What Are My Attributes & Flaws? Lists To Help You

Last updated by Lauren Hart

Oh, I’ve got a lot of faults! Fortunately, I also have qualities, which I can see despite my low self-confidence. I’ve been working on myself for years, which is why I know myself so well. However, I know that not everyone’s at the same stage and that some people need to get to know themselves a little better. So if you’re wondering “what are my attributes and flaws?”, here’s a list to help you.

What Are My Attributes & Flaws? Lists To Help You

Why’s it worth knowing your attributes and flaws?

Understanding our qualities and faults is just as important as defining our values 👀. In both cases, it acts as a compass to guide us. Indeed, it plays a key role in our personal development. When we identify our strengths, we can use them to the full to achieve our goals. And when we recognize our weaknesses, we have the opportunity to improve them or find ways around them.

Not to mention that this self-awareness also has an impact on our relationships with others. For example, if we’re aware of our empathy, we can use it to improve our interactions, helping others to feel understood and valued. And if we know we’re a little impatient, we can work on that 😬.

When it comes to work, knowing your strengths and weaknesses can steer you towards a career that really suits you. For example, if you’re a creative problem-solver, you might thrive in a career in design. And if you know you have trouble managing stress, you could look for jobs in a more zen environment.

👋 You may be interested in this article: Why can I never see the positive in anything?

The list of qualities

Let’s start with the most pleasant list, that of our qualities. Contrary to what you might think, recognizing your qualities isn’t presumptuous. Thanks to this introspection, we understand what can help us get ahead in life. What’s more, it can also give us greater self-confidence. Yes, when we know what we can bring to others, we can feel more at ease in different situations. As a result, our relationships can be improved. We show others that we’re aware of ourselves, which is a good start for healthy relationships!

👉 Okay, now we need to identify at least 3 qualities from this list:

Honesty, integrity, responsibility, respect, empathy, generosity, patience, perseverance, creativity, optimism, humility, courage, passion, adaptability, reliability, curiosity, autonomy, sense of humor, ambition, discretion, loyalty, open-mindedness, ability to listen, tolerance, determination, altruism, kindness, diplomacy, efficiency, flexibility, gratitude, initiative, joviality, lucidity, moderation, neutrality, objectivity, insight, resilience, wisdom, calmness.

Of course, this isn’t an exhaustive list, but it does give you an initial understanding of yourself. However, now that you’ve buttered yourself up, you’re going to have to tackle what hurts the most, your flaws.

The list of flaws

Ah, here we come to the most difficult stage, recognizing your faults. It’s not easy, but it’s a real sign of maturity and honesty towards yourself. You shouldn’t judge yourself too harshly, but keep in mind that you still need to be objective and kind, especially if you have low self-esteem.

👉 Everyone has flaws, we keep that in mind, but we still pick 3:

Impatience, stubbornness, laziness, pride, jealousy, indecision, carelessness, impulsiveness, susceptibility, excessive shyness, perfectionism, pessimism, selfishness, resentment, mistrust, arrogance, indiscretion, irresponsibility, insensitivity, infidelity, chronic dissatisfaction, unsociability, intolerance, disrespect, dishonesty, manipulation, insincerity, backbiting, nonchalance, obstinacy, opportunism, ostentation, paradox, passiveness, rigidity, skepticism, superficiality, temerity, vanity, fickleness.

Working on yourself is essential

As I said, we need to show empathy with ourselves, but we also need to be able to question ourselves, particularly after identifying our faults, especially if these have an impact on our relationships. Indeed, even though everyone has faults, they don’t affect our lives in the same way.  So we need to ask ourselves the question, depending on our flaws 🤔: “Am I a toxic person?”. It’s not easy to take this step back, but at least it allows you to recognize the points you need to work on.

💬 For example, for me personally, I know that I can be sensitive and aggressive if something hurts me. I need to learn to manage my emotions and hypersensitivity better so that it doesn’t have too much of an impact on my relationships, especially with the people I love 😥.  In short, knowing your qualities as well as your flaws is a good way to progress and be a better person, whether for yourself or for others 🥰!

Editor’s note: A rewarding inner journey

Knowing yourself, understanding yourself, and accepting yourself is where it all starts. That’s why it’s so important to be able to identify your qualities and areas for improvement. This inner journey isn’t always easy, but it’s so rewarding. If you feel that you need someone to accompany you, to guide you through the maze of your being, don’t hesitate to make an appointment with one of our psychologists. Are you ready for the journey?

🤗 Understanding yourself, accepting yourself, being happy... It’s here and now!

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Article presented by Lauren Hart

Writing is a beautiful means of expression that I cannot do without. It has allowed me to channel my hypersensitivity, plus I love writing about psychology and personal development. For me, self-understanding is the best way to move forward!

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