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Increasingly outlandish sexual tendencies
What, youâve never tried rainbow kissing and candaulism? Wow, you must have a very boring sex life...
Yes, Iâm caricaturing Janine (sorry if thatâs your name, by the way đ€ ), but itâs crazy how judgmental people can be about our sex lives. Today, I feel like you have to perform, almost theatrically, to prove you have a fulfilling sex life. There are even sexual trends. Before, you had to have done all the positions of the Kama Sutra outside the marital bed, now you have to try out BDSM and all the other practices...
So Iâm not saying you shouldnât try new things, hey âïž. Exploring new sex games can be a great way to break the routine and get your sex drive back. However, you shouldnât do it because of pressure, either from your partner or from your desire to prove that youâre âhotâ.
Nothing to prove about your sexuality
Today, itâs simple, weâre judged on everything. Quantity triumphs at the expense of quality, weâre hyper-consumers and this is reflected in our sex lives đ„Ž!
For example, when I was at college and through discussions with my friends at the time, I had the impression that we had to have a load of âone-night standsâ to have stories to tell. Through that, you had to show how desirable you were and that you had a wild sex life... |
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Thereâs nothing wrong with sleeping with lots of men, and no slut shaming from me, because I did it đŹ. Nevertheless, itâs always worth asking yourself the right questions: Whatâs behind it? Is it genuinely for our pleasure, or is it to reflect an image of a crazy sex life? In short, questioning our practices allows us to take a step back and ask ourselves why we need to do them.
Putting pleasure back at the center
Whatâs important when we make love? Pleasure. Of course, we mustnât forget consent, among other things. However, pleasure should be the rhythm of our sexual practices and not the need to show that we have an insane sex life. If before we werenât supposed to talk about sex because it was taboo, now we almost set goals for ourselves, to the detriment of our true desire đȘ.
So letâs set the record straight âȘ! What I mean by this is that we need to learn to free ourselves from the parasitic thoughts conveyed by society that have crept into our heads. We already have the pressure to perform in bed, so letâs not add the need to prove we have an exciting sex life.
Not in the mood for bondage? You have the right to say that it doesnât appeal to you. Itâs those who judge that are in the wrongâŠ
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đ How do you escape this pressure to have an insane life? By taking the time to listen to yourself and only be dictated by your deepest desires. This is actually what slow sex does, to go against the trends. Whatâs really crazy is to just enjoy yourself, far from what others think đ€!
Editorâs note: My pleasure above all!We donât care if weâre not trendy or if we are, what counts is our pleasure, so donât let the pressure get to you! Try new practices if you feel like it, or if you donât feel like it, just say no! The most important thing is you, what are your desires? Your wishes? What do you need? A fulfilled sex life is important, if youâre having difficulties, questions, or doubts, donât hesitate to make an appointment with a sexologist. đ€ Understanding yourself, accepting yourself, being happy... Itâs here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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