10 Signs You Are Drifting Away From Your Partner

Last updated by Katie M.

Relationships are full of ups and downs, yet many of them get to a point where they verge on friendships. Now, we all know that the honeymoon phase can’t last forever, but in many instances, once the lack of romance mixed with a stale routine creep in, the writing is often on the wall for lots of love stories. Keeping the spark alive is a challenge and requires the commitment of both partners, yet when we’ve been with our other half for years, we can be guilty of taking things for granted and giving up. If you are in need of a serious wake-up call, here are the warning signs you are growing apart from your partner.

10 Signs You Are Drifting Away From Your Partner
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When we’ve been with the same partner for years, seduction and sensuality often take a backseat and leave the pathway open for monotonous exchanges. The truth of the matter is that life gets in the way for many of us and pushes us further and further apart from the one we love. When the reality of bills, kids, and work stress hit, even the strongest couples are put to the test and are susceptible to giving up and losing the connection they once felt. Every single day is a challenge in love, but that doesn’t mean that you can sit on your laurels and wait for your healthy relationship to completely break down.

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Here are 10 signs you are growing apart from your man

If you relate to any of these signs and want to turn things around, now is the time to act!

1) Date nights are a thing of the past

Cast your mind back to the Friday nights where you spent hours getting glammed up, ready to hit the town with your man. Well, now that probably a thing of the past and has given way to nights on the couch watching Netflix whilst your man plays war games on the computer with his buddies. Who said romance was dead?

2) The communication has stalled

Before, you no doubt chatted about all sorts of things, yet now the conversations are reduced to discussing your weekly groceries lists and the kid’s activity schedule.

3) Sex is totally off the table

The lack of intimacy is so stark that you barely even hold hands any longer, or even give each other eye contact. Simply put, you make love once every six months when it’s scheduled in your agenda.

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4) The emotional connection has been lost

When you no longer feel like you can express what you are feeling and going through to your partner, then you really know you are growing apart. Communication is after all the basis of any good relationship.

5) You no longer compliment each other

You probably no longer hear ‘you look beautiful in that dress’, right? And, you likely never feel inclined to mention that you like your man’s fresh haircut, either.

6) You are starting to notice other people

The lack of attention and affection mean you are starting to find other people attractive, and have even thought about the possibility of getting to know someone else.

7) You spend your free time apart

Spending time together is awkward, which means you’ll do anything in your power to avoid it in an attempt to bury your head in the sand and remain oblivious to your issues.

8) Your plans for the future have changed

If before you dreamed of getting married and making a life with your partner, and suddenly no longer want this, then this is a major red flag for you to start recognizing your feelings and desires.

9) You’ve both given up fighting for your love

You both know that things have changed for the worse, yet neither of you wants to address the situation, or do anything to change it. Your stubbornness won’t help lift the wedge in between you.

10) Loneliness swamps you

Although you are together physically, you feel lonelyto the point where in your soul you feel as if you have already gone your separate ways.

Is it normal to drift apart in a relationship?

Life in a relationship is made up of the ebb and flow of desire, emotions and also feelings, meaning it’s normal for distance to be an issue between you and your partner at certain points. Only the most immature believe that we can maintain ourselves indefinitely on the crest line. The passage of time, the events of daily life, the intrinsic ambivalence of our affects mean that every love life has its ups and downs. In the low periods, the complicity, the intimacy, the sensuality of the couple work in slow motion. The mistake would be to conclude too quickly that the love affair has begun, that the desire is irreversibly lost or that there has been infidelity. Too often, on the part of the person who suffers the indifference of his or her partner, it is fears and emotion that prevail to the detriment of reason. Sometimes, a momentary detachment is transformed into a conflict that calls into question the very foundations of the couple. Hence, the need to think globally and not to focus on a particular point.

Editor’s opinion — Try couple's therapy

If you and your partner are experiencing these problems, contacting a therapist could be the solution you need to find
 each other once again. An outsider’s point of view could give you the source of motivation you need to make things better.

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