"Love stories usually end badly." As you know as well as Les Rita Mitsoukos, love isnāt a direct path to eternity. Sometimes it disappears from our hearts, leaving a great emptiness, if not fierce hatred. Thatās when itās time to say goodbye, and a letter can sometimes be the most effective way of saying exactly how you feel and explaining why youāre leaving. Here are 6 examples of farewell letters, to say goodbye, ciao, or bye-bye to a loved one, but also to a friend or, more sadly, to a loved one who has died.
Firstly, I think itās worth pointing out that a farewell letter isnāt an act of breaking up. It can be an introduction to a face-to-face break-up or a concrete conclusion to a break-up. A way of bringing a story to a close. To write a farewell letter, you first need to ask yourself what the purpose of the letter is. Do you want to make your break-up concrete? Say in more detail whatās on your mind? Say a fond farewell to a lost or impossible love? There are many reasons for this, all of which are up to you, but identifying them can help you find the right words.
You should know that these letters can be adapted to suit different situations. You can also write a farewell letter to your family or friends to say goodbye or simply because youāve decided to move away, to a different city or country. I also suggest a farewell letter, useful if you have to deal with the death of a loved one. Writing a farewell letter to someone who has just died is a way of mourning.
"The time has come for me to write these words, which will be my last. In the end, saying goodbye, farewell is always a difficult moment, but itās time for me to move on. You know that I loved you, that our story will forever be a part of my life, and that it made me grow and made me happy, but now I have to turn the page. My feelings are over. No one is totally responsible, no one is totally innocent, thatās just the way life is. Itās just life going by, and Iām going with it. Iām evolving, Iām changing, and believe me when I say Iām sorry I have to do it without you, but thatās the way it is. My love has faded, and now Iām turning a new corner on my own. I know youāll be able to reinvent yourself, too. The happiness you once brought me, youāll be able to take for yourself and offer to others. A new page is opening up before you, too, and I promise you that itāll be as full of beauty as the one thatās closing. I wonāt be here anymore, but our memories will be engraved somewhere, in a place where we can go to pay tribute to our history when the need arises. Farewell."
"I always thought there was nothing stronger than love. Iām afraid I was wrong. Our first kiss not only expressed what our hearts felt, but it also sealed our fate: the injustice of life is stronger than our love, stronger than our fierce desire to be together. Weāre linked, but we cannot unite. I swear Iāve fought, and Iāve suffered too, but now itās time for me to move on. When love becomes a daily battle, itās bound to crumble and then break, and I donāt want to damage the feelings I have for you anymore. Your memory will haunt my thoughts for a long time, the absence of your body will fill many of my nights and who knows, maybe in another life weāll be able to meet again, to love each other peacefully. But for now, I bid you farewell and leave you this letter as a last kiss filled with tears and hopes."
"Your words still echo in my mind as I try to write my own. Itās over now. Itās all over. You drew a line on me, and that line runs right through the center of my heart. Our storyās over. Itās over for me. I want to write that Iām angry with you, that I hate you, that I wish you nothing but sadness and suffering, but my bitter, wounded heart would do the talking. The angerās gone, all thatās left is a great emptiness, so farewell, as you have decided. I take with me everything you left me: memories, kisses, photos, a ring, and a bouquet. I still believe that one day Iāll think of you without sadness, without resentment, just with the happiness of having been in your life one day."
"So this is the end. I wouldnāt go so far as to say itās good news, although... I guess Iām someone who likes her little habits because itās obviously the only thing that kept me by your side. Youāre selfish, youāre passive and when youāre not in a bad mood, youāre simply asleep. Iām almost surprised that you managed to find the time to break up with me, seeing as this relationship seemed to be the last of your priorities. Iāve always been there for you, Iāve supported you, accompanied you, and Iāve only had reproaches or indifference in return. My love suffered, and I think it died without me even paying attention. So now that you want to leave too, you wonāt do it without finding out that I donāt mind. Iād be almost relieved if I wasnāt so sad to have to leave you the linen sheets, which you keep reminding me you paid for. So I wish you well. Solitude is the partner that suits you best, such is your navel-gazing, but your narcissistic need for recognition will undoubtedly lead you to some other poor soul, who youāll be able to manipulate for a while, as you were able to do with me all those years ago. Iām not kissing you, Iām already running towards another life."
"Itās over, Iām getting on that plane, taking off, leaving us saying farewell. No more Thursday coffees, no more endless lunches, no more calls from the car just to say, "Iāll be there in 10 minutes". My lifeās no longer being played out here, but that doesnāt mean itās being played out without you, just away from you. There will be other moments exchanged, other moments shared, but less often, perhaps more intensely. Even if the distance between us grows, the love remains, expanding and stretching. As long as we have that, our goodbyes will never be final."
"Losing you was probably the hardest thing Iāve ever had to go through. Under normal circumstances, I would have come and found you, sought your advice, and drawn strength from you. You would have inspired me and given me new impetus, but now all I have to go on is the memory of you. No one will ever be able to replace you, and your absence now leaves an indelible mark on my heart, a symbol of what you once were. So Iāll cherish this deep wound to keep you in my heart forever. Iāll miss you, I already do. Life away from you loses its meaning, it feels empty and unfair, but Iāll keep on living it, even as I hobble along, even as I carry my heart heavy with grief, because, despite everything, the spark that you breathed into everything continues to shine within me āØ. "
Some letters are best written for yourself, to heal or let off steam, as a form of therapeutic writing, or if youāre in a toxic relationship, for example. Otherwise, just like a love letter, a farewell letter, whether you want to give or send it, should be written from the heart and without resentment. Write it when your emotions have calmed down, when the storm has passed. Be natural and clear, donāt try to write in a style thatās not your own.
Talk about yourself and your feelings, personalize your letter, be sincere, and donāt give false hope. Donāt be cruel or disrespectful, either. A letter stays with you, so avoid writing things you might regret. Finally, if possible, end your letter with a positive sentence.
The end of a love affair is often the beginning of a difficult period with a mixture of sadness, anger, bitterness, and regret. A farewell letter is a good way to soothe the heart and bring closure to a relationship.
Editorās note: Writing a letter, a symbolic actPsychologists are unanimous on the subject of letters: they have immense therapeutic power, in addition to their ability to create a bond or comfort. Taking the time to put down on paper what youāre feeling, and what youāre experiencing, saves a lot of time when youāre in a delicate situation or dealing with strong emotions. Note that itās important to make the effort to write this letter by hand so that it has more impact. If you donāt feel any better having put your problems down on paper, donāt hesitate to contact a psychologist so that you can take stock together. š¤ Understanding yourself, accepting yourself, being happy... Itās here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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