Here Are 8 Things I Don't Care About, And Neither Should You

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I often laze about instead of putting on my sneakers to go running. Other people might think my favorite group is uncool, but I know all their albums off by heart. So what? There’s no better way to be happy than to let go of the pressure and detach yourself from the gaze of others to be yourself. In any case, I feel much better since I stopped attaching importance to all that. In order for us to all let go together, I will reveal to you 8 things I don’t care about, and it feels good!

Here Are 8 Things I Don't Care About, And Neither Should You
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I don’t have children yet, but when I do, we’ll have an ‘I don’t care’ attitude in our family. I will teach them not to care about anything that prevents them from being happy. We all have a limited amount of energy, so you’ll agree that devoting ourselves to things that really matter is the best thing we can do. And we don’t care about the rest!

8 Things that I've decided to stop worrying about

I've never felt freer and at this moment in time.

1. Other people's opinions? I don’t give a damn, I’m living my life.

Whatever I say or do, there will always be someone to criticize or judge me. So, as not to waste my time and energy trying to control everything, I’m myself. When it’s not society formatting us, it’s our loved ones criticizing our choices… And when are we supposed to live, then?

As a teenager, the slightest hair out of place drove me crazy, terrified by the thought of becoming the laughingstock of the school. Now, I do my shopping with no make-up on, in my tracksuit, and EVERYTHING IS FINE.

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2. I'm far from perfect, but why would I care?

I will never achieve it for the simple reason that I’m neither a robot, nor an Instagram photo. Feeling blue? Feeling down? These reactions are part of real life. Nobody is on top form 24/7, both mentally and physically, as my cute little round belly will confirm.

3. The “right” thing to do? Think about myself.

Wanting to satisfy your friends, suit your colleagues, help your family… I’d like to know how the person who does everything manage to do so without getting tired! Learning to say no avoids any emotional overload. I’ve stopped trying to keep both parties sweet because I don’t see an umpire’s hat on my head. I just see myself with my values, my desire to remain integral and my priorities.

4. The past? I leave it in the past.

Mine or that of my nearest and dearest. The first maintains hatred and resentment, and the second fosters jealousy because there’s a 99.99 % chance that my boyfriend wasn’t a virgin when we met. By replaying these bad memories, I miss the present and above all, I don’t move forward. Not a great result.

5. I’m different, but that's a good thing!

A friend has just posted her sport session on social media. And I’m here with my tub of ice cream and my romance novel. Who cares! I’ve stopped comparing myself and feeling guilty because I’m free to be me. If that bothers other people, tough. By being comfortable with myself, I attract others with my true personality. In other words, I create sincere and solid bonds without tiring myself out acting.

“Not caring doesn’t mean being indifferent. It means we’re comfortable with the idea of being different,” said Mark Manson.

6. Failure? I see it as a lesson.

In life, not only is failure inevitable, but it’s above all indispensable, it’s what makes us grow. If I don’t learn how to fail, I will fail to learn. Since I understood that, I can swallow it much better.

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7. Accidents? They happen to the best of us.

I know what it’s like to have my day ruined. How many times have I arrived to work annoyed (and late) because of a nasty toothpaste stain on my nice blouse? After thinking about it, I realized that my reaction was just as stupid as the reasons for getting annoyed. Now, I put it into perspective.

8. Whose fault is it? Do we really need to know?

“You started it!”

Unless we’re still stuck at nursery, this kind of sentence should never come out of our mouths again. It’s the soul of a child we should keep, not the mentality. Now that I’m a thoughtful adult, I don’t wear myself out trying to find out who was right and who was wrong. Finding solutions to problems takes less energy than identifying the culprit, and it’s more productive.

Editor’s note: Why don’t you give it a bit of a rest?

Life is complicated enough without adding stress with things that aren’t worth it, even if it’s always easier said than done. Nor is it necessary to achieve exploits or achieve the ultimate life goal to be happy, so let’s give it a rest. However, keep in mind that:

  • Not caring doesn’t mean being indifferent, it’s rather the art of learning to be comfortable with what makes us different and asserting ourselves as we are.
  • When we decide not to care about something, we have to give importance to something more important — take the time to identify what’s important for you and what’s not.

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