I've Lost My Sex Drive And Want To Reboost My Libido!

Last updated by Katie M.

Fatigue, stress, and the hustle and bustle of everyday life are all factors that can negatively impact your libido. Are you currently going through a sex drought and feel like it’s causing issues in your relationship? If you want to rediscover the burning sensation of hot passion, you're in the right place. While all couples may experience a decrease in sexual desire, it is important to be 100% present in the relationship so that your bedroom activities remain a priority for you both. Do you want to rekindle desire in your couple? Discover our 10 tips to get your libido back!

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Are you in the situation where you no longer want to make love, or no longer feel attracted to your partner? Yet, despite it being out of your control, you constantly feel guilty? Relationships go through a variety of ups and downs and at times, these seem to coincide with our desire towards our partner. Sex is undeniably one of the most important parts of a relationship and helps us to express our love for each other, which is why it's important to act fast when our libidos drop off the scale.

10 Ways to boost your libido

1. Discuss the problem with your partner.

As with any relationship problem, it’s best to start with a discussion that will help identify the problem. If the disorder has a medical origin, the best solution is to consult a doctor.

2. Relax and stop putting too much pressure on yourself.

Sources of stress can have a negative impact on your appetite for love making. Working out to let off steam or even sophrology are good ways to release stress.

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3. Rest up and recover.

Fatigue is one of the most common factors in a low sex drive. When we are tired, sleep is our only goal.

4. Don't force yourself into doing things you don't want to.

You may feel guilty or even panicked that your partner might eventually go elsewhere. This worry may make you do certain things just so you don't disappoint them or lose them. By forcing yourself to please them, you may become more lost and create more discomfort for yourself. So, avoid forcing yourself and learn to say no!

5. Gain self-confidence and learn to like yourself.

If you are not comfortable in your body, or, if you lack self-confidence, it’s difficult to feel sexy. Focusing on your complexes or even suffering from dysmorphia could lead you to think that your partner doesn't want you anymore. Your partner must play a role in reassuring you in order to help you to feel good about yourself!

6. Talk about it around your friends.

Sexuality remains a taboo subject, and the loss of libido even more so! And yet, the best way to solve it is by talking about it and listening to the advice of those who have also experienced it. You'll be surprised how common this issue really is.

7. Spice up your sex life.

Suggest new sexual experiences to your significant other and share your ideas! Desire is also in the atmosphere, so, learn how to kiss in different ways, dare to try new ways to make the passion rise!

8. Create a craving.

It's important to keep a certain distance to better regain the desire to be with the other person. It's well known that desire increases with distance. 

9. Break the boring routine.

After months or even years with your partner, a certain routine will have certainly set in. Don't hesitate to surprise your partner by changing up your look, for example, or by taking time together away from work and daily life. Dare to take your partner to new places, or even treat yourself to a candlelit meal… Finding time for each other is a secret for lasting relationships.

10. Don't hesitate to consult a sex therapist.

If the lack of sex is putting a strain on your relationship, don't hesitate to call a sex therapist. This is a moment that offers a break and allows you to ask yourself the real questions to free yourself from your emotions.

>>> If the issues evoked ring true for you, discover whether or not you are going through a love burnout and read up on our top tips for a great sex life.

Editor's opinion: Don't blame yourself

Our libidos are based on highs and lows that sometimes can't be explained. If you have recently been going through a dry patch when it comes to sex, don't beat yourself up about it. Every couple goes through these difficulties, but that doesn't mean the spark has been lost forever. Rather than worrying about your sexual performance, why not prioritize skin contact with lots of sensual cuddles? Who knows, one thing may even lead to another…

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