Sexual Abstinence In A Relationship: Tested And Approved?
What do we label two people in a relationship who no longer have sex? Roommates? Platonic lovers? For me, sex is the foundation of any relationship, so finding an answer to this question seemed like a challenge. Back in the day going 3 days with no action between the sheets was virtually impossible but reading more about sexual abstinence in a relationship got me thinking about the benefits.It’s with a heavy heart and the libido off the charts that I’m writing this. I’m not counting or anything (that’s a lie) but let’s just say it’s been a month since I’ve seen any action with my partner. All physical contact is off limits and it’s definitely an experience. It’s not that we’re no longer attracted to each other, on the contrary, we just wanted to give sexual abstinence a shot and discover the benefits.
Focus on other activities rather than sex
Can a relationship survive without sex? That’s the question! As someone that has given sexual abstinence in a relationship a try, I can definitely say they the benefits are plentiful. Although the first few days of celibacy are tough, things get easier as time progresses. Many couples have given the challenge a go and most are completely satisfied with the results.
No offence guys but when it comes to sexual performance, things definitely aren’t up to par...
Did you know?
The average sexual encounter lasts on average 5 minutes and 40 seconds without foreplay… Although 5 minutes and 40 seconds doesn’t seem a lot, when you do the math and add all those 5:40 together, they certainly adds up!
If you take sex out of the equation, you’ll definitely find you have way more time on your hands to do as you please. Taking a break for my usual sex life taught me a lot more about my partner and showed me how talented he actually was in other domains far away from the bedroom.
The best is yet to come
We all know that routine only ever has a negative impact on our sex drives, especially if we are in a long-term relationship. When it comes to sex, the optimists of the world advise keeping things fairly regular and even go as far as suggesting you turn down certain propositions with tact to get the desire running high.
Refusing to give in to your body’s urges only means your enjoyment will be intensified the next time round. Building desire and sexual tension is guaranteed to help you relight the fire in your relationship.
Trust me, if you follow this advice, you won’t be able to keep your hands off each other for too long!
At the beginning of the article, you can probably see that I was fully embracing my new sexual abstinence life choice, however as time went on, I started missing sex! These insights have led me to my final conclusion.
Wearing on my patience...
Although the celibacy experience taught me a lot about myself and my sexual desires, I can safely say that abstinence definitely makes life less exciting. My moods are often closely related to how sexually satisfied I am. Regular sexual activity is said to improve sleep quality too because it helps us relax and zone out. Plus, it’s way more interesting than doing the dishes.
I almost forgot to mention hugs! Whether brief or drawn out, hugs are the secret to releasing a multitude of endorphins and make us feel so much better. Science never gets it wrong!
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