Micro-Cheating, What Is It? What Does It Reflect?

What’s the definition of micro-cheating?

Micro-cheating is behavior that may be perceived as a betrayal in a relationship, but which isn’t as explicit or serious as sleeping with or loving someone else.

In fact, we don’t necessarily perceive micro-cheating as cheating, but our partner may consider it as such. For example, it could be being very close to a colleague, talking to them all the time and even thinking about them often. 💬 For me, I’d noticed that he was close to another woman. I believe in male-female friendships, it’s important to deconstruct yourself, nevertheless there was clearly more between them there as he committed micro-cheating, until he acted on it 😅.

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Is micro-cheating cheating?

The tricky question is because when micro-cheating happens, you don’t actually act on it, but your partner may still suffer. In fact, it all depends on your respective perceptions and the boundaries you’ve defined as a couple 🤔. Indeed, if you have an open relationship or are in a polyamorous framework, you’ll probably consider that micro-cheating doesn’t even exist. However, for most people, the vision of the couple remains very classic.

👉 So you have to ask yourself: is this something I’d be ashamed to say or something I’d rather hide from my partner?

If you often talk to someone of the opposite sex and have no problem telling your partner, that’s not micro-cheating! On the other hand, if it’s something that implies that you’re behaving as if you were single, then it could indeed be cheating. You need to be able to ask yourself whether the other person’s trust has been violated before you can say whether you’ve cheated!

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What impacts does micro-cheating have on a relationship?

Even if a bit of flirting with a waiter may seem insignificant at the time and even boost our ego, if our partner finds out, infidelity has major consequences for a couple 💔. Indeed, a partner who witnesses this will have his trust eroded. He will wonder about our commitment to the relationship and whether he’s still loved. Worse still than the doubt, he’ll have a cocktail of negative emotions: feelings of betrayal, insecurity, and jealousy. All this is bound to lead to tensions and even arguments, which will ultimately damage the relationship.

👉 It’s normal for the other person to feel betrayed, we can’t question our partner’s emotions 🚫. However, we can ask ourselves questions about our behavior and understand what’s behind it.

Is micro-cheating a reflection of suffering in a relationship?

Indeed, if we commit micro-cheating, it may be a reflection of suffering in the relationship. If our partner neglects us too much, it’s a way of making ourselves feel valued, flattering our ego, and seeking attention or affection elsewhere... Sometimes, it can also be a sign of dissatisfaction with the monogamous model of the relationship. As I said, if the classic vision of the couple doesn’t suit you, you can redefine it, as long as your partner agrees. You also need to accept that your partner has the same rights as you do, and that they may have other life stories too ⚖️.

The solution to micro-cheating

Whatever the case, the best way to avoid micro-cheating is to practice positive, transparent communication as a couple. You need to share your vision of the relationship and make sure that you both have the same definition of the limits that shouldn’t be crossed. The therapist also recommends that you express your needs and emotions clearly so that you don’t become trapped in the suffering. Furthermore, communication helps to strengthen the relationship. Partners who are united, strong, and healthy for each other are less likely to face micro-cheating 🤗.

Nevertheless, if micro-cheating persists despite everything, and you have doubts about your partner, we can only recommend that you consult a psychologist to understand the issues behind this behavior and find a way out.

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