How cute is this little dog / this little cat… Certainly in pictures, but much less so on my lap! I try to get away from animals more than I love them. Those who judge me to be cruel don’t think about the inconvenience of having an animal at home or the fear I might feel. I really don’t like animals, I’m even afraid of them, but where does this phobia come from? Let’s take a look.
Zoophobia is a general phobia, a fear of animals, even perfectly harmless ones. This pathological fear is experienced by humans in front of all (or only some) animals. There are many sub-phobias, which are specific to different animals, but when we talk about zoophobia in general, it can refer to the fear of any animal species. General (or total) zoophobia usually defines the fear of almost any animal species. It is rare, but it still affects different people. General zoophobia and its specific sub-phobias are almost always acquired in childhood. They are common, but usually affect more women than men. It is usually acquired because of bad experiences with animals or because of fear acquired by watching different movies, TV series, and documentaries.
Granted, they’re cute in photos, but I have no trouble resisting their little faces. In reality, their presence disturbs me, their smell is unbearable, and I wonder about their usefulness in a house. In their natural habitat, in a field or in the middle of the jungle, they’re very beautiful, but at home it’s a different story. I understand that some people (½ of American people to be exact) adopt a pet out of habit or to fill the void of a certain solitude.
Having not grown up with animals, I can’t feel the lack of something I never had. What’s more, they don’t arouse any interest in me and make me want to run away. It’s understandable for people not to like spiders or even snakes (which are officially recognized as repulsive beings), but if I can’t stand having a dog’s nose on my lap, then I have a heart of stone… What if you tried to understand my reasons instead of labelling me as such?
Tolerance should go both ways. I’m not stopping anyone from loving, cherishing and living with the balls of fur and feathers, so I should be granted the right to get away from them. The dislike of these beings can range from a refusal to clutter your home with them to a real phobia. Perhaps as an avid traveler or a woman devoted to my career, I don’t want someone waiting for me at home. Where others see a living being to be cuddled, I just see a long list of downsides. I’m allowed to not want to spend my money on vet bills or animal food. I’m allowed to want to spend my nights without the sounds of meowing, and I prefer my sofa not covered in fur.
➡ As for other people’s pets, who knows? Maybe I had a bad experience with a dog with big teeth when I was young… Some reactions are the result of my survival instinct. I don’t stay away from animals for fun, but to protect myself, or because for some obscure reason, Felix disgusts me.
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Especially with my loved ones that I know and have tamed over time. I know for a fact that they’re not dangerous, and seeing them celebrate me like a rock star moves me a little. They could almost make me feel guilty… if they knew what I was thinking, these animals who are always so happy in my presence. I won’t be taking them on my lap any time soon, but nevertheless, some progress is being made.
And because I love their owners, I guess you could say I appreciate them too. This is proof that a person who doesn’t like animals doesn’t have to stick to their guns forever. In reality, this feeling (or rather this absence) is largely psychological.
When someone doesn't like animals, it can have different meanings and reasons. Here are a few things to consider:
It's important to respect individual preferences and limits when it comes to animals. Not everyone needs to love animals or want to interact with them, as long as this does not lead to acts of animal cruelty. However, if a person has extreme aversion or hostility towards animals to the point of harming them, this could indicate a deeper problem and would require further assessment by a mental health professional.
The editor's opinion – The real problem doesn’t come from themMarjolaine Heymes, a doctor of psychology, explains that “The animal reflects the image we have of ourselves, it’s often the subconscious projection of its owner.” ➡ When someone declares that they hate animals, it may mean they are in conflict, not with the species, but with what it subconsciously represents. Two scenarios are possible: either the individual doesn’t have the temperament they attribute to the cat and secretly envy it (because they would like to be independent or not care about what others think); or they have this character trait and would like to change it (their independence makes them isolated and suffer). 🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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