If You Want To Become Optimistic, Say These 7 Things

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We say a person is optimistic when they look on the bright side of life and have confidence in the future. Being more positive and having a brighter outlook are all things we want, right? Yet, some of us never seem to be able to see the glass half full… It’s true that being upbeat means feeling better on a daily basis, being more relaxed and in a better mood. So, what if the solution to becoming more positive lay in the way we communicate. Here are the things you need to start saying to yourself in order to adopt that inspiring state of mind.

If You Want To Become Optimistic, Say These 7 Things
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Change your way of speaking to be more optimistic - Here are things you should start saying

1. "Next time"

I was waiting for the elevator yesterday and as it was coming; someone went in front of me to take it. I was shocked and simply said “hey!”, but it didn’t change anything. I waited for the next one, yelling at myself. If only I’d found something to say. Even if it was just: “I was there before you.” or “I was waiting.” It's time to put an end to this! To look on the bright side of life, you have to stop playing it over in your mind with “if only”, but rather say “next time”. By doing this, we give ourselves another chance!

2. "I want"

My mom is not a very discreet person, but she always told me never to say “I want” because it’s not very proper to impose your wishes in a more or less forceful tone. I therefore spent much of my life saying, “I would like very much like this.”, “I would very much like that.” The upshot being I was very often disappointed. With optimism, you don’t do half measures, “you want” something, that’s all! In order to believe in your own success and get want you wish, the conditional is not appropriate.

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3. "It’s challenging"

Stress is crippling, and the simple fact of saying you are stressed increases your apprehension and anxiety even more. So, don’t describe a situation as stressful anymore, but opt instead for excitement or stimulation. If you say you are stimulated instead of stressed, you will feel the effects. When faced with something difficult that you feel incapable of doing well, you will be full of motivation, asking yourself how to succeed rather than just trying.

4. "I'm learning"

Nelson Mandela said, “I never lose. Either I win or I learn.” I don’t think there is any greater proof of optimism. When we want to be positive and look on the bright side of life, we have to stop speaking about mistakes and failures. It’s more about trying, chances and lessons learned. We no longer make mistakes; we learn before giving ourselves another chance.

5. "It’s all good"

Oh, the famous, it’s not bad! When I hear myself saying it, I almost feel like biting my tongue. There’s nothing more half-hearted and discouraging than an “it’s not bad”, especially if nothing is added. Encouragement is a great motivator, as much as for you as for others. Replace “it’s not bad” with “it’s good” and everything immediately takes a different turn. You want to go even further to do even better.

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6. "I have a plan B"

It’s what happy people have in common, always having a back-up plan, and it’s undeniably what will help you to have confidence in the future. If plan A fails, you don’t get disappointed, full of frustration and deception. No, on the contrary, you put plan B into action and off you go again.

How can I be more positive? - 3 Tips

The way we deal with life's ups and downs has a huge impact on our physical and mental well-being. So being optimistic doesn't mean running away from reality, but rather seeing things from a different perspective. Clearly, we all go through complicated times, but by changing your perception of things, you can more easily maintain positive emotions and feel happier. So, how do you stay optimistic in difficult times? In this article, I'll share with you 3 unstoppable tips.

1) Stop watching the news to stay optimistic in tough times

The news is there to get our attention and to get ratings. It's all about the negative. Frankly, turn off your television and avoid watching the news. I'm not telling you not to keep up with what's going on in the world, but there's no point in staying cooped up with the news all day.

2) Take care of yourself to be more positive

You probably have passions in your life, right? If not, you need to explore more. That's how you can find what you like. After all, you may love to paint, but you don't know it. In short, take some time for yourself by doing things you enjoy or by pampering yourself (a good massage, for example). You may be very busy with your work, and your family life, but sometimes it is also important to treat yourself and think about yourself.

3) Meditate daily to reduce stress and be more optimistic

More and more of us are meditating on a daily basis. If you don't, it might be time to start. It can bring you many benefits. You will be able to reduce your stress, chase away your negative emotions and thus, feel more serene, and more positive.

Editor’s note – Optimism isn’t naivety

Optimism often gets bad press. It’s considered as naivety, a lack of intelligence and levelheadedness. But optimism isn’t a denial of reality, it’s more of a way of perceiving reality. There’s nothing stopping you from reconciling intelligence, critical thinking and optimism. Quite the opposite!

Teaching your brain to see things more positively is also a path to more self-confidence and therefore more success and less self-disparaging. It’s difficult to stay optimistic in a context such as the one we’re living through at the moment, but becoming positive also helps us to move forward and not give in to the static and disabling despair.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!

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