Fear Of Death: It’s Part Of Life... How Can We Tame It?

Firstly, let’s not forget that the fear of death is healthy and legitimate, but when it becomes pathological, it’s not the same story. It can take the form of anxiety or panic attacks, but also phobia or hypochondria. For some people, the fear of death can even prevent them from living. There are ways of putting this anxiety into perspective. We’ll tell you more.

Why am I scared of death?

Fear is a natural reaction to the unknown and death is one of the greatest unknowns we have. To fully understand fear and know how to manage it, it’s always interesting to go back to its origins.

1. Origins in childhood

Fear of death often goes back to childhood. It’s around the age of 7 that the idea of death becomes very active in children, that many questions can arise, and it’s with the arrival of this preoccupation that the fear of death can manifest itself.

2. Coping with the death of a loved one

The death of a loved one is also a trigger for realizing that you too can die at any time, just like the people you love. This sudden realization can even lead to depression. 👉 Read; What are the stages of grief?

3. Leaving your loved ones

Wanting to stay alive for those who need us is a very common concern, but you may have a feeling of incompleteness, or of betraying your loved ones by leaving them. For you, dying in peace is when everything has been said and reunited, and if that’s not the case... Your anxiety grows. You’ll therefore avoid any risky situations likely to cause your premature death, such as getting into a car, onto a plane or onto a boat.

4. Fear of suffering

You don’t want to experience that passage between life and death when you can say “I’m dying”. You’d rather die in your sleep without knowing anything, or have a brutal heart attack, than slow agony that leaves you time to think.

Thinking about death from time to time isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it allows you to remember the importance of life, of this precious side of existence.

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3 tips to ease your fear of death

1. Set yourself positive goals

On a day-to-day basis, set yourself goals that bring you fulfillment, such as success in your job, going on nice trips, or simply being happy in your relationship or as a family. Enjoy the satisfaction of making something of your life and avoid the feeling of leaving “empty-handed”. It’s important to focus on the present. We can’t control what will happen tomorrow, but we can decide how to live our lives today.

2. Become aware of your role

The aim here is to become aware of “what you’re useful for”, you’re part of a transmission, of what you’re creating with your loved ones and those around you. Be aware that death is part of life; it’s an infinite loop, and you need to accept that.

3. Face your fear

Coming to terms with your fears and anxieties is also a long-term process in stages. Don’t hesitate to read the obituary pages of a newspaper, then write the sentence “I’m going to die” in black and white. You’ll realize that you’re not dead once you’ve written it. Go to a cemetery and stop in front of the graves. This is also a great step towards taming the place and therefore your phobia.

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