I’ve had a crush on someone at work before. Honestly, if I hadn’t found out later that he was in a relationship, I’d have gone all out to seduce him. Except that we all know the “No sex at work” rule, which means that it’s a bad idea to sleep with a colleague, or worse, your boss! Is it really that dangerous a game? What do you risk if you’re caught in the act? I’ll explain it all to you (yes, I did my homework before going for it)!
In many people’s minds, love and work are incompatible, it would be like trying to mix oil and water 😬. Yes, some managers and superiors already see being on first-name terms at work as something negative, so imagine what a sexual or romantic relationship would be like! But why is this badly perceived? For the company, love at work is the best way to disrupt employee productivity. It’s true that whether everything’s going well or not, our attention will be turned to this matter rather than to our daily tasks 🙃...
Except that we spend an average of 7 to 8 hours a day working, 5 days a week 🤯. This is a far cry from the 8-hour week, which would theoretically be good for our mental health. In short, we spend most of our time at work, so it’s not surprising we have crushes on a colleague or even our boss.
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Not so impossible According to a 2018 Ipsos survey, 14% of married couples have formed in the workplace! When it comes to sex, 35% of people have already had sex with someone in their work environment. Yes, who’d have thought? 🤫... |
👉 In terms of productivity, many psychologists, including Loïck Roche, author of the book “Cupid at Work”, agree that it’s a productivity booster and that it can be a source of creativity and extra motivation! And besides, it’s in the most innovative companies that there are the most intimate relationships... Coincidence? I don’t think so!
Well, it’s all well and good to say that we have the therapists on our side, but isn’t this boldness at work a dangerous game in the eyes of the law 👀? Although in the US, companies can ban relationships and apply sanctions.
⚠️ It can be a dangerous game if you decide to have sex in the workplace. Yes, if you get caught, you risk facing disciplinary action or even dismissal... Sure, it may be a great fantasy, but the downside can be harsh if you’re caught in the act.
Even if it’s tempting, avoid sex at your workplace!
Even worse, the employer may consider that we do our tasks badly because of this fling. For example: if we take a slightly longer lunch break to have lunch with our colleague, this could be sanctioned... If, on top of that, we have a toxic manager on our backs, there’s a good chance that he’ll take advantage of this excuse to make our lives even harder. So how do we make it right 😣?
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Crossing the line between professional and personal relationships is risky, but if it happens, following certain rules can reduce workplace drama and safeguard your career. Here are 10 key rules to keep in mind if you plan to get intimate with your superior:
The fewer people who know, the better. Office gossip spreads fast, and the news could impact both your work reputation and workplace dynamics.
Define your expectations early. Is it a fling, or are you both envisioning something serious? Ensure you're on the same page.
No inappropriate office behavior—stay professional during meetings, group projects, and interactions at work.
Avoid company email, Slack, or work phones for personal conversations. Digital traces can be a problem if your relationship sours.
If things end, how will you handle it? There's no guarantee of a happy ending, so prepare for potential awkwardness.
Never let your work slip because of personal matters. Maintain your credibility by staying focused and excelling in your role.
Consider how an employee-boss dynamic may affect workplace fairness and ethics. Could it create conflicts of interest?
Don’t expect or accept special treatment. Promotions or bonuses tied to personal relationships can fuel workplace resentment.
Some companies require employees to disclose workplace romances. If yours does, be proactive and handle it professionally.
If the relationship is affecting team morale, your career growth, or your happiness, reconsider the situation before it turns toxic.
By following these rules, you can minimize risks and navigate your office romance with intelligence—should you choose to go down this road. 😉
Work relationships come with emotions, excitement, and drama—but when a boss-employee relationship is thrown into the mix, things can get complicated quickly. Here are some major consequences to consider before jumping into bed with a superior.
Rumors spread easily. If your coworkers find out, you risk damaging your credibility and being treated differently.
Even if you earned a raise or promotion, others may assume it’s due to your relationship, leading to resentment among colleagues.
If the relationship ends badly, your job could be at risk. This is especially true if your boss decides that things have become too awkward.
Many businesses have strict policies against supervisor-subordinate relationships. Violating company policies could result in dismissal.
Before engaging in a workplace romance, weigh the risks carefully. Is the excitement worth the potential fallout? Only you can decide. 🤷♀️
Editor’s note: You only live once!Having a relationship with a colleague or your boss can be very thrilling and exciting, but as Lauren reminds us, be careful not to get caught. It’s up to you to take responsibility. If you feel like this is the love of your life, go for it, don’t think about it and listen to your heart, after all, you only live once. And then you’ll find a new job if it’s awkward. If your romantic situation is problematic, if the same patterns repeat themselves, make an appointment with a psychologist. Together you’ll understand where the pattern comes from and how to put in place new habits to be happier. 🤗 Understanding yourself, accepting yourself, being happy... It’s here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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