I’m Scared I’ll Lose My Friends After Having A Baby

Last updated by Katie M.

When you’re the first in a group of friends to have a child, you may find that they don’t understand or are just unaware of your new situation. Fewer phone calls, no more invites, no news for days, the list goes on and on. Our priorities have changed, and the person our friends knew before isn’t quite the same person today. The fear of losing your friends after having a child isn’t unfounded.

I’m Scared I’ll Lose My Friends After Having A Baby

The solitude of parenthood

Even though I was quite an indoorsy person, before I had a child, I spent a lot of time drinking, chatting, and dancing with my friends. After my son was born, everything changed 👶. I no longer went out after 9pm, just so I could take care of things during the night. I didn’t want to bore them with my baby’s achievements and pictures, but as he was a big part of my life, I didn’t say much anymore. When they suggested we go away for 4 days together, I flat out refused: I find it hard to leave my baby 😨... It didn’t go down well.

I won’t lie, the leap into parenthood can come with a deep sense of lonelinessThose who aren’t parents don’t know. They don’t know this new life. They’re far from it and if they’re not simply annoyed, they’re sometimes just afraid to bother you and impose. There shouldn’t be any fears, and even fewer regrets. The problem isn’t them, it’s me.

>>> Find out how we can reduce stress in children

Losing or sorting

I’ve never believed in eternal friendships that last a lifetime, so losing a few friends in exchange for my amazing baby, well you talk as if it bothers me! But at the end of the day, I haven’t really lost friends. After my baby was born, I changed and the nature of my friendships therefore changed too. I have friends who are very happy or loyal enough to come and have a glass of wine with me on my sofa, without turning the music up too loud. There are even others who come with me to the park or the petting zoo, even on a Sunday morning. Some ask me well in advance to book a restaurant so that I have the time to find a babysitter for my son, or even suggest lunches.

👉 In short, those who want to see us will always make an effort to see us!

You don’t necessarily lose friends when you become parents, you really sort through them to find the balance that fits your new life 😉. And if it’s not a child that disrupts friendships, it’s sometimes life, age, events that separate us, that make us lose each other, because nothing ever stays the same.

>>> Discover why we need to stop comparing our kids

The power of communication strikes again

The only piece of advice that I’d give that is true for all types of relationships is to communicate: open up your heart, say what you feel and talk about your fears. Friends sometimes don’t know where they fit into your new life as parents and if they don’t have children, they can’t guess. Even when they have children, every experience is different and nobody can read minds, so make an effort to talk to each other to understand, rather than blaming each other.

⚖️ The balance between your friends from before and the baby now comes about gradually, but friendship needs to be maintained, so keep sending a little message from time to time and answer calls.

Editor’s note: natural selection...

Losing some friends along the way can hurt because you expect to go through the big stages of life together like in the movies. It’s not always the case, but rest assured, you’ll also make new friends with whom you’ll feel more in tune. Motherhood is already one hell of an experience in itself that turns a lot of things upside down, maybe it’s not worth getting upset with people who don’t want to listen? 👉 And if the loss of certain friendships or at least the fact that you see each other less hurts you or makes you feel bad, don’t hesitate to talk to a psychologist about it.

🤗 Understanding yourself, accepting yourself, being happy... It’s here and now!

Be sure to check out the following articles too;

Article presented by Katie M.

Discover the world through my eyes.

Read our latest articles here:

Why Do We Feel Better In The Evening When We Have Depression?

If there’s one symptom that can be observed in any type of depression, it’s fatigue. Intense fatigue that sticks to the skin and holds us back like a ball and chain. The problem with this fatigue is that it occurs mainly in the morning, which is one of the reasons why, in the case of depression, we feel better in the evening than in the morning.

Pay Transparency: Why Is Talking About Your Salary So Taboo?

If there’s a world where taboos abound, it’s the world of work. Avoiding opening up, avoiding emotions, avoiding closeness, avoiding anything personal, but above all, the opaque mystery of salaries! The ban is there, never stated, never established, but its scent floats around the subject of salaries. But why is talking about your salary so taboo?

What Job Can Reconcile Your Professional And Home Life?

As the saying goes, ‘we can’t have it all’, but is that really true? Establishing balance in your life is never exactly an easy challenge, but it is the secret to creating happiness is finding the sacred line between your job and your family. That’s right, it's essential to ask yourself how you organize your life, so you can make the most of every moment. So, what job will allow you to reconcile both aspects of your life?

What Does A Narcissist Hate?

Narcissists are experts in the field of duping and manipulating their victims, yes, that’s right they are true chameleons, which explains why many of them often go undetected. Their behavior is definitely dangerous and means we definitely need to figure out what makes them tick and, in this particular case, what they hate. Understanding what these entitled personalities dislike is one of the keys to best exposing them and freeing their victims from their grip. Now, we all get angry for one reason or another, but people with this personality disorder have different triggers related to the things they despise.

10 Reasons Why Your Ex Slept With Someone Else After Your Breakup

We are all unique individuals, and we, therefore, go about handling breakups and the other obstacles life throws our way, differently. Now, when it comes to breakups, there are those of us that almost become celibate and decide that they can't stand the idea of getting to know anyone ever again. Then, on the other hand, there are those that fill their phones with dating apps and jump from one one-night stand to the next. This second scenario may seem harmless, but once we dig a little deeper into the repercussions of it, we soon realize that sleeping with other people so freshly out of a relationship masks troubling sentiments of unhappiness and uneasiness.

What Is Gaslighting And Why Is It So Dangerous?

Gaslighting is one of the most destabilizing and covert forms of manipulation out there, and often makes victims feel completely lost and broken. This scary scenario essentially involves brainwashing via deception and is frequently characterized by blatant denial and emotional blackmail. ‘No, darling, I would never lie to you. I love you too much for that. Remember, it was you who stained my collar with lipstick... you forget everything.’ This is a classic example of this type of abuse, and trust me, I should know because I’ve been through it...

Can A Narcissist Be Faithful?

Narcissists often get bad press, and although many of us try to see the best in most people, in their case, it can be extremely difficult to find. The truth is, folks with this personality disorder don’t exactly have many redeeming qualities that could potentially help to excuse and explain their borderline evil behavior. Plus, when it comes to love, their lack of empathy means they have next to no loyalty, which means many of them often end up cheating on their partners. Ladies, if you are in a relationship with a narcissist, the alarm bells ought to be truly deafening.

Help, Why Do I Attract Narcissists?

After a succession of dating disasters, I decided that it was time I took a step back to analyze the root of my consistent heartbreak. Being on the dating scene is tough, and meeting new people just isn’t as easy as they make it out to be. Although, that being said, meeting toxic monsters seems to be a lot less complicated, well at least for me, it seems that way, that’s right, I have a real talent for it. So, after deleting all of my apps and going on a dating hiatus for several months, I finally understand why I attract people with narcissistic personality disorders, who do nothing but break me down and subject me to narcissistic abuse.

Can You Have A Healthy Relationship With A Narcissist?

I’ve always been very open with my dating history, so if you’ve read some of my other articles, you’ll probably already know that, none of my relationships have ever fulfilled me, or even made me feel good about myself. In fact, since dating my most recent partner, who was by the way a raging narcissist, I’ve decided that I need to take a break from love, and instead, spend more time on finding myself. How did I get to this point? Well, when I was with my ex, no matter how hard I tried, our love disintegrated, well at least for me, it did. I can now firmly say that all the tears, arguments, and pain have taught me that loving someone with narcissistic tendencies will only ever end in disaster, and I’m about to share why.

Is My Coworker A Narcissist?

Now, I don’t want to make you paranoid, but the truth is that narcissists are everywhere, and that’s why it’s so important to be able to spot them and their devious ways. So, with that in mind, why wouldn't there be a narcissist lurking in the office? Has that given you food for thought, and suddenly got your mind racing? Who is your number one suspect? Is it Jon; the guy who constantly hogs the photocopier, or perhaps even Emma; the backstabbing human resources manager? In any case, knowing how to identify these personalities is essential, so discover the 10 deplorable behavioral signs you need to look out for. You’ll never look at your coworkers in the same way again!

Wengood's favorite tunes 🎵

Wengood's playlist


  1. Only LoveBen Howard
  2. Let It BE - Beatles Awaken2Now (See Thru Oppositional 2’s)
  3. Fix YouColdplay
  4. Beautiful DayU2
  5. Thinking out LoudEd Sheeran
  6. White FlagDido
  7. Lay Me DownSam Smith
  8. Nine Million BicyclesKatie Melua
  9. Put Your Records OnCorinne Bailey Rae
  10. Summertime SadnessLana Del Rey
  11. Imagine - Remastered 2010John Lennon
  12. Shake It OutFlorence + The Machine
  13. Space Oddity - Love You Til Tuesday versionDavid Bowie
  14. What A Wonderful WorldLouis Armstrong
  15. With Or Without YouU2
  16. HelloAdele
  17. Don't Stop Me NowQueen
  18. Skinny LoveBirdy
  19. WingsBirdy
  20. Californian SoilLondon Grammar

"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." 

- Oscar Wilde

How to detect a narcissist

How to detect a narcissist

How to soothe an anxiety attack

How to soothe an anxiety attack