Should I Come Clean About Cheating On My Partner?Um, now this is definitely a very tricky subject. It sounds as though your desire and libido got the best of you and you gave in and ended up cheating. If this is your case, the question is what do you do now? An affair is serious business and isn’t to be taken lightly. Should you come clean and confess your slip up or take the silent route and keep this mistake to yourself? Let’s take a look at both options.
Lie or be truthful? That is the question
When the trust is broken in a relationship and lies are exposed, things can be hard to repair. Being open about your mistakes may seem daunting and unsurmountable but that doesn’t mean everything has to come to an end! Although we like to think that relationships are completely transparent, they rarely ever are. That being said, spending your time lying to each other is absolutely unhealthy and will lead to the breakdown of your relationships. Wanting to have great clarity is good for you and those who are suffocated by jealousy.
The majority of couples cannot bear telling the true and being open when it comes to adultery. If you open up to your that you slept with a former flame, then why not call your mother-in-law out for whenever she bugs you. Telling the truth can at times seem to have a snowball effect and lead to things spinning more and more out of hand.
Why complicate things?
You had a hell of a time with your ex, but the return to reality was brutal, leaving you with a bitter taste and a huge dose of guilt. That's just fine! Infidelity isn't for you. So why go and dump your guilt on your other half? Why harm their well-being, their peace of mind, make them suffer needlessly and complicate your relationship, or even end it? If you think that not revealing your secret means the ruining of your relationship, telling the truth will probably have the same conclusion.
It is hard to imagine that this revelation will be received with kindness and understanding. Truth does not repair infidelity, so make peace with yourself. If you want to, seek to understand the cause of the infidelity and get closer to your spouse without making a fuss, without arousing his suspicions.
You can cheat on a thousand people once, but you can't cheat on a thousand people a thousand times.
If we can get over this little slipup on the way, surely, we can get through anything. An extramarital affair does not deserve to end a relationship. A long infidelity or even a double life type endangers the future of couples, but therapists agree that very often the confession of an extramarital fling gives couples the opportunity to improve their relationship by putting the finger on a deep problem.
Do not deny, do not impose anything
So, should you confess to your affair or not? If your partner has doubts, asks questions, or gets suspicious, then there is no point in denying your actions because in doing this you’ll probably lose their trust permanently. Finally, let’s not forget to respect our partners and their wishes to stay in the dark. It is possible that your spouse has discovered your adventure, but prefers to close his eyes. Feigned ignorance is often much less painful than the truth. Some people even say that they resented their partner more for confessing infidelity than for committing it. For the serenity of each person and of the couple, the simplest thing would still be to avoid infidelity... if it is possible!
|Editor's note - What if I decide to admit my affair?|
If for you the moment to confess has come, take a few precautions so as not to add more drama to the mix. Keep in mind that your spouse won't be able to take everything in. Frankly, there are few people who want to imagine the person they love in bed with someone else. So be respectful and tactful, and don't go into the intimate details. Finally, kindness and caring should become your priorities.