What Do All Happy People Have In Common? - A Plan B!

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To find happiness, everyone seems to have their own recipe. For some it’s sport, for others it’s therapy. But happy people seem to all have something in common. Clearly, the universal recipe for happiness does exist. To be happy, we should imagine the future through the lens of our failures. This speaks to me, but it seems contradictory. And yet, the recipe for happiness is just one letter: The B in plan B promises you more optimism and fulfillment.

What Do All Happy People Have In Common? - A Plan B!

A plan B for happiness

Life promises us perpetual change and many more or less difficult lessons that we must integrate and above all accept. If, like most people, I tend to fear and dread failures, the technique that happy people have in common is not to use and abuse personal development techniques, but to imagine their own failures, to anticipate them even, and from there, they imagine what they could do in that situation. It’s simple, everything that makes us happy – enthusiasm, optimism, fulfillment and prosperity – is based on how we perceive our negative experiences.

🧠 The fallback solution, plan B, that’s the key to happiness! What original solution have I planned to get out of this tough situation? It’s certainly a pessimistic view, which doesn’t seem very instinctive in our quest for happiness, and is almost contradictory to positive thinking, but it allows us to remain confident in the future.

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How to prepare your plan B?

So, in action, how do you find happiness by anticipating failure? The whole point of the plan B method is to give yourself the chance to bounce back, so that you don’t get stuck in a situation that doesn’t suit you or that makes you unhappy.

Having a plan B

Be careful: having a plan B doesn’t stop you from persevering and moving forward towards your plans and your dreams.

Plan B should not be an escape, but another path, “just in case”. To take the path to your life goals, there are bound to be preferred routes, but some will necessarily involve setbacks, delays or pauses. The success of this recipe for happiness lies in thinking of an alternative, a solution, a different path so as not to get stuck on one route. Thinking of a plan B in advance avoids having to think hastily, and therefore badly, or hoping for a change that will never come on its own.

By taking stock of your goals, your motivations and your dreams, the benefits of plan B will become clear to you: living in the present and reducing the impact of failure in our lives in order to bounce back to happiness better.

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Editor’s note – Stop taking yourself so seriously

Failure is scary because it’s often thought of as the source of all our ills. In this sense, success seems to be the only possible path, even if it means putting your health at risk! Someone once asked, “What’s the point of taking life seriously because whatever happens, we won’t come out of it alive?” And it’s true, that’s what happiness is all about: leaving yourself alone from time to time, letting go as often as possible and stopping seeing failure so negatively, so that you can always get up again with a smile.
Failure isn’t an end in itself, it doesn’t have to affect you, get help to regain your self-confidence.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!

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