding love⦠just like that, and thatās a bit foolish when we think weāre looking for love!
Based on the premise that a toxic or unhealthy situation would make me feel uncomfortable and bad, Iāve decided to focus on the positive signs. In other words, to pay attention to the qualities Iām looking for in a partner and not just focus on what might put me off. Going on a date with a positive mindset, being curious and open-minded and letting go wonāt protect us, but it may make the experience more enjoyable, even more exciting.
Beware, under the guise of wanting to be and staying positive, Iām not saying that we should deny the red flags. Letās just learn to listen to ourselves better, to set our limits properly, to be honest with ourselves and others and letās accept to be surprised by life and people! š¤©
Editorās note: On the right path!If you recognize these green flags in your relationship, congratulations, youāre on the right path! But donāt forget that communication is the key to a fulfilling relationship. Donāt hesitate to express clearly what you feel, your expectations for the future, what you like, what you donāt like, etc. š If your relationships are often complicated, make an appointment with a psychologist. Together youāll understand whatās at stake, and youāll be able to implement new behaviors that will enable you to have relaxed relationships. š¤ Understanding yourself, accepting yourself, being happy... Itās here and now! #BornToBeMe |
Source: 6 Relationship Green Flags to Look Forward to in a New Relationship - Onelove
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