Friendship Test: How Well Do You Know Your Friends? 50 Questions To Find Out

Last updated by Rosie Harlow

One day I learned that one in two friendships wasn’t reciprocal. This figure is quite disturbing, but in the end, it’s not that surprising. When you become an adult, your priorities change, and sometimes you drift apart or make new friends... and forget others! To find out where you stand with your friendships or to get to know each other better, there’s a very effective method: 50 questions to get to know each other by heart and (re)connect.

Friendship Test: How Well Do You Know Your Friends? 50 Questions To Find Out

Friendship test: Questions to help you get to know each other better

The friendship test is divided into 4 parts: deep questions, funny questions, “do you prefer” questions and personal questions. Ready for a little Q&A session with your close ones?

Deep questions

  • 1. What’s the nicest thing you’d like to offer your parents?
  • 2. If you won the lottery, how would you spend your money?
  • 3. What’s the craziest thing on your bucket list? 
  • 4. If you had to move to another country, where would you choose?
  • 5. What’s your dream career?
  • 6. Who would you like to have dinner with, alive or dead?
  • 7. If you had to fight for a global cause, which one would you choose?
  • 8. If you could go back in time, what historical event would you want to experience?
  • 9. Which book has changed your life?
  • 10. Which film moved you the most?
  • 11. How do you prefer to be comforted?
  • 12. What’s the first thing you notice when you meet someone?
  • 13. What songs might be on the soundtrack of your life?
  • 14. What job did you want to do as a child?
  • 15. If you could swap places with someone for a day, who would you choose and why?
  • 16. What worries you the most at the moment?
  • 17. What’s your greatest achievement?
  • 18. How would you define your look?

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Funny questions

  • 19. If you could have any superpower, which would you choose?
  • 20. If you were an object, what would you be?
  • 21. What’s the funniest joke you’ve ever heard?
  • 22. What luxury item could you succumb to?
  • 23. If you could have any celebrity as your best friend, who would it be?
  • 24. If you had to change your name, what would it be?
  • 25. What always makes you laugh?

“Do you prefer” questions

  • 26. What’s your favorite song at the moment?
  • 27. What food combination do you like to make that others might find weird?
  • 28. What was your favorite subject at school?
  • 29. Which celebrity do you fantasize about?
  • 30. What’s your favorite dessert?
  • 31. Where would you like to travel to?
  • 32. What’s your favorite game?
  • 33. Do you prefer trainers or heels?

Personal questions

  • 34. What thing from your past would you like to change?
  • 35. What’s your greatest fear?
  • 36. What’s your best childhood memory?
  • 37. What’s the nicest compliment someone’s ever paid you?
  • 38. What activity do you like to do alone?
  • 39. What’s the best memory you have of us?
  • 40. What do I do that you’d like me to stop doing?
  • 41. Do you have a secret that I don’t know about?
  • 42. What makes you the most nostalgic?
  • 43. How would you describe me in 3 words?
  • 44. How would you describe yourself in 3 words?
  • 45. What was the last thing that made you cry?
  • 46. What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
  • 47. What are you most proud of?
  • 48. What’s the most embarrassing moment you’ve ever had?
  • 49. What would your perfect day look like?
  • 50. Do you remember when we met?

50 questions to evaluate your friendships

These 50 questions will enable you to find out how well you know your best friends or help you make new connections and please the ones you love. And if you’re the type to compartmentalize friends, this article is for you: How to make new friends.

How can you tell if a friendship is genuine?

Knowing your friends is all very well, but the question of sincerity is just as important. As we’ve seen, many friendships are no longer reciprocal and some can even become toxic, but we don’t always realize it. So what defines a genuine friendship, and how do you recognize it? 

A genuine friendship is often long-standing, punctuated by shared stories and experiences. It’s the misfortunes and joys shared over the years that have strengthened your bond. A friend who knows everything about you. However, true friends can also be newcomers to our lives. Time isn’t the golden rule that determines a true friendship. Much stronger elements form the basis of a genuine friendship:

  • commitment
  • authenticity
  • sincerity
  • confidence
  • honesty
  • trust

In the end, our real friends are the ones who catch up with us, worry about us, and are loyal to us. Those with whom we’re not afraid to be ourselves and who know how to listen to our little secrets, but who also know how to tell us theirs.

A genuine friendship is OK, but it also needs to be healthy and balanced

Sometimes we get so caught up in the hectic pace of our lives that we don’t always realize that some of our relationships, including friendships, aren’t necessarily good for our well-being. A friendship may be genuine, but it can also be a source of stress, anxiety, or negativity in your life. This is the case, for example, of that friend you love dearly, but who spends all her time complaining, or the one who, under the pretext of advice, criticizes you a bit too much 😖. So how do you assess the health of your friendships? What are the signs of a balanced and positive friendship?

  • Open communication: A solid friendship is built on open and honest communication. You should feel comfortable expressing your feelings, sharing your concerns, and discussing your problems without fear of being judged or misunderstood. A genuine friend will listen to you and support you even in difficult times.
  • Mutual respect: Respect is a pillar of every relationship, including friendships. It means that your time, space, limits, and feelings are respected. ⚠️ You should never feel taken advantage of or undervalued by a true friend.
  • Equality: A healthy friendship shouldn’t be a one-way street. It requires giving and receiving, listening and talking, supporting and being supported. If you feel the balance is off, it may be time to discuss your concerns with your friend.
  • Honesty: A genuine friendship is a safe place for the truth, even when that truth may be painful or difficult to tell. A true friend will be honest with you, even if that honesty can sometimes be uncomfortable.

Remember that we deserve friendships that make us happy, support us, and help us to grow. If you notice signs of toxicity or inequality in a friendship, don’t hesitate to discuss it or even question it. Because, after all, life’s too short to spend time in relationships that don’t fulfill us. We’re all incredible women, who deserve equally incredible friendships! 🌺

Editor’s note: Tell us everything!

Have fun with your friends and tell us what you thought of our test in the comments! Friendships are vital and can be just as painful as romantic relationships. If you’re feeling down, if a friendship is a source of suffering, or if you sense that something’s not quite right, don’t hesitate to contact one of our coaches to talk about it. Together, you’ll be able to put in place new habits that will enable you to flourish in your relationships.

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