How To Make Friends As An Adult? - 6 Tips For A Social Life

Last updated by Katie M.

Remember in middle school when you got close to that girl with pigtails, asked her if she wanted to be your best friend, and the next thing you know, you became BFFs? What a sweet moment that was, but, if only things remained that easy 30 years later. As an adult, it’s so much more difficult to make new friends, and often find it impossible to find the courage needed to approach people. If you want to expand your social circle, we have 6 pieces of advice to help you along the way!

How To Make Friends As An Adult? - 6 Tips For A Social Life
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6 Tips on how to make friends as a grown-up

1. Give a new activity a go

It’s simple, but you don’t often think about it. Finding yourself a new hobby is the ideal time to meet new people. In order for it to work, you have to combat your shyness and be open-minded. Say hello to everyone, be smiley, ask for advice, speak about your life and what you're passionate about, etc. Over time, you’ll see friendships develop and will soon be doing things together!

2. Combine friendship groups

What could be simpler and more effective than mixing together friendship groups in order to meet new faces? Organize evenings out with friends you already have and ask them to bring their friends along too. Do this again and after a while, bonds will be formed. That said, it is a problem not to have friends?

3. Get out of your comfort zone

It’s too easy to go home and peacefully go about your little reassuring routine, but people won’t be waiting for you outside your front door. To meet people, you have to make the most of all opportunities to do something new. If your work colleagues suggest a game of badminton, say yes. If you are invited to a night out, but you don’t know anyone, say yes! Basically, accept invitations from people as often as possible. Your life will be exciting, and you will definitely be able to make new friends.

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4. Make the most of social media

You have many friends on Facebook that you don’t know or don’t meet up with. But what if you suggested going out for a drink with one of those people for once. It’s easy and what’s more, you have nothing to lose!

5. Keep your eyes peeled

What if your future friends are already around you? At work, in your favorite café, on the subway, look around, show an interest in the people surrounding you. Build relationships with people you have things in common with. This is a great way to establish sincere friendships.

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6. Join the gym

If you want to expand your circle of friendships, the gym is one of the best places to do it! It's a great way to meet potential friends and burn calories too, so what could be better? Plus, it will encourage you to discover new things and introduce you to people with fitness as a shared interest. After a busy day at work, you'll definitely look forward to meeting up with your fit bunny crew.

Why do I not have friends? 3 Reasons why

Do you wonder why you have no or few friends? Do you feel lonely? If so, it's important that you address the reasons for this: perhaps it's because you're probably doing things that keep them away from you. Sometimes it is difficult for us to be self-critical or to accept our own faults. However, this is a necessary condition and even more so if you want to make friends.

1. If you think you don't have friends, it's because you complain a lot

Constant complaining may be one of the reasons why you don't have any friends. This fact is so socially accepted that you settle in almost without realizing it. Constant complaining, however, leads other people to see you as a victim and someone who is very pessimistic.

2. When you are in a relationship, you forget your friends

Many people, when they are in a relationship, forget that they have friends. They only want to be with their partner. This is understandable, but you also need to create space for yourself to give time to your pals.

3. You suffer from a lack of self-esteem

Another reason why you don't have friends, and this is repeated more often, is low self-esteem. When you have low self-esteem, various problems can arise in your personal relationships.

Editor’s opinion – Keep in contact with the new people you meet

Now that you have met new people, you’ll have to work on these friendships. Make space in your diary, organize nights out, catch up from time to time. Don’t let these new relationships fall by the wayside.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!

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