But who is she really? The child-like woman. It’s all in the name, but not quite fully, either. Admittedly, the child-like woman has become an adult, because we all go through that, but she hasn’t “grown up”. So she juggles all her facets: cute and sexy, fresh and annoying. The child-like woman is above all a subject of fantasy, for better or for worse. Let’s explain.
While some people imagine her to be free, happy-go-lucky, and spontaneous, the child-like woman is above all an immature woman, a woman who refuses to grow up 🧸! She’s locked into gender stereotypes and can be recognized with various signs: she likes to watch cartoons while humming, sleeps with a cuddly toy, avoids or even refuses constraints, minces a lot, uses sulking as blackmail, speaks in onomatopoeia with a baby voice, needs hundreds of cuddles a day, dreams of a Prince Charming-style true love and gives him a ridiculous nickname, etc.
It’s simple, she’s a child, except that she needs to find a job, pay her taxes, and has the right to vote!
On a more serious note (even though), the child-like woman is above all an immature person in her romantic relationships. She is often pleasing and very attractive, especially to men who feel their virility swelling at her side. In fact, the child-like woman may represent a masculine fantasy of the “alpha male”. They imagine themselves dominating and never getting bored with this natural, spontaneous woman, full of joie de vivre. A true symbol of freedom with whom they can totally relax and at the same time, a woman who needs them so much, who allows them to play the protector, to have the feeling of being indispensable 😒. In short, having your cake and eating it too, to the point where you might even think that for men, child-like women, or femme fatale, it’s all the same thing 😅!
But in the end, it doesn’t matter that the child-like woman is a fantasy for men and at the same time tramples all over a whole raft of egalitarian and feminist values with her tiny little feet by viewing a relationship through the prism of the strong man who has to protect a fragile woman. The real problem is that child-like women often find it very hard to stay in a relationship because the relationship’s unbalanced 😖!
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for everyone blooming in their emotional lives. So if a woman needs to meet a protective person to make her happy, I’m all for it! Except that sometimes this type of relationship can be very toxic, if the person you consider to be protective is in fact domineering, macho, narcissistic, manipulative, or even violent. I’m talking about extreme cases, but it’s nevertheless very common for child-like women to have difficulty projecting themselves in an adult-to-adult relationship. This gives the other person the impression that they’re carrying the relationship on their own at arm’s length...
In a relationship, a child-like woman will tend to:
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So, how can we explain how a woman becomes a child-like woman? Where does this need for security, while stubbornly refusing to take responsibility and grow up, come from? As is often the case, we need to go back to childhood. Emotional development may have been frozen following a traumatic event such as abandonment, grief, violence, or even absence 💔. In fact, it’s a defense mechanism to be able to continue living normally...
Another possibility is that this also happens to little girls who had to take on responsibilities at a very early age. The eldest sibling often has the role of a second mother, especially when the parents are away at work. As they grow up, these girls will feel that they can only be loved if they behave like children and not for the adult they’ve become 🤕.
👉 It’s also possible that the child-like woman is trapped in the Tinkerbell syndrome because of the family model in place... In any case, it’s not her fault, but you have to look into her past if the repercussions are negative.
Of course, it’s perfectly possible to be a child-like woman, to be happy, and to have a stable relationship 🤗. A little introspection and self-analysis are sometimes necessary, but it’s not a question of giving up on yourself. In fact, it’s perfectly possible to assume your personality with its feminine and childlike sides. You just need to be able to detect which personality traits are mature, and which are less so, and identify an unbalanced relationship to transform it into a relationship between adults. The important thing is not to suffer, constantly asking yourself “what’s wrong with me 🥴?”
Editor’s note: It’s OK if (and only if) you’re happy like this!As you’ve gathered, being a child-like woman, refusing to assume the responsibilities of adulthood, is OK if you’re happy with it. However, if it’s affecting your relationships, and you’re suffering as a result, don’t wait to contact a psychologist. Together, you can work on who you are, where this behavior comes from, your relationships with others, etc. There are some very effective therapies, so don’t hesitate any longer. 🤗 Understanding yourself, accepting yourself, being happy... It’s here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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