Why am I having doubts about my relationship?
Some people may have doubts because they’re worried. It’s in their nature. Life is one big uncertainty and the fear of failing guides every decision. For others, it’s another story. Doubts can come from the feeling that they are no longer one, that they have drifted apart. Today, a relationship is a connection: we want to be on the same wavelength emotionally, psychologically and sexually.
🤯 You no longer have the same vision of life; you want different things. Your expectations have changed since the beginning of your relationship, and you’re no longer completely satisfied, you could even say that frustration is starting to show. And there is clearly reason to have doubts! How can you continue to live in a relationship that no longer fulfills you completely? So what? Shouldn’t you make any more efforts to save your relationship? Draw a line under it and move on. Maybe, maybe not. Before making a decision, it’s important to think about it.
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When in doubt, ask yourself the following questions…
🧐 In a relationship, doubt isn’t fatal. It won’t lead to an immediate break-up, but it can offer some food for thought and point out what works and above all what doesn’t. The best way to get rid of doubts is therefore… to ask yourself the right questions and answer them.
1. What is the root of the problem?
Here you must question the very root of your doubts. Is it an overall questioning of your life? Do you want a profound change, or is it only your relationship that no longer gives you what you need? Dare to look things head on and question your relationship: are you still happy?
2. Have we spoken to each other?
A couple is two people. There are things you have to dare to say to each other in a relationship, and telling your partner that you are having doubts is almost essential. Indeed, your partner may also be having doubts, and you may realize that a lack of or poor communication are sometimes the reason for unhappiness in a relationship. Talk about your doubts freely and as honestly as possible. You may end up finding a way to silence them together.
3. Is this the end?
We often think, wrongly, that having doubts leaves the door wide open for a break-up and a broken heart, but having doubts about our relationship can also be a warning signal that encourages us to take better care of ourselves, our relationship and our life. To avoid dwelling on it, we learn to let go and give ourselves a real chance. We can focus on the positive and tell ourselves that the doubts we’re feeling are proof that there are still reasons to stay… or that it’s no longer worth fighting for. Either way, don’t rush, doubts are part of life and there’s no need to solve them immediately. We can also choose to take our time.
4. Am I eternally dissatisfied?
Yes or no, it doesn’t matter. As I was saying, doubts are part of life, so there’s no need to blame yourself because you’re no longer sure about yourself. Love and relationships are very important. Too important to be locked in a relationship in which both parties no longer share enough.
5. How about a break?
Taking a break in a relationship can sometimes be a solution, but it doesn’t come without risk. A successful break requires several rules: it must be a consensual decision, distance is essential, and communication beforehand is vital to establish your own rules. Whether fidelity is imposed, the length of the break, daily or weekly calls, etc.
A break is a difficult time, but it can provide answers to our questions. Then, let’s not forget that a relationship needs to be nurtured to survive. After having doubts, you will therefore have to renew contact with the help of couple’s therapy, if necessary. If, on the other hand, you choose not to return, you should announce your decision as soon as possible. You know what they say, it’s better to rip the plaster off in one go!
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Are doubts normal in a relationship? 🤔
Yes, having doubts in a relationship is completely normal. Every couple experiences moments of uncertainty, especially when their connection evolves over time. Doubts don’t necessarily mean something is wrong; rather, they can be a sign of emotional growth and self-reflection. They arise when you start questioning priorities, personal happiness, or future goals with your partner. In many cases, doubts serve as a mental checkpoint—helping us re-evaluate our needs, expectations, and desires. Instead of panicking, it’s important to embrace these feelings and communicate openly. Relationships thrive on understanding, and working through doubts can often strengthen your bond rather than break it. If your doubts linger without resolution, seeking guidance from a psychologist or counselor could provide clarity on whether your concerns are temporary or signs of deeper incompatibility.
Why do I doubt my relationship? 💭
Doubting your relationship is natural and can stem from various internal and external factors. It could arise from past experiences, fear of commitment, unmet expectations, or feeling emotionally disconnected from your partner. Sometimes, doubt is triggered by temporary stress, such as career changes, financial worries, or life transitions, which make you question your choices. Other times, it’s a signal that something deeper needs attention—maybe you feel your values no longer align, or the initial spark has faded. However, doubts don’t always mean the relationship is doomed. They can serve as a self-reflection tool, helping you understand your personal needs and whether your relationship is fulfilling them. Instead of ignoring these feelings, it's crucial to communicate with your partner, assess the root cause, and determine if these doubts are fleeting or persistent signs of dissatisfaction.
How to tell if you’re not right for each other - 3 Signs that don’t lie
The best thing you can do to figure out if the man you’re dating is right for you, is to listen to your intuition. But our intuition isn’t always enough, and when that’s the case, you should look for other signs that reveal whether you need to move on or change your course. In the end, no one can make that decision but you.
1) He is not right for you if you don't accept his flaws
Many people imagine that their ideal partner is perfect, a sort of semi-god who will solve all their problems and turn everyday life into a fairy tale. The real way to find out if he is right for you, however, is to find out if you are able to accept the flaws of the person you love. He's the one for you if you can accept his loud burps, his bad musical taste, or his chronic mess without grinding your teeth.
2) Admit that he's not your soulmate if you don't look forward to seeing him.
Contrary to what you might think, you're not going to feel like you're in heaven 24/7 with him if he's the right man for you. But you're not going to feel anything when you're about to see him or go to his house if he's really not right for you. You should be looking forward to seeing him if he is the one for you.
3) Don't insist if he doesn't have the same vision of the future as you.
If he's the one for you, you'll already have to think about what you'll do for the rest of your lives, whether that means getting married, having kids, or anything else that involves a traditional relationship or whether it involves a free union and lots of things to explore together. You know he's not the one for you if you're thinking about your near future or even what you'll be doing next summer without imagining him by your side.
Editor’s note: Having doubts is normal!You’ve seen that it’s normal to have doubts about your relationship! However, if these doubts persist, if you feel lost or if you’re no longer sure about anything… It’s best to contact a psychologist who will help you find your place in your relationship and understand what’s going on inside you.
🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!
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