10 Signs Your Friendship Isn't HealthyOur instincts are often renowned for being right, and we know the signs of a bad friendship when we see them. If your friend never seems to be free anymore and doesn’t appear interested by your problems then there’s a chance that your friendship has become one-sided. Read on to see the 10 signs that your friendship is toxic and that you need to walk away.
As in all relationships, whether romantic or friendly, there are ups and downs. Although, a toxic relationship is when the ups and downs are very frequent and when we therefore start to suffer the consequences of it. If you notice that your friend's behavior has changed, then it may be time to distance yourself.
10 Signs a friendship is no longer mutual and that you need to move on
1. Your ‘friend’ is no longer interested in what's going on in your life.
On the phone or during your outings, your friend only ever talks about themselves and no longer seems to care enough to ask you about your well-being. You no longer talk about your joys and heartbreaks together.
2. Your relationship is too opportunistic
Your pal only gives a sign of life when they need a favor from you, you should definitely move on. You are no longer a friend but a tool to help them achieve their goals.
3. You are no longer comfortable confiding in them
A true friend knows (almost) everything about your life and story. Normally, you accept the fact that you feel vulnerable when you talk to them about your worries. But if you feel more judged than supported and listened to, that's a bad sign.
4. You come second to everything else
Your so-called friend no longer takes the time to see you and always has better things to do, so you find yourself as an afterthought when they have nothing else to do.
5. They no longer take the initiative
You are the only one who makes an effort to stay in touch. Calls, texts, invitations, if you don't make the first move then you’ll never see each other.
6. You learn everything about their life on social media
Your friend no longer tells you anything personal, or rather they tell you the same thing as their 500 virtual friends. You feel like you've lost your privileged status...
7. They demean and criticize you.
A friend becomes toxic when they put you down. Normally this special person is supposed to be loyal, listen to you, comfort you and encourage you!
8. You are afraid to give them your opinion
Everything you tell them is for their own good, but they no longer understand that. On the contrary, every time they feel upset or offended, it always leads to an argument.
9. They see you as a rival
In their eyes, you're a threat, so they never stop comparing your respective lives. Work, apartment, dress size; in short, they are jealous and try to play down your success and achievements.
10. You feel like you are competing with their other friends
They only talk about their other friends, of whom they draw a wonderful portrait. Funnily enough, they are kinder towards them, by praising their qualities. Everything they do makes you understand that the others are much better than you.
Editor's note - The delicate task of breaking up with a friend
Ending a relationship is never easy. The best way to make a breakup as smooth as possible is through non-violent communication. There is no need to list the other person's flaws and mistakes, but it is better to be transparent. Talk about your feelings and say things simply with sincerity and honesty. Clarity and diplomacy will make it possible to end a friendship without triggering a war.
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