Change your way of speaking to be more optimistic - Here are things you should start saying
1. "Next time"
I was waiting for the elevator yesterday and as it was coming; someone went in front of me to take it. I was shocked and simply said âhey!â, but it didnât change anything. I waited for the next one yelling at myself. If only Iâd found something to say. Even if it was just: âI was there before you.â or âI was waiting.â It's time to put an end to this! To look on the bright side of life, you have to stop playing it over in your mind with âif onlyâ, but rather say ânext timeâ. By doing this, we give ourselves another chance!
2. "I want"
My mom is not a very discreet person but she always told me never to say âI wantâ because itâs not very proper to impose your wishes in a more or less forceful tone. I therefore spent much of my life saying âI would like very much like this.â, âI would very much like that.â The upshot being I was very often disappointed. With optimism, you donât do half measures, âyou wantâ something, thatâs all! In order to believe in your own success and get want you wish, the conditional is not appropriate.
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3. "Itâs challenging"
Stress is crippling and the simple fact of saying you are stressed increases your apprehension and anxiety even more. So, donât describe a situation as stressful any more, but opt instead for excitement or stimulation. If you say you are stimulated instead of stressed, you will feel the effects. When faced with something difficult that you feel incapable of doing well, you will be full of motivation, asking yourself how to succeed rather than just trying.
4. "I'm learning"
Nelson Mandela said, âI never lose. Either I win or I learn.â I donât think there is any greater proof of optimism. When we want to be positive and look on the bright side of life, we have to stop speaking about mistakes and failures. Itâs more about trying, chances and lessons learnt. We no longer make mistakes; we learn before giving ourselves another chance.
5. "Itâs good"
Oh, the famous itâs not bad! When I hear myself saying it, I almost feel like biting my tongue. Thereâs nothing more half-hearted and discouraging than an âitâs not badâ, especially if nothing is added. Encouragement is a great motivator, as much as for you as for others. Replace âitâs not badâ with âitâs goodâ and everything immediately takes a different turn. You want to go even further to do even better.
6. "I have a plan B"
Itâs what happy people have in common, always having a back-up plan and itâs undeniably what will help you to have confidence in the future. If plan A fails, you donât get disappointed, full of frustration and deception. No, on the contrary, you put plan B into action and off you go again.
Editorâs note â Optimism isnât naivetyOptimism often gets bad press. Itâs considered as naivety, a lack of intelligence and clear-headedness. But optimism isnât a denial of reality, itâs more of a way of perceiving reality. Thereâs nothing stopping you from reconciling intelligence, critical thinking and optimism. Quite the opposite! Teaching your brain to see things more positively is also a path to more self-confidence and therefore more success and less self-disparaging. Itâs difficult to stay optimistic in a context such as the one weâre living through at the moment but becoming positive also helps us to move forward and not give in to the static and disabling despair. |
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