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In addition to being extremely painful, a betrayal turns everything in your life upside down and has many consequences. It's difficult to get back on your feet and regain your self-confidence after experiencing this. Yet, life goes on, and we can't really afford to let ourselves get stuck in the past.
In friendship, as in love, there is a sort of moral contract between two people. However, when this contract is shattered and everything comes crashing down. The disillusionment is total, yet we must then mourn the relationship and deal with the consequences. In life, deception is never trivial and often leaves deep scars that can take years to heal.
The steps you need to take to put the hurt behind you
1. Make a phone call to a friend.
A problem shared is a problem halved! Choose an attentive ear that will understand you without judging you. Finding support will be invaluable in helping you move forward and will surely open your eyes. What if your break-up was actually a good thing? Perhaps this has actually rid you of a toxic relationship?
2. Refocus on those who you care about.
Take time to list what you really care about, what makes you feel good, and the moral values that are unique to you. If the person who betrayed you no longer corresponds to these values, then you have been lucky enough to escape from this relationship.
3. Understand the process of moving forward.
The person who betrayed you certainly has their reasons, even if they are not acceptable to you. Hearing them allows you to better manage your disappointment or to grant forgiveness, if you feel able to start afresh.
4. Take time to reflect.
Don't jump to conclusions, especially if the facts have been reported to you by a third party. Ask yourself if you have done something wrong, or if it’s not just a simple misunderstanding? In short, take the time to calm down and analyze the situation before taking action.
5. Look towards the future with positivity.
It's not about replacing the person who abused your trust, but simply about meeting new people so that you can move on more quickly. Happiness is something we learn, and little by little the disappointment and loneliness that invades you will fade away. This will give way to the memory of a probably shaky relationship that ended because that's the way life goes…
The editor's opinion: Heavy consequences…Any act of disloyalty has heavy consequences, it's a real trauma. Especially since this duplicity is often accompanied by a feeling of guilt because we imagine that we are responsible in one way or another. In cases of infidelity, psychologist Dennis Ortman calls it the “post-infidelity stress syndrome”. These symptoms resemble those of post-traumatic stress disorder. If you seek help to regain your balance, you must at all costs prevent this event from leaving a permanent mark on your future relationships. |
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