Decreased libido: a common fatality
A drop in libido is present in both sexes, and itās completely normal to go through phases during which we feel less up for it. Troubles, stress, contraception, illness, routine, etc. The reasons for a drop in libido are as numerous as they are varied. Whether this lack of desire comes from a mental block in the relationship or a personal problem, the best way to overcome it is to seek solutions together. And if you need it, call upon a sexologist or choose coupleās therapy.
How do I raise the temperature?
For both men and women, desire is something that fluctuates and, like 56% of women, Iām not always satisfied in my sex life. After so many years together, I donāt feel as desired as I did in the great days at the beginning of our relationship. No matter how it happened, the result is that I doubt myself, I donāt really like my body anymore, and Iām afraid thereās something wrong with my relationship. In short, no longer feeling desired causes quite a lot of problems, so itās time to turn up the heat and hereās how:
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1. I communicate
This is the beginning, the basics. You can walk around naked in the living room, but if your partner isnāt aware of the problem, he wonāt understand. So start by saying what you feelšØļø. Bad communication is often the cause of sexual disagreement. So call a meeting and start by explaining the situation clearly and calmly. Who knows where this meeting will lead? ā¦
2. I adopt the guideline: āknow yourselfā
Solo enjoyment promotes enjoyment for two. To feel desires, you first have to desire yourself and regain confidence in yourself and your body. The best way to do this is through masturbation š¤!
3. I become sensual
Sensuality exists to arouse desire and bring pleasure. As its name indicates, sensuality is linked to the senses, so itās a body language that aims to create an erotic climate, so quite clearly, to raise the temperature. How do you do it? Well, that depends on each one of us.
š A person might like having their lip bitten, having their hair played with, having their lower back touched, being massaged, etc. Sensuality is above all a matter of touching, but the thing that works every time is smell. Smell is the sense most closely linked to your memory. Choosing the right perfume should therefore help to increase the desire.
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4. I make hints
š„ Sometimes all it takes is a simple look or a simple phrase to set the other person on fire. When youāre in a relationship, sexual hints donāt have to be discreet⦠especially if thereās no one around. Go to sleep naked and mention to your partner something like: āIām not tired, and I donāt think youāre going to sleep just yet either.ā Or something a little less implied: āmy body and I are waiting just for you.ā Itās up to you to find the right balance that fits your relationship.
5. I take matters into my own hands
Habits and laziness are desireās worst enemies. Yes, I know you, I know that itās sometimes so much easier to go for the TV show in pajamas version rather than the candles and lovemaking version. If you donāt feel desired anymore, perhaps try to take matters into your own hands. Be firm, categorical, and forward: āhoney, put down your book, your joystick, your dumbbell, your dessert fork, the baby (delete as appropriate), take off your clothes, and Iāll get on top of you.ā In fact, to bring back desire, sometimes you need to take matters into your own hands⦠literally š!
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Editorās note: Donāt let the situation get out of handIf you no longer feel desired, if youāve lost confidence in yourself and your relationship, and if these tips havenāt been enough to reawaken your libido, itās time to act. Donāt let yourself get bogged down in the situation, make an appointment with a psychologist or a sexologist to take stock of your situation and find solutions. š¤ Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Letās do it here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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