Advice On How To Get Through Lockdown With Your Partner

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"Come and spend lockdown with me" is the ultimate declaration of love of the moment. We're living through unprecedented times that are certainly putting all of us to the test, but even more so when it comes to our relationships with our partners and kids. Spending time with my loved ones makes me happy, but being together 24/7 is a big ask... Taking a step back, communicating, supporting and distracting myself will be necessary for me to get through this without losing my mind... Discover my 7 tips on how to overcome this difficult period; who knows you might even emerge stronger than ever!

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"Being close can at times mean keeping your distance."  

7 tips to survive isolation if you live with your partner or family

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1. Wake up at the same time

Getting up at the same time is enough to create a general surge of motivation! The kids on the other hand can be left sleeping, however as a couple, it’s important to move at the same pace and keep your bearings. Psychologically, there is nothing worse than going to work while one half is snoring.

2. Work on your communication skills

Living together 24/7 is something we’ve no doubt already done but perhaps only on vacation. I’m using this experience as an opportunity to learn how to express myself whilst being in total control of my emotions. Thanks to non-violent communication, I’ll be able to make my needs understood without getting frustrated.

3. Take time out when the tension mounts

There are of course times when being in each other’s constant company gets too much and we need to evacuate our emotions. The key to successfully doing this is taking time apart in separate rooms to blow off some steam.

4. Each of you must create their own space

To work from home effectively, or simply to find myself, I need a space all to myself. Even though we are social beings, let's face it, we all need to enjoy our solitude sometimes. Whether it's done in a natural way, "Here, Mommy's going to read for an hour in her room," or planned, "2:00 p.m., break time, everyone to your stations," we all need to be able to create that balance.

5. Don't mix work and family life

Those who work with their partner will confirm it, what happens at home stays at home... Okay, but in this case, everything happens at home. So, it's important to separate work and family life. For example, I don't blame my partner for not emptying the dishwasher during his coffee break.

6. Try to be innovative and creative when planning activities

Changing your mind is important in times of crisis. I take advantage of the time I have at home to spice up my daily life. Cooking with the family, DIY, sports at home... How about doing activities that have never been done before? Enough to lead to good laughs, distract us and bring us closer together.

7. Be grateful and remember how lucky you really are

While I am thinking about how not to get too involved with my spouse or children, others are alone cooped up between four walls. I have a great support system and know that if I am depressed, I will be supported. I won't end up talking to myself. If my mood drops, someone will be there to give me a boost.

Editor's note – ‘I’m getting to know my family all over again!’

Even though they are usually the first and last people I see during the day, my family aren’t the people I spend most of my time with. Everyday life doesn’t always allow us to be attentive to the people around us.

Confined, I was able to see my partner in a different light. To see him serious and involved when he works. As for my children, they are surprised to discover that I am resourceful and patient.

At the end of the day, being together means seeing each other naturally, in all our states, it's real teamwork, which will definitely bond us together.

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