Am I A Toxic Person? Complete Our Test To Find Out

Last updated by Katie M.

In love, in friendship, at work, in your family… I think we’ve unfortunately all had to deal with a toxic person at some point. But we may also ask ourselves the question: “Am I a toxic person?” Sometimes we don’t realize the gravity of our own behavior! That’s why it’s important to take a step back from situations and ask yourself questions to self-evaluate and be the best person you can be. So, here’s a little test to know whether you’re a toxic person or not!

Am I A Toxic Person? Complete Our Test To Find Out

Am I toxic, test: 10 signs that confirm you are…

1 – You judge all the time

A toxic person will constantly judge others: career choice, love life, fashion, food, etc. They spend their time criticizing (and therefore questioning) the choices of others and putting down those they meet. Negativity is all around a toxic person: nothing or nobody is ever good enough!

You may be interested in this article >>> The 4 main causes of unhappiness at work

2- You don’t listen

Listening to others is important. It shows that you’re interested in them! However, if you’re a toxic person, you don’t care! People with an overinflated ego don’t listen and just want to talk about themselves. They’re desperate to be the center of attention, so they can boast about their “qualities”.

🙄 A toxic person nods their head and mumbles, but doesn’t really engage in the conversation. Yet, they do want to talk about themselves!

3 – You’re demanding

Demanding things you can’t give yourself is total hypocrisy: “Do what I say, not what I do!” In general, toxic people have extremely high expectations of others, but they definitely don’t do half of what they ask for.

💔 For example: When it comes to being faithful in a relationship, a toxic person will demand it, but won’t necessarily put it into practice…

4 – You lie regularly

Lying is part of being human, everyone can lie! Not least to avoid hurting someone, but in general, a toxic person lies to get things their own way. They want to make themselves look good through their lies! If someone has already caught you in a lie, and you’ve tried to make them believe it is true, it’s a bad sign…

You may be interested in this article >>> The reasons why we lie

5 – You always want to be right

Of course, it’s not a pathology to want to be right, either. But when everyone tells you that you’re wrong, you should admit your mistake. Especially when you fight and fight because you consider that your point of view is the only one that counts, it’s not healthy for others. A conversation or a debate isn’t a challenge to be won, it’s an exchange.

6 – You never apologize

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why can’t I apologize?”, you may be toxic for others. Indeed, it shows that you think you’re always right or that it’s never your fault. It’s important to recognize your mistakes to others and take a step back from your actions.

➜ Some people have the reflex to apologize even when they’ve done nothing wrong. The natural reflex of toxic people is to lie, not to apologize.

7 – You use irony too much

Using double entendres and irony, subtly putting others down… Here is a summary of toxic behaviors that make others miserable. This can be embodied by “teasing” that is the main mode of communication for this type of person.

🐶 For example: When someone adopts an animal, instead of being happy for them, you say, “Your dog is ugly, why would you want to get a pug? And you’ll have loads of problems with…” Typical!

8 – You’re passive-aggressive

Instead of spreading love around you, you spread hate. When you do everything to transmit your malice to others while avoid responsibility for conflicts, that’s being toxic! Revenge is also part of passive-aggressive behavior. Instead of telling someone they hurt you, you seek revenge to hurt them too.

➜ Real emotions are always hidden in a toxic person, you never know what is going on inside them.

9 – You’re your own priority

Wanting to make yourself your priority and cultivating self-love is important for building self-confidence. But when you put yourself first without ever helping anyone or simply listening, that’s toxicity. You have to be interested in others to be a caring person: asking how the other person is doing, offering them your help, etc.

➜ Narcissistic perverts are toxic people who always want to be the center of attention by making everything about them!

10 – On the other hand, if you’re reading this article…

… there’s a good chance you’re not a toxic person, or you’re in the process of changing. Indeed, a toxic person isn’t aware that they’re toxic and doesn’t take stock of their behavior. They won’t try to improve themselves to become a better person for others. So, it’s a good sign you’re reading this article as you’re asking yourself questions!

➜ However, this doesn’t mean all the work is done. If you feel you still have some work to do, you should be able to get professional help to work on this behavior.

Editor’s note: If you’re questioning yourself, you’re not a toxic person!

If you’re asking yourself this question, you’re not a toxic person! Indeed, this kind of person doesn’t even ask themselves the question! However, if you think there’s an unhealthy individual in your close circle, don’t hesitate to contact one of our professionals to talk about it.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy… Let’s do it here and now!

#BornToBeMe

Be sure to read the following articles too:

Article presented by Katie M.

Discover the world through my eyes.

Read our latest articles here:

Why Do We Feel Better In The Evening When We Have Depression?

If there’s one symptom that can be observed in any type of depression, it’s fatigue. Intense fatigue that sticks to the skin and holds us back like a ball and chain. The problem with this fatigue is that it occurs mainly in the morning, which is one of the reasons why, in the case of depression, we feel better in the evening than in the morning.

Pay Transparency: Why Is Talking About Your Salary So Taboo?

If there’s a world where taboos abound, it’s the world of work. Avoiding opening up, avoiding emotions, avoiding closeness, avoiding anything personal, but above all, the opaque mystery of salaries! The ban is there, never stated, never established, but its scent floats around the subject of salaries. But why is talking about your salary so taboo?

What Job Can Reconcile Your Professional And Home Life?

As the saying goes, ‘we can’t have it all’, but is that really true? Establishing balance in your life is never exactly an easy challenge, but it is the secret to creating happiness is finding the sacred line between your job and your family. That’s right, it's essential to ask yourself how you organize your life, so you can make the most of every moment. So, what job will allow you to reconcile both aspects of your life?

10 Reasons Why Your Ex Slept With Someone Else After Your Breakup

We are all unique individuals, and we, therefore, go about handling breakups and the other obstacles life throws our way, differently. Now, when it comes to breakups, there are those of us that almost become celibate and decide that they can't stand the idea of getting to know anyone ever again. Then, on the other hand, there are those that fill their phones with dating apps and jump from one one-night stand to the next. This second scenario may seem harmless, but once we dig a little deeper into the repercussions of it, we soon realize that sleeping with other people so freshly out of a relationship masks troubling sentiments of unhappiness and uneasiness.

What Is Gaslighting And Why Is It So Dangerous?

Gaslighting is one of the most destabilizing and covert forms of manipulation out there, and often makes victims feel completely lost and broken. This scary scenario essentially involves brainwashing via deception and is frequently characterized by blatant denial and emotional blackmail. ‘No, darling, I would never lie to you. I love you too much for that. Remember, it was you who stained my collar with lipstick... you forget everything.’ This is a classic example of this type of abuse, and trust me, I should know because I’ve been through it...

Can A Narcissist Be Faithful?

Narcissists often get bad press, and although many of us try to see the best in most people, in their case, it can be extremely difficult to find. The truth is, folks with this personality disorder don’t exactly have many redeeming qualities that could potentially help to excuse and explain their borderline evil behavior. Plus, when it comes to love, their lack of empathy means they have next to no loyalty, which means many of them often end up cheating on their partners. Ladies, if you are in a relationship with a narcissist, the alarm bells ought to be truly deafening.

Help, Why Do I Attract Narcissists?

After a succession of dating disasters, I decided that it was time I took a step back to analyze the root of my consistent heartbreak. Being on the dating scene is tough, and meeting new people just isn’t as easy as they make it out to be. Although, that being said, meeting toxic monsters seems to be a lot less complicated, well at least for me, it seems that way, that’s right, I have a real talent for it. So, after deleting all of my apps and going on a dating hiatus for several months, I finally understand why I attract people with narcissistic personality disorders, who do nothing but break me down and subject me to narcissistic abuse.

Can You Have A Healthy Relationship With A Narcissist?

I’ve always been very open with my dating history, so if you’ve read some of my other articles, you’ll probably already know that, none of my relationships have ever fulfilled me, or even made me feel good about myself. In fact, since dating my most recent partner, who was by the way a raging narcissist, I’ve decided that I need to take a break from love, and instead, spend more time on finding myself. How did I get to this point? Well, when I was with my ex, no matter how hard I tried, our love disintegrated, well at least for me, it did. I can now firmly say that all the tears, arguments, and pain have taught me that loving someone with narcissistic tendencies will only ever end in disaster, and I’m about to share why.

Is My Coworker A Narcissist?

Now, I don’t want to make you paranoid, but the truth is that narcissists are everywhere, and that’s why it’s so important to be able to spot them and their devious ways. So, with that in mind, why wouldn't there be a narcissist lurking in the office? Has that given you food for thought, and suddenly got your mind racing? Who is your number one suspect? Is it Jon; the guy who constantly hogs the photocopier, or perhaps even Emma; the backstabbing human resources manager? In any case, knowing how to identify these personalities is essential, so discover the 10 deplorable behavioral signs you need to look out for. You’ll never look at your coworkers in the same way again!

What Does Narcissistic Abuse Feel Like?

Narcissistic abuse is truly one of the most crushing and soul-destroying trials anyone can go through. When we are subjected to such intense emotional manipulation at the hands of someone we believe cares for us, our mental health certainly takes a hit, and we can even lose our sense of reality and end up thinking that we are the problem. Abusive relationships come in all forms; whether they are romantic, friendship based or occur in a professional setting, they are all equally damaging and agonizing. As someone who has experienced this type of abuse first-hand with my ex-boyfriend, I want to share with you what it feels like.

Wengood's favorite tunes 🎵

Wengood's playlist

wengood

  1. Only LoveBen Howard
    4:08
  2. Let It BE - Beatles Awaken2Now (See Thru Oppositional 2’s)
    3:54
  3. Fix YouColdplay
    4:55
  4. Beautiful DayU2
    4:08
  5. Thinking out LoudEd Sheeran
    4:41
  6. White FlagDido
    4:00
  7. Lay Me DownSam Smith
    4:13
  8. Nine Million BicyclesKatie Melua
    3:17
  9. Put Your Records OnCorinne Bailey Rae
    3:35
  10. Summertime SadnessLana Del Rey
    4:24
  11. Imagine - Remastered 2010John Lennon
    3:07
  12. Shake It OutFlorence + The Machine
    4:37
  13. Space Oddity - Love You Til Tuesday versionDavid Bowie
    3:46
  14. What A Wonderful WorldLouis Armstrong
    2:19
  15. With Or Without YouU2
    4:56
  16. HelloAdele
    4:55
  17. Don't Stop Me NowQueen
    3:29
  18. Skinny LoveBirdy
    3:21
  19. WingsBirdy
    4:12
  20. Californian SoilLondon Grammar
    3:41


"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." 

- Oscar Wilde


How to detect a narcissist

How to detect a narcissist

How to soothe an anxiety attack

How to soothe an anxiety attack