Stand Up For Yourself At Work, An Attitude That Makes Complete Sense!

Last updated by Katie M.

Daring to say “no” or what I think, asserting myself with others, getting straight to the point… I try to apply these tips in my personal life, but now I want to do the same at work! This way of asserting my thoughts while being flexible about what I say can only be beneficial. Let’s develop our assertiveness at work together to express our emotions with an attitude that makes complete sense! 💪

Stand Up For Yourself At Work, An Attitude That Makes Complete Sense!
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What does being assertive at work involve?

It was Andrew Salter, an American psychologist, who conceptualized assertiveness at work during the first half of the 20th century. It refers to the ability to “express yourself by defending your rights, but without infringing on the rights of others”. Being assertive at work is about expressing our feelings, including our discomfort. No more keeping quiet if something doesn’t suit us! But beware, it’s not about getting angry or speaking curtly either. You have to be able to express your emotions without getting aggressive.

➡ Let’s imagine that your manager takes credit for all the work. Instead of saying to your colleagues, “he takes credit for all the work, I get so angry because everyone else is always forgotten. It’s all about him!”, it’s much better to express your feelings to the other person directly, whilst remaining respectful: “I would have liked to hear that you found my work important and that I also played my part in the success of this project”.

6 tips to stand up for yourself at work

1. Don’t put yourself down

Believe in yourself! Why should your opinion be less important than someone else’s? A lack of self-confidence is felt at work. Being afraid of others’ judgements and putting yourself down will have a huge impact. Defending your work is essential!

2. Listen

It’s the best way to respond to the situation at hand and not misinterpret a message. Listening to the other person means you respect them. It’s also a way to have a conversation, you can build your argument based on what your colleague or your manager has said.

3. Don't be aggressive

Expressing your point of view doesn’t mean venting your annoyance or your anger! You must start from the assumption that there is a problem with the situation, not the person opposite you. You must not be on the defensive, but should resolve conflicts to move the situation forward.

4. Get straight to the point

When you express a feeling, you shouldn’t beat around the bush. Expressing your thoughts clearly and concisely is the best way to ensure that the message is understood properly. In order to do this, you must define your objective clearly so that you are as concise as possible.

5. Use subjective communication

Using this type of communication allows you to express what you feel and think. Using the pronoun “I” gives you the opportunity to express yourself without blaming, judging, criticizing or placing the responsibility on others.

6. Say no when you want to

If someone tells you no, you will accept that they don’t want the same things as you. So, you can say no too! You’re not saying no to the person, but to the request instead.

>>> Discover our tips on learning to say no and asserting yourself

How to earn the respect of your coworkers without getting fired - 3 Tips

The world of work today is very tough, and gaining the respect of co-workers, bosses, and employees is essential to your well-being at work. Gaining the respect of co-workers, boss and employees is essential to your well-being at work. When you are new to a company, it is important to assert yourself and set boundaries. The art of gaining respect at work starts with self-esteem.

1. Learn to trust yourself

Before you can demand trust from others, you must show that you trust and love yourself. If you show others that you lack confidence in your abilities, it will be very difficult for your colleagues to take you seriously and consider you.

2. Be humble and patient with others

Being confident in your abilities does not mean being arrogant and conceited. If you really want to be respected by everyone, you need to find a middle ground. You don't have to be invincible, because we are human, and we can make mistakes. Start admitting your mistakes and flaws with a lot of humility.

3. Be professional and organized

People respect those who are organized, well-versed in their work, and professional. Look neat, and keep your office clean and tidy, with the materials you need. Remember to be very professional at all times, both on and off the job.

Editor’s note: Practice makes perfect!

Some people are assertive by nature, others aren’t, but the good news is that assertiveness can be learned! Practice every day, and if you didn’t dare say difficult things, write down on paper what you would have liked to say. Say these sentences out loud and keep in mind the initial objective: communicating clearly and asserting your opinion while taking into account the sensitivities of the person opposite you. Go on, practice!

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!

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