Test: 10 signs to conclude whether you’re a toxic person
1 – You judge all the time
A toxic person will constantly judge others: career choice, love life, fashion, food, etc. They spend their time criticizing (and therefore questioning) the choices of others and putting down those they meet. Negativity is all around a toxic person: nothing or nobody is ever good enough!
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2- You don’t listen
Listening to others is important. It shows that you’re interested in them! However, if you’re a toxic person, you don’t care! People with an overinflated ego don’t listen and just want to talk about themselves. They’re desperate to be the center of attention so they can boast about their “qualities”.
🙄 A toxic person nods their head and mumbles, but doesn’t really engage in the conversation. Yet, they do want to talk about themselves!
3 – You’re demanding
Demanding things you can’t give yourself is total hypocrisy: “Do what I say, not what I do!” In general, toxic people have extremely high expectations of others, but they definitely don’t do half of what they ask for.
💔 For example: When it comes to being faithful in a relationship, a toxic person will demand it, but won’t necessarily put it into practice…
4 – You lie regularly
Lying is part of being human, everyone can lie! Not least to avoid hurting someone, but in general, a toxic person lies to get things their own way. They want to make themselves look good through their lies! If someone has already caught you in a lie, and you’ve tried to make them believe it is true, it’s a bad sign…
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5 – You always want to be right
Of course, it’s not a pathology to want to be right, either. But when everyone tells you that you’re wrong, you should admit your mistake. Especially when you fight and fight because you consider that your point of view is the only one that counts, it’s not healthy for others. A conversation or a debate isn’t a challenge to be won, it’s an exchange.
6 – You never apologize
If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why can’t I apologize?”, you may be toxic for others. Indeed, it shows that you think you’re always right or that it’s never your fault. It’s important to recognize your mistakes to others and take a step back from your actions.
➜ Some people have the reflex to apologize even when they’ve done nothing wrong. The natural reflex of toxic people is to lie, not to apologize.
7 – You use irony too much
Using double entendres and irony, subtly putting others down… Here is a summary of toxic behaviors that make others miserable. This can be embodied by “teasing” that is the main mode of communication for this type of person.
🐶 For example: When someone adopts an animal, instead of being happy for them, you say, “Your dog is ugly, why would you want to get a pug? And you’ll have loads of problems with…” Typical!
8 – You’re passive-aggressive
Instead of spreading love around you, you spread hate. When you do everything to transmit your malice to others while avoid responsibility for conflicts, that’s being toxic! Revenge is also part of passive-aggressive behavior. Instead of telling someone they hurt you, you seek revenge to hurt them too.
➜ Real emotions are always hidden in a toxic person, you never know what is going on inside them.
9 – You’re your own priority
Wanting to make yourself your priority and cultivating self-love is important for building self-confidence. But when you put yourself first without ever helping anyone or simply listening, that’s toxicity. You have to be interested in others to be a caring person: asking how the other person is doing, offering them your help, etc.
➜ Narcissistic perverts are toxic people who always want to be the center of attention by making everything about them!
10 – On the other hand, if you’re reading this article…
… there’s a good chance you’re not a toxic person, or you’re in the process of changing. Indeed, a toxic person isn’t aware that they’re toxic and doesn’t take stock of their behavior. They won’t try to improve themselves to become a better person for others. So, it’s a good sign you’re reading this article as you’re asking yourself questions!
➜ However, this doesn’t mean all the work is done. If you feel you still have some work to do, you should be able to get professional help to work on this behavior.
Editor’s note: If you’re questioning yourself, you’re not a toxic person!
If you’re asking yourself this question, you’re not a toxic person! Indeed, this kind of person doesn’t even ask themselves the question! However, if you think there’s an unhealthy individual in your close circle, don’t hesitate to contact one of our professionals to talk about it.
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