3 Steps To Help You Emotionally Detox And Control Your Feelings

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Emotional detoxing is a method that allows you to accept your emotions whilst simultaneously taking care of yourself. We know what you’re thinking, not another detox! Well, in fact, yes, but this one will give you the keys and techniques you need to successfully calm yourself down and gain clarity of mind without burying your feelings. This sounds pretty good to us, what about you?

3 Steps To Help You Emotionally Detox And Control Your Feelings
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The link between bodily symptoms and emotional knots clearly exists and can really get us down. This is why coaches often suggest and evoke rituals based on diet, fasting or exhilarating exercises to decongest organs affected by resentment or anger in order to clarify the mind. And guess what?! It works! Emotional detox is all the rage among Hollywood stars, including Gwyneth Paltrow, Anne Hathaway, and Penélope Cruz.

3 Steps to follow for a successful emotional detox - Unlock repressed emotions

1. Taking responsibility and managing my emotional waste

When something negative happens to us, we always keep a record of it. This negative residual energy can end up being toxic in the long run. To avoid accumulation, it is good to take responsibility and accept circumstances. There is no need to filter out anger, resentment, or jealousy. In fact, we can let our emotions express themselves, but we must also take into account our responsibility in a given situation. For example, we can be angry with our partner because he didn’t listen to what you said, but in that case, don't you have a share of responsibility in this situation? We have to learn to take ownership of the fault, without being self-flagellating, either.

2. A clean body for a clean mind

We’re now onto the cleansing phase, starting with the body because emotions produce residues that accumulate in our body. Our coaches propose a five-day cure of "intentional desaturation". This is a diet based on animal proteins (fish, especially sardines), vegetables, fruits (red apples), whole grain rice and lemon infusion. Here, dairy products and sugar are banned.

Then comes the time to cleanse one's mind, and then it's off with your favorite pen and notebook you go. This ritual will help our minds get rid of the accumulated negative energy. How do we go about it? It's simple, write down your thoughts in pencil on a piece of paper without stopping for 12 minutes, then burn the paper without proofreading. This is a symbolic gesture that allows you to get rid of your emotional waste and enjoy the benefits of written expression on emotional health. It should be noted that it has to be repeated every day for 5 days.

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Writing is often the best way to clear the mind by removing emotional waste.

3. Accept your suffering and give it meaning

Beware of toxic positivity! Achieving clarity of mind doesn't mean having to be happy all the time and denying negative emotions. Quite the contrary, we must accept joy as well as suffering because both can help us learn and progress. To give meaning to your suffering, it is necessary to improve one's self-esteem and to feel strong and optimistic about taking control of situations. To do this, you must tell yourself that you are in control and make the decisions. You are the only one who can give meaning and importance to a person or an event. 

Here, another writing exercise could be useful, so why not take a sheet of paper and divide it in half lengthwise. Draw two columns on the bottom. On the right, write "judgment", on the left "benevolent interpretations". In the upper part, write about a particular situation that makes you suffer. Then list the judgments that come to mind about the event in question. Rewrite them in the column "benevolent interpretations" with more sincerity and love. This exercise allows you to take stock of the event in order to question the event and see how far you've come since then.

What does bottling up your emotions do?

Repressing your emotions is a very unhealthy move to make. Whether you are bottling up your anger, sadness, or your rage, by deciding not to evacuate your emotions, you are inflicting physical pain and stress on your body. By keeping everything inside, your body becomes anxious, worried, and stressed. Plus, in some cases, the inability to liberate your emotions also has negative impacts on your blood pressure, as well as your self-esteem. In short, carrying around the weight of your emotions on your shoulders will only make you feel worse, and therefore plunge you into an intolerable cycle, in which you are being held prisoner.

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Editor's note - When I feel good, I'm doing well

Filling up on positive energy is also a good way to manage your emotions. The best way to do this is to make time for yourself. It may seem silly, but the little things you do for yourself are a good way to concentrate and focus on yourself. As a result, you fill up with positive and restorative energy that allows you to better accept your emotions and appreciate relationships with others.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!

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