Why Does Swearing Feel So Good?! Why We Love To Curse

Last updated by Katie M.

Who has never let slip a little f-bomb before?! For me, swearing is like breathing, it's also natural! I spill a drink over me? You'll hear me drop the biggest cuss words possible. Someone cuts me up on the freeway? Well, the same thing will happen, and my lovely language will make another appearance. Plus, I don't mind swearing in front of others, no matter how they look at me. Well, if there are children around, of course I'm careful, I wouldn't want to traumatize them either. In any case, every time, cursing makes me feel SO much better.

Why Does Swearing Feel So Good?! Why We Love To Curse
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Swearing helps us manage our emotions

A swear word is defined as a coarse expression in the form of an interjection, or a strong reaction of disgust or anger. This is a first clue as to why it makes us feel good. When we unleash a flurry of flowery words, it allows us to calm our inner anger. We release all the resentment we feel over a pain or upset, and this is typically what I do when I'm driving! Swearing does me a lot of good, because I can better manage my strong emotions: fear, stress, anger, etc. Obviously I'm not a ball of anger when I'm driving, it's only when there are bad surprises 😜...

Cursing and endorphins

Beyond helping us to externalize our anger, it has a real beneficial effect on our psyche. In fact, psychologist Richard Stevens of Keele University, conducted an experiment showing that swearing does our minds good. He asked 72 students to hold their hands in ice water 🥶. Those who swore the most, were able to hold on for longer!

In addition, researchers at Harvard University have shown that swearing accelerates the heart rate and that it promotes pleasure hormones. So a well-placed f-bomb can release endorphins! We already knew that it's important to smile, now we'll know that it's just as essential to say swear words for our well-being 😌 !

Swear words are inherently sexist

I guess saying that swearing and cursing is sexist is no surprise to anyone. Yep, b*tch, sl*t, and even c*nt, all of these lovely words relate to the female gender 😅. It's just a reflection of hundreds of years of male dominance... No, beyond that, my point is that women don't dare swear as much as men 😳. I consider myself a bit of a rule to the exception, as I can say the worst words in a matter of seconds 😬. However, I don't reflect the overall behavior of most women.

👉 In the book "The stressed sex", by Jason and Daniel Freeman, the authors explain that women are twice as stressed as their male colleagues, because they don't externalize their upset.

We've seen that swearing is a way to express our resentments and release our toxins. Which means we hold back on swearing, because girls are educated differently than men 🙃 we're way too highbrow compared to them!

Cursing is a form of therapy

So to hell with the fear of other people’s gaze and good morals, if it feels good to swear, and it's scientifically proven, so let's let loose 🤪! Besides, the British women have understood it well, since there, ladies have courses to learn to swear in order to externalize their emotions. More and more "swearing classes" are springing up and work as liberating group therapy.

I was familiar with laughter therapy, until I got a famous nervous laugh, but I must admit that the swearing course was new to me! This proves how bad it is for our well-being to hold on to our negative emotions. However, be careful not to turn your anger into violence! We need to release a bit of resentment in small doses, and that's how swearing helps us 😉 ! Damn, it feels good!

The editor’s opinion: Everything that can't be said, can be printed

As you can see, swearing is good for your health! As long as you don't offend or hurt anyone in the process. So if it makes you feel good, let go and don't forget that everything we don't say is printed in us, so we might as well verbalize... And if you have trouble expressing yourself, if you take a lot on yourself, even if it means that all this eats away at you from the inside, don't hesitate to contact a therapist in order to discuss it and put in place new habits that will allow you to blossom.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... It's here and now!

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