Are Narcissists Attracted To Each Other? No, They Avoid Each Other!

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Attraction is one of the hardest phenomenons to explain and comprehend. Have you ever found yourself intensely drawn to someone you just met; to the point where you instantly wanted to rip their clothes off, yet that person wasn’t your type? Well, if so, that’s the power and the mystery of chemistry! Now, many of us believe that when it comes to romantic relationships and love, opposites attract, but, what about like-minded personalities? And in this case, narcissists? Do they fall for each other, or do people with this personality disorder avoid each other like the plague?

Are Narcissists Attracted To Each Other? No, They Avoid Each Other!
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First and foremost, narcissists don’t love in the same way as other people...

This is something that needs to be cleared up before we get down to the nitty-gritty. People with a narcissistic personality disorder don’t look for genuine love and only focus on making themselves feel good. As brutal as it may seem, whenever they are in relationships, they are simply pretending to have feelings for their partners in order to satisfy their controlling and manipulative tendencies. Plus, they will only ever date people who they believe they can use and abuse. In this sense, we’ll never catch them dating someone who is broke, unsuccessful, and basic, no, these folks will only feign interest in people they regard as weak, yet who are fairly established and financially stable. For them, relationships are a means to an end and true feelings don’t exist.

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A narcissist will NEVER date another narcissist

If you have ever had the misfortune of meeting someone with this disorder, you’ll have no doubt picked up on their talent for analyzing people’s personalities. I mean, we’ve got to give them that, they certainly have the knack of figuring out what makes people tick, plus they are great at identifying weaknesses and insecurities, which helps them when it comes to finding the perfect victims. This implies that they are able to identify like-minded folks, who they consider to be equally devious. Indeed, when a narcissistic person meets someone whom they consider to be their match, they’ll run a mile because they won’t be able to instantly acquire the power they so desire. Being faced with someone who is able to see them for who they are as well as someone who is just as demanding is an intimidating prospect for them.

Narcissists have a specific ‘type’

As I briefly explained above, these people are totally different and don’t aspire to the same things as most of us. For them, true love and a natural spark aren’t important, instead, they focus on being in control and digging their claws into their victims, all whilst having their ego caressed. The bottom line is they won’t date just anyone and choose their partners very carefully because they need to ensure that they’ll always be the ones calling the shots.

Who are narcissists attracted to?

The following personality traits are what they look for when they date and envisage a romantic future:

  • People lacking confidence in themselves and their abilities
  • People suffering from past breakups
  • Shy and withdrawn folks
  • People who give compliments out easily
  • Empathetic characters
  • Forgiving folks
  • Those healing from hidden abuse

>>> Find out what a narcissist wants in a relationship

Can narcissists ever truly be happy in love?

To put things completely frankly, the answer is no, they can never be happy in love and don’t make the effort to be. Love is very low down on their list of priorities and places well after preserving their ego and the idea of being admired and looked up to. In a more general sense, people who suffer from this personality disorder struggle to be happy in all walks of life, which goes a way in explaining their despicable behavior. In short, they exteriorize their unhappiness by manipulating and controlling people whom they consider to be less deserving than themselves.

Can two narcissists be in a relationship together?

Two narcissists can’t be in a successful relationship together, simply because they’ll spend their time tearing each other apart. Instead of loving each other, and trying to build a happy future, these two manipulative characters will focus on being in control, and acting like the dominant partner. They won’t bother trying to support each other in their projects, or even attempt to make each other better people. This partner will in fact mark the coming together of two extremely toxic minds, who could potentially be dangerous together. In short, they should avoid each other, especially when it comes to love, because they simply aren’t cut out for loving another in a healthy manner.

How do narcissists react to other narcissists?

When narcissists encounter other narcissists, their reactions can vary depending on the situation and their personality. Some narcissists may see the other narcissist as a potential threat to their own sense of superiority and may try to undermine or compete with them. Others may admire the other narcissist's traits and attempt to form an alliance or partnership to further their own goals. However, it's important to note that narcissists tend to have difficulty forming genuine connections with others, including other narcissists, due to their self-centered and manipulative nature. Ultimately, interactions between two narcissists may be volatile and unpredictable, as both individuals seek to maintain their own sense of power and control.

Editor’s opinion - We should rejoice that they aren’t attracted to each other

Now that we’ve concluded that narcissists aren’t attracted to people who display similar personality traits to them, we certainly ought to rejoice because two of these characters together would form a force to be reckoned with. They would become a destructive power couple and would make it their goal to tear everything down that lies in their path. Plus, together they’d inspire each other to become even more cruel and malicious, which means we can definitely count our blessings!

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